Thnx for the support fellas & great pic Dragula

Two days after she moved out, i have to admit i feel like shit. Needless to say i havent and wont try to contact her in any way but man it sure would be great to have her around right now. Fuck, I sound like a total pussy again while i should go FTNTG on this whole situation and probably will in the weekend.

Yup, throwing her ass out was probably the easiest part indeed.

Another update

So, 95% of you who read this will again think im trollin but its 100% true.

When i opened the door this morning to go to work my ex was sleeping in her car parked on the cdriveway (this is belgium so its pretty damn cold outside right now) and when i woke her up she said she couldnt be without me and that she wants us to get back together. I let her come in and warm up, made her tea and shit, she was all crying but i cant really say i felt anything regardless of her tears.

Ended up with me showing her out 20 mins later and going to work. She was like "what about us?" and i replied she made that decision when she decided to look for comfort with other men. Started explaining how she never fucked the guy etc etc and i was just like "ok whatever im late" and left her there.

Dont know how i feel about this but i think i did the right thing.

Good job.

Stay strong

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How old are you OP? and exactly how much do you have in common with this woman? (as in material goods)

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Age: 32

In common:
House, owned 50-50
2nd Car, owned 50-50
Mutual savings that an accountant or a lawyer is gonna have to split between us which is gonna be the shitty part. Money always is.

Well at least you're not married.

You'll be fine. Men are considered highly, highly attractive in theirs 30s. Not the same can be said for women.

Just keep in mind she's very aware that her prime has passed. Don't let your emotions cloud your thinking. Her desperation is largely influenced by her dependency on you. Don't take it all as "oh how much she loves me".

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Thnx RC.

Shes tried to contact me several time during the weekend, i was out partying all night and believe it or not managed to fuck a chick i was chatting up at the bar. I still got the playa in my blood (lol).

Im doubling my time at the gym and gonna try to make the best of it without her. I really appreciate everyones support, even those we troll stamped me

Peace!

The men who dogged you out are definitely the ones you should be most appreciative of. Guys like that help to give other men a dose of your reality, even when that reality is uncomfortable. In a round-about-way, it is the most sincerest form of concern you can get.

That aside, I definitely am proud of you. I certainly related to parts of your experience, which made me disturbed by your first inclination to try and work things out with her. Like what some other guy said, once a cheater, always a cheater. She sounded like a horrible partner to begin with. People and relationships have their ups and downs; the mark of a good partner is someone that is willing to stay loyal and faithful through the bad times and just not the good. The only reason she's trying to nestle her way back into your life is because she's realized that her best years are behind her as a woman, while you are just entering your prime as a man. Don't ever forget! I sincerely wish you the best.

-E.

I know I'm a bit late but I wanted to chime in here.

OP, I know how you feel. I was in a situation just like yours and pulled pretty much the same shit you did. 4 year relationship, lived with her, had plans to marry her the whole 9.

I knew something was up when I caught her going through my phone. There was some backshit beforehand that raised my alarm bells but that was it. I was already unhappy but when I caught her going through my phone I KNEW something was up. So I started digging. Sure enough, sexually charged conversation with her and an old fb. So I started getting my affairs in order, putting a few $$ away and getting ready to leave...but then he gets into an LTR with another girl. So I'm safe right? Wrong.

She pulls the we need to talk...after not having sex for 3 weeks. She doesn't think we can continue, I ask for a break and she obliges. I wait two weeks and in that time her cousin calls me up and says "We need to talk". Find out she's going to her hometown every weekend and seeing this guy she was chatting before we broke up. I confront her on it and tell her either she comes back to me and we work shit out or I'm done. She chose him.

14 months ago...to this day, she calls me and says we need to chat. Confesses to all. She was sleeping with him right after we broke up even when I asked and she said no. Denies cheating on me (even though I would have wagered my paycheck she did). Asks for a second chance. I was sleeping with someone at the time and wanted to see how things panned out. We were fucking just like we were starting out. New positions, blow jobs on demand, hate fucking, you name it. The sex was great. But, I eventually found the courage to leave and date the one I am with now. Why? She wouldn't try for the last 18 months of our relationship but now she was trying for the last 3. Then I found out she slept with 2 guys behind my back. Fuck that. I couldn't trust her and I had a good thing going on with the new one. She still calls me up from time to time wanting me back...it's really hard when you have a history, but it'll be worth it in the end.

Stay strong. Best of luck in whatever you do.

Uhm, OP. Do NOT over train. That's going to lower your testosterone. Proper rest intervals should be part of your training regimen. If you're losing your boners every morning, then you're probably over training. Watch out for the symptoms. If you have a hard on that won't quit, all is good.

A hard on is a sign of good health and women subconsciously choose healthy men.

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@reel2real
Your story frightened the shit out of me, why? Because i was close to taking her back based on the exact same things you wrote. After i caught her foolin around with this guy she indeed started to try extremely hard both in and out of the bed, new shit, hatefucking, she cooked food every day, cleaned the house, the whole shabang. I did indeed feel like "Ok, perhaps she is telling me the truth about not fucking anyone," perhaps she still is telling the truth but once the trusts is broken, fuck it. Her friends have tried to contact me as well going "Dude, she didn't fuck with the guy, i know who he is and im telling you she was just using him for comfort." As if that makes it any better. Like someone here said, once a cheater, always a cheater.

We now have a court date set on December 14th where we will have all our financial shit settled and thats it. I have motioned to keep the house since she said she didn't want it but even if we have to sell it, its worth it.

@Monsignor Crisanto
Thanks for the advice man! Right now i am on a 5 day a week schedule where im doing interval training one day, strength training the other and im on a 2 day rest, weekends. The soldier is standing in attention every morning so i guess im fine for now

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