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So for those of you who've been following my ups and downs with this girl Lioness, it all came together tonight.
It was weird, her friend started talking to me on MSN about something completely unrelated - clothes I believe it was. Anyway, Lioness comes online, and I wait for her to talk to me...nothing. I then talk to her, still nothing. Her friend is talking to her, but nothing's coming back to me.
This, combined with the fact that I know she spent the weekend in Leeds with some dude, all made me, to be honest, very paranoid and feeling very low.
So, against my better judgement, I rang her. No answer. Rang again, no answer again, left a voicemail, something along the lines of "Hey, it's me. I dunno what's wrong but I wanna talk."
I then sat thinking about that and felt it could have been the wrong thing to do, so I rang again, hoping to leave another voicemail explaining things from my p.o.v. as I knew I wouldn't get any sleep if I didn't get it off my chest.
However, she answered. And she wasn't pissed.
So I told her everything, I explained that I was aware I'd been clammy and coming across as needy and that it's very uncharacteristic for me to be like that. That I felt like a fool for putting her up on some pedestal and "idolising her", that honestly, i'm not usually like this with people and I can only assume it's her that's done it to me. She tells me i've done nothing wrong and she feels bad for "playing me to an extent", for not putting in as much effort as me, and for sending out mixed messages.
She explained, that as a student (2 years my junior, i'm 19), a lot of the time she goes out, makes out with people or whatever, and it's fun. She doesn't think anything of it, it's just a good night out. And usually it never seems to pan out into anything more serious than that. She said she usually gets with someone, sees them again, then gets weirded out as they want to see her again and again and then it fizzles out.
I told her that I didn't want to weird her out, I didn't want to pressurise her, but if she didn't see this going anywhere, then to tell me because I didn't want to waste my time pursuing something that is never going to happen. She said okay, but didn't tell me that it wasn't going anywhere.
She also said she wants to see me again soon, like this week. I told her that I hate the internet because it's so impersonal and that I have grown some hella big balls to call her and say all this on the phone but i'm glad I did, and she tells me she's glad I got it all off my chest.
I told her that I understand her situation as a student that she just doesn't have money, and that if we go out and I spend some money in order for that to happen, then that's fine. It's not because i'm trying to woo her with my money, but it's because I want to see her.
Similarly, I realise it's not fair for me to keep asking her to come to my neck of the woods or to meet me in central London as it's always her making the effort that way, and that I don't mind driving down to her neck of the woods if she wants me to.
I asked if we can put all this weirdness behind us now we know where we're at, and she said she wants to and she doesn't want me to apologise for anything.
So my questions are thus, guys:
What do I need to do now to ensure the smooth-running of the future? I'm obviously looking at turning this into a relationship, but i'm aware i'm probably going to have to take it slow. I'm hoping she'll make more of an effort now and it will be easier to talk more openly about things, but what do I need to do? How often to make contact, what to talk about, and how often to see her?
I'm really intrigued, as I feel this is the dawning of a new era.
Wilde x
Wow...I'm sorry but in my opinion, you have failed.
No offense of course
But you just said it yourself, you've done everything an AFC would do.
Again please don't get mad.
-You called her more then once in the same day.
-You said you would be willing to pay for dinner if you saw each other
-You apologized
I don't know. Maybe it's a special situation, but i do not think that she sees you has a possible dating mate anymore, just has a good friend.
Your going to have to pull some major game for her to start chasing you again.
Again, no offense.
CHAT
