| Sup guys, as your almost certainly not aware, I've been back on the forum a little bit recently because over the last few months I feel like my game has regressed recently, but the other night I feel like a took a massive step forward.
Essentially, I think my problem has been complacency; I've not been approaching enough and that's let AA rear its ugly head into my game again. Anyway I bought Gambler's book (the one you get from the link at the top of the site) and had a flick through. A lot of it if I'm being honest is pretty basic stuff for me, but one thing that raised my interest was the concept of forcing an IOI. If you are unfamiliar with this, essentially my interpretation is that when you make eye contact with a HB from a distance you have an instant reaction in order to get her to react, so you can gauge interest, meaning if you get a good one you don't have to go in totally cold. An example given in the book is raising a glass to her if you are in a club situation.
Likewise, I realised that during patches of form before, one constant factor had been that I had been doing 2-3 warm up sets a night. Recently I have not been doing that, so I decided to start again, immediately.
Anyway with these points in mind, me and a friend decided to hit a club. I was at the bar near the back of the dance floor, and looking around for potential warm up approaches. I caught a girls eye, and smiled and did one of those 'sup? reverse nods. She smiled and took a sip of her drink, so I thought 'I'm going over'.
I walked up and stopped a couple feet away from her. I made sure my body language was open the whole time, and said (normal volume) 'Hows it going? I'm Disco'. Obviously we were in a loud club and there was no way she could hear me, so her response of course was 'what?' and she leaned in as she said it to hear better. I lightly grasped the outside of her wrist with the top half of my fingers and pulled her in a couple of inches more. I leaned in and spoke in her ear 'I'm Disco, what's your name?'.
I leaned back out, but back to open body language and kept eye contact while she spoke to me. Did the same process a couple more times but leaning back a little less further away each time while the conversation progressed. We were just talking about general bullshit and I was doing my best to make her laugh, without going over the top or being too outrageous. Eventually, I lent in and told her she looked really nice tonight, this time leaning out really slowly and cutting the distance so we were near enough nose to nose for half a second. This time it was enough and she took the bait: k close... and a little bit later on a number close too.
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Turned out this girl lives in a different city, and I can't really be arsed pursuing it because of that, but thought fuck it, this is a good opportunity to run some no consequence text game.
She actually text me first, just the general 'was nice to meet you' bollocks. I replied along the same lines adding in that my hangover was unpleasant that morning. This carried on until we got to work on Monday morning, turns out she does beauty or some shit but mentioned she does massages too. Escalation opportunity on a plate. I crack a couple of jokes about how I could use a rub down, and asking if I'd get a happy ending (making it obvious I'm kidding around, and making a concious effort not to sound sleazy).
Must've gone down OK though, because next thing she was trying to feel me out if me and my friends were planning on getting a night out in her city any time soon. As I said, cannot be fucked with that, but all in all, I feel I've achieved a lot in a short space of time, and there's a lot more to come from me in my game for next time I'm out.
PEACE _________________ Be a realist; Demand the Impossible.
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