Hi there,

I'm a twenty-two year old guy from the Netherlands.
I'll just briefly describe my situation:

I've never been good at getting or even approaching girls, but it's been going better lately.
I've never had sex before, so that's why I'm here.
My first kiss was 3 months ago - with a girl I was in love with at the time.
She ended up sleeping with some guy I didn't even know, so I guess I dodged a bullet there.
Since I found out about her sleeping with him, I've been thinking "fuck it" and stop pursuing her, because to keep pursuing her would be kind of weak, and I don't like to consider myself as a weak person.
Since I found out I've also been going out and meeting other girls (with the thought of "who cares if I fail" in the back of my head)
So that first girl is kind of the reason why im here, because I thought she could really be something. That's why I finally snapped and went out to do something about my inability to seduce women.
Since that first kiss I've kissed 4 other girls in those three months, so it has been going okay.

The thing is that I still need quite alot of help, or at least someone or something to steer me in the right direction or guide me through the process.
The reason I'm not good with girls is because I overthink everything, and get anxious because of this.

I like to consider myself a pretty smart guy and a quick learner, the thing is just that I need to push myself over the edge to succeed with girls, and I dont like doing that because it makes me feel uncomfortable.

So to sum it up:
-New here
-22 year-old virgin (yes, I know, ridiculous, but that's why I'm here isn't it)
-Smart, quick learner, and eager to learn about the art of picking up women
-In need of quite alot of help but willing to push myself
-All help and/or advice is welcome

Let's make this the start of something wonderful.

Welcome Bro, a late start is better that a no start.

Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.
Hate to bust your bubble here, but if you desire to lean, you need reality.

The only bullet you dodged was facing your own fear, she fucked that guy only because you didn't.

Now; Go to the bar. Find a girl. Ask if she can cook. Tell her you have a guitar at home. Ask her if she wants to see it. Bring her home. Sleep with her. Tell her it's your birthday in the morning. Enjoy your made with lust breakfast.

Get going.

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Thanks man, appreciate the advice.

Not bursting any bubbles though, I know exactly what I did wrong.
I didn't take action because I was a pussy and that's why she fucked that other guy, you're absolutely right.
Not waiting for anything to be perfect, I just pussied out at the time.
What i meant by dodged a bullet was that I'm glad she slept with that other guy, because now I can go after other girls; which I thought would be impossible at the time.

I'm actually going clubbing this weekend with a few of my friends, ill try to post the results.
But thanks for the help man appreciate it

Cya

Can't remember if it's in my sig or not but I wrote a thread about the best material for new guys. If it's not there, search "Jason Capital" and it'll be one of the posts, or try "Dale Carnegie"

Welcome. I think you'll stick at it, because you'll fucking love the abundance of women you'll have once you get your shit sorted.

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.