HEy what's up guys? My questions are about when/frequency of smiling.

I've read that an alpha trait is only smiling when you have something to smile about..in which case your smile acts as a reward.

I mean i'm not going to be conscious of every time i feel like smiling because that would just be stupid and i want to enjoy life, BUT.

Say on an approach at a party...should u approach WITH a teeth showing smile or a slight grin if any?

See a girl walking towards you ...smile or no?

I've read that and can feel that smiling is a sense of "wow i like you/need you/want you" and a definite sign of interest on YOUR part, which is why i'm confused on how "pua's" advise on going about it. If the goal is to have her show interest/attraction first, then i can't be smiling ear to ear showing her that she already has my interest right?

Basically...my question is with the inital approach in a club/girl walking towards you/opening up a girl in a classroom/mall/grocery store/warm approach...(you're introduced to a chick by a friend).

WHat do you guys think? thanks a lot for reading.

You don't want an ear to ear smile baring all your teeth. Unless your teeth are perfect, and that's a focal point to catch her attention. Otherwise, you want a slight smile. What I do is a slight confident grin with my mouth closed at first. Whether it's a girl in a club or a grocery store or departement store, gas station, wherever, doesn't matter. Once she returns the IOI, you give more of yourself. Start the convo, blah blah blah.

Funny you asked. I was walking into the local Circuit City last weekend and made EC w/ a HB9 red head, just my style. I was trying so hard to have good posture, not look away first (something I've always struggled with) that I forgot to smile. It was a pretty intense moment that I could tell she was feeling as well. And that's when things went to shit. Instead of approaching straight away, I went about browsing for what I came for. The next time I saw her, she was nervously glancing my direction, talking on her phone and hovering near some of the store employees. In that moment I realized that because I didn't smile and approach immediately I had thrown off a major stalker vibe and had completely busted what probably would have been a decent opening.

Lesson learned: smile on approach, but like all things, in moderation.

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^what he said.

definitely smile, it puts yourself in a positive mood and makes you come off like a normal person, not a stalker(lol). its better to have emotions than be emotionless.

sometimes i forget to smile, and my attitude goes downhill from there.

Omg, it really is the HARDEST thing in the world.

I've been trying to practice on my EC, and what happens is, I tend to catch the girl's attention, but then, thanks to old AFC reflexes, I just look away. It really is something you kinda have to practice at.

I think that smiling makes things a lot more comfortable for both you and her its also alot more inviting

People always tell me I have the same expression on my face. That I look like I would kill someone/fuck someone up, that I'm in the army, you get the idea. The other day I had a girl tell me something to that affect and then say I have a gerber baby smile. WTF? lol

Yeah man, i think i'm gonna try and stick with a (w/e the fucking confident/smirk is) feels like. Yeah EC is fucking tricky too man...i haven't figured it out yet either.

On the EC, just feel the girl out. Don't give a lot w/o breaking a simle or doing somethng to force her to break her state, but don't give in and be a wuss either by looking away prematurely.