So it's 5 am in the library , finals week . I see a cute girl siting on a desk with wet hair ( it was raining outside ) . I spoke to her and offered my jacket . she took it but didn't wear it . After like 30 min I pass by and notice she's asleep so i put my jacket ( already next to her ) on her shoulders . Afterwards when I notice she had woken up , I offered her a nap in my car ( without me so she wouldn't get the wrong ideas ) .After that she starts excusing herself , repeadetly and next thing you know one guy ( I fortunately already knew ) isolates me and tells me I am scaring her . Another guy comes over and gives me back the jacket .
I know that I should forget about her and there are plenty of fish in the sea ... I know guys , I know . But what I don't understand is what went so wrong with my approach . What's the procedure of dealing with shy girls ... I know I come off to strong but what could I have done to seduce within soo litlle time . I know shy girls need time but aside from this is there a particular sure fire approach I can do with shy girls ?

What went wrong?

It's absolutely creepy.

Offering a random stranger a jacket is borderline creepy. Asking If she'd like to sleep in your car (no matter what your intentions were) is very creepy.

Be normal.

If I am sleeping places I am not supposed to sleep at and I look cold , I am coughing , my hair is all wet and someone decides to help me out . That person is a creep instead of a genuinely good person ? Fuck society ...

But you're not doing it because you're homeless, you're doing it to try to seduce her, this is so uncalibrated and creepy that you actually are scaring me with this whole view that you think this is social acceptable and makes me think that you have autism/aspegers.

People give homeless money, but I have yet to see them give their jacket and and invitation to sleep in your car you creepy fucker

You need to wake the fuck up and perhaps meet some other people. This solo thing is only making you worse because you have no reference experience

*shudder down my spine*

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The bolded part is the creepiest imo.

"Shh, let it happen. No tears, just dreams"

Fucks sake OP.

If you can't understand on your own why this is creepy as fuck I honestly don't even..

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Disagree, you should bold the entire post

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I have a friend who told me I should have a creepmeter in my pocket that vibrates when I cross the line . Unfortunately I don't have it . How can I juge if what I am doing is considered creepy or not .How does one calibrate ?

If your friend told you that then it's a bigger problem than just this one incident.

I don't even know how to answer this... Think of what a normal person would do (or wouldn't do)?

"NORMAL" is key...

You won't be good at this until you can act normal.

Any suggestions ? Her friend who confronted me , told me later on that he got what I meant and I am being way too direct and I should really not think about it that much . He said the girl I spoke to is just way too innocent ( whatever that means ) .

Are you looking for IOIs when you approach these girls? Are they aware of your existence before you pop up?

Serious question - as these are real cold approaches - and you can't just be overtly creepy/weird/not normal with someone who doesn't even show interest in you.

If they're not attracted to you to begin with and you're pretty much forcing yourself on them, then of course it's not going to go well.

Try some warm approaches, but ACT NORMAL.

Lol.

I hereby declare the Creep-O-Meter as a thing in the PUA Community.

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Well it was genuinely a cold approach , I am giving you the creepiest details of the conversation so you understand what went wrong but I had her complete attention , there was kino , and there was eye contact . She gave me her name , what she studies , what brought her to the school , where she's from ....I was pretty surprised to hear I creeped her out considering I had already cold aproached a girl a day before and we're curently texting . You'd think after all this time things like this wouldn't happen . Btw saying act normal to someone is like saying to a dumb person to act smart .... it isn't as easy as it sounds to pull of .

It's not really a cold approach if she is frigging unconscious. She has just woken up to some creep's coat over her. If this was happen to you, would you feel creeped out?

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And how would you suggest describing NORMAL?

If all the noobs on this forum acted in a non-socially-awkward/retarded way 50% of the time they wouldn't have a problem.

I think it's largely a social problem. I don't know if you're just not good with people or just really bad at reading body language or social queues, but clearly you're missing something.

You're dreaming if you think I (or anyone) could get more accurate than that without actually seeing you in the field - where it's my bet you're not ACTING NORMAL and the only feedback you'd be likely to get is 'creepy'.