I feel like I'm putting an ad on Craigslist . I'm Chris, 28 years old, from Delaware, OH. There was another younger guy that I had worked with, who always talked about "The Game". I saw Neil's book at the bookstore, had no idea what it was, but decided to buy it. I haven't been having the success with ladies that I did in high school and want to get my charm back.

Welcome man.

Have you been engaging women who you don't know? How many per week? What are their reactions?

The key is to speak with a lot of women and hone your "presentation" and your vibe until things start rolling.

For the past week I've been making an effort to talk to a new female every time I've gone out of the house. Every time I have been successful creating conversation. I don't anywhere other than work and the grocery store though. I'm working on my appearance (haircut, clothing) and what to talk about (how to keep a conversation going), I'm shy in person.

Good, you are taking action. That means you're doing more than the VAST majority of men who never do.

Now keep going out there and laying your vibe (not your heart) on the line with these girls. You're brightening their day by having a light little convo about stuff. Speak with her in the same manner you did with the girls you referred to from back in the day. Convince yourself that you know this girl who in actuality you just met.

For the ones where the vibe is good, cut the convo and take her # because you have somewhere to be. Or take her on an instant date (I never do this because I usually have somewhere to be).

Thanks for the positive attitude. I will keep trying to talk to females, and hone my game. I haven't had enough time to sit down and read as many posts as I'd like. I really appreciate that everyone here is a wingman in some sense. I think the content here is probably more helpful than any book, but I've still got to read them and learn everything. If anything ever happens in Ohio, or anyone is from Ohio, I'd love a wing.

Right on man and be sure to post up as you go along.

Don't get discouraged and quit like most guys do.

I went out to a bar tonight by a college on my way home... I didn't get the opportunity to dorm at a college. I just wanted to survey what I'd be getting myself into. I had a beer, while walking around and making eye contact with some of the ladies. I did not talk to anyone tonight though. Hopefully I will grow the balls to do so, after a few visits.

I went out tonight, 3 different bars, the first bar I walked right in and started talking to women by the bar. Shortly after I met their boyfriends, who were cool and talked to me for awhile about picking up girls at the bar. Well, one of the two tried to come up to me all hard like he was going to beat my ass... I called a bluff, meaning I didn't act submissive, like he was alpha, and kept acting like nothing happened. I ended up being cool with the two girls' men, who ended up trying to give me advice to game at a bar, because they missed out on it when they were younger... I left after a half hour, and went to a different bar, where I had virtually no interaction, there were only couples. At the third bar I approached a couple sets, I found a card on the floor and used it as an opener https://mail.aol.com/webmail/getPart?ui ... 12_735.jpg with two girls. It failed miserably, so I pocketed it. Other than that I just sat and people watched, I did talk to a guy and met his g/f, I did that so that I didn't look out of place, but all in all tonight failed. Hints, Tips, Suggestions..?

It's not a failure to go out there and put yourself out there. You learned a lot that will always serve you from now on. Much better than sitting at home.

When you're going through the week, you come across women. You can chat to them as well. Just talk to them, don't try to 'pick them up' just yet; don't be in the mind frame of trying to impress them; just talk, like you would talk to a buddy. You might be amazed that they are up for a chat.

Sounds like you're making an honest effort. and that's great man! some guys don't have the balls to do that. Here's a little tip when you get to the point of "what do i say?"...don't think about it. Remember that noone ever got laid because of a great opener. before your brain starts to make excuses, just jump in there and talk. say anything. say Hi, Hello, hey there, my dog has fleas, your shoes are too tight, anything. just get the convo started. and when you're talking, if you ever find yourself running out things to say then just start a sentence. your brain will finish it, even as a reflex. don't expect an outcome, just enjoy the conversation. when you're comfortable with the conversations, then learn to escalate further and further. you're doing great man, keep it up!

And also, never look at anything as a fail. everything is a win when in the right context. when you met the 2 bfs, you got advice and you stood your ground...that's awesome! you put yourself out there, and had a win. even if you didnt close a girl, you got a valuable lesson and that's what this is all about!

Have you read Tao of the Badass yet? I highly suggest it, it's a great read and will help you alot.

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