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So there's a girl who I'm currently FWB with. We used to date seriously for about a year then broke up and went separate ways. During the time we dated she had a very high sex drive; we had sex 2-3 times a day. We recently started talking again and meet up here and there. We have sex maybe 25% of the time (where 90% of the time I'm trying to escalate and she doesn't reciprocate). The other 75% of the time I feel friendzoned.
Here's what a night looks like when we don't have sex: She comes to my place. We drink a few beers, I put on a movie, we cuddle in bed. I touch/kino her when cuddling. Like I slowly rub her inner thighs or her waist. When she's horny, she's really into it and we have good sex. But when she's not in the mood, what I'm doing doesn't turn her on and she asks me to keep my hands still. She's clearly there just for the movie/company and not for sex. I kiss her, she doesn't back away but doesn't ever do more than just a small peck on the lips (again, unless she's horny). If I try to escalate any further, she stops me.
I understand things/feelings changed from when we used to date but what would you do if you wanted to continue having a sexual relationship with someone but doing so makes you look desperate and horny. I am dating/having sex with other women (currently she's only seeing me) so please don't suggest that alone.
I've been in a similar situation before and if I was you, the next time she comes over seem real into her and talking to her, text one of your other girlfriends and have them call you. Take the call, make sure she can hear you laugh and enthusiastic about the call, have this girl sit there and wait while your on the phone for 10-15 minutes and then come back in. I would make a drink and then sit in a different chair than before you were took the call and then seem uninterested in her. If you're sleeping with the girl she has some type of feelings for you at some level and my bet is that she will definitely get jealous and then wonder "why did he not sit right beside me and sit over there".. You should do this on a time when you know she wants to hookup, and then when she says whats going on say "keep your hands to your self, Im not just a piece of meat". Let her know that shes not calling the shots, sometimes she dont want to hookup sometimes you dont want to..
Thats what I would do, yet Im still new to this whole scene..