Hi guys.

So, I will make it really quick and short. I had a GF for like 10months. Everything was amazing, until I had to admit what I was doing:

1)I would check her phone from time to time. Everytime I did it, it gave my great feelings, because I would see her as trustworthy. Until recently.

2)Some guy texted her, invited her to dinner(the friendship is like 10-15years and i'm sure that nothing was between them). The conversation thou was like a date invitation.

3)I had to admit that I checked her phone(how could I otherwise talk about it). I got rejected completly and was thrown out from bed. We went from love scale 10 to minus, because she could not handle that I checked her(I understand that)or was it just a excuse for leaving(because she is completly unreachable right now).

4)Her explaination is "he is just a friend"(pay atention to this please).

Her here I am asking you: a)she was about to cheat? b)or do people get really hurt, when they are checked like that?

If it's A, I will feel much better. If it's B I will sort it out.

So confused and I know i'm having issues. Please help me out.

It is always a BAD idea when you disrespect another person's privacy. What you don't know won't hurt you. Moreover, it is your job as a man to give your girlfriend the best fun that she can have with you as a lover.

If you can't provide her that because:

a) You're lazy.

b) You don't want to learn how to properly pleasure a woman.

c) You cannot fix the weak areas in your life so you can become a better man.

THEN, you deserve losing your girl.

Let her go and fix yourself first. When you don't feel the need to look at other people's phones anymore because you don't trust them, then you are ready for a healthy relationship.

Why make her your girlfriend when you cannot trust her in the very first place?

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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If you are going to go through a woman's phone/messages ect. Be prepared for what you find. I'm a hacker, I've been in the situation of seeing my own girlfriends heartbreaking betrayals and I've also had many men and women ask me to hack their significant other. I usually say the same thing, "If you are willing to snoop then you don't want to know"

Next time, do not bring it up, unless she is the type to leave her stuff open and says "Go ahead, I have nothing to hide"

One time I got away with it by saying "I could see your phone reflecting off of your glasses. You were messaging a guy right in front of me"

...but usually bringing it up is a bad idea.

If they get defensive it more often than not means something bad was going on but by womens logic, you will never know. She could now turn it into a date and say you made her do it by making a big deal out of it.

Next time DO NOT bring it up. Ever, period. Get her to. The best way would be to double book. Make plans for the same time and invite her. See if she lies about why she can't make it. Then you will know he isn't "just a friend" If she doesn't lie then you are now free to discuss her non/date openly and honestly.

I don't believe you, but don't do it on me to prove me wrong lol.

Also, OP, why are you entitled to experienced advice only? What are you giving to earn the best of the best?

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Hacking random people is nearly impossible and these days most sites redirect http: to https: which is secure. It's getting harder and harder to hack as time goes on. Anyway I shouldn't have called myself a hacker and instead referred to myself as a computer programmer. Now days I don't even bother, facebook has this system where it remembers the ip's of when you logged in and alerts the user of suspicious log ins. Many times I get in but the user is alerted and I'm back where I started within minutes. 5 plus years ago though I used to have a hayday when googling "facebook" would link to simple http:. Those were the days. Back then if I tried I had about a %25 of getting into an account.

Just never believe a person who says they can hack anything. No one is that good. Similarily don't believe a man who says he can get any woman

If you feel like you can’t trust them, the problem isn't them....it's YOU!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.