I've been dating this gel for four months an we've been spending all our time together with I know is a bad idea from the start but it's fallen into that. I want to create space between us but I'm trying to come up with a way to do it delicately. I've been staying the night at her house steady for about two months now and she lives with her mom. now I go out and do things when I have plans but always end up there for the night to sleep. I live with my mom as well but haven't slept there in two months. now I love spending time with her and like her a lot but I feel like if I continue like this things will get stale. it's already to the point where when I come over she isn't really excited to see me and gets grumpy when I do end up over there late so it seems things are on their way to getting stale. I'm wondering what I should do to create space that'd charge things up.

thanks in advance for any advice

See her less, stay at your house, go to the gym, work on some business projects, hang out with mates and chase more girls...

Seems like a pretty simple solution to me...

It's okay going to sleep alone, you're not going to die. Also, I detect that you're perhaps insecure about you and her. Perhaps you're paranoid that she might 'Cheat' on you if you're not in her face 25 hours a day, 8 days a week...I could be wrong about that though, I just sense it with my PUA powers, otherwise you would of created distance already by simply not seeing her.

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where did you get the trust issue idea from? just curious. and yea that'd be the course of action one would take, that's obvious. my question was more how should I go about it to spark a change between us to fire things up. for instance, should I give a reason why I'm not gonna make it over, give no reason, tell her I think we spend too much time together, pretend I'm not interested, or any other way of putting a flavor to the action. basically what would one think is the most seductive way to create space. creating space is a no brainer, let's see what the community can best come up with.

Your problem is that she has no uncertainty with you. At the end of the day you always come home to her. Since she has that, she's not as appreciative. She doesn't see you as special as you used to be. Now you want to spark change. Have you ever seen how a spark is formed? It is done quickly by a harsh action.

Stop sleeping at her house. The first night...just go home. Don't explain anything. In fact, turn off your phone and grab a good night of sleep. Let her experience uncertainty. Let her wonder where you are and what you're doing. Don't be apologetic about any part of it.

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Perhaps, tell her you would like quality time together instead of quantity. Sounds like you could do with some alone time since she is a little grumpy and you're feeling like a caged bird. I really don't get how you haven't tried this already with her. Also, her mum is very tolerable, i'm surprised you're not be charged rent yet.

Talk to her like an adult. Tell her you feel a little suffocation and some distance could make you miss each other more.

The reason why i thought about the cheating thing was because i don't think even happily married couples spend every second with each other like you both do. You should be a busy guy working on your stuff instead of watching Game of thrones every night and burning the candle from both ends.

Edit - think jackzero and i are on the same page and his has done a better job at explaining than i could.

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thanks jackzero, that actually doesn't sound like a bad plan. I wanted to do something like this but was unsure because I'm a real transparent and up front dude so I was going to explain how I feel first. I've read the art of seduction and that's exactly the type of advice they give is to be cold all of a sudden for some ambiguous reason to hook women in closer. I'll have to try it out.




and first poster, I forgot your sn but no man your just being condescending. don't trouble yourself with posting in this thread

lol What the fuck?! i just answered sensibly and it's pretty the same as Jackzero's advice

Learn how to type you bell end faggot. Hope everything goes bad for you.

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condescending or no?? you come here to be validated my friend.

Elaborate with this accusation then? I spend half of my time helping you losers out. What have you done for this community?

You still haven't broke down my post to why it was different to Jack's

Tell your girlfriend, that is next to you right now that her boyfriend is a chode.

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OP...I think Dragula's and our biggest difference is the way we explain it. He's talking from your perspective and I'm talking from her perspective.

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you come here for validation, you started to research pickup for validation, and you game women for validation. also your condescending. your first post was condescending and I didn't validate you and you've become progressively more sad an condescending.

Passive aggression bro,

I research pick up for validation? What does that even mean? You came here because you got your loser ass dumped by your ugly ex girlfriend.

You haven't even scratched the surface of pick up and I have forgotten more than you know about this subject, theory and experience.

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hope you learn how not to be a weak, validation hungry, man somewhere along the way

At least make sense with your comeback, you tard

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Lol. I've read this thread 2x and still scratching my head. Either Dragula deleted some condescending statements or op is nuts. I'm sorry but can someone quote what the condescending stuff was? I see some very polite straightforward advice