Hi,

I thought I would be as honest as I could with my title. I am Prince. I am 28 years old and recently divorced. I got married at the age of 20 to a girl with a kid who I lost my virginity to and I fell in love with and married. 6 and half years of marriage we end up separating and divorcing. Well that's a lie. She ends leaving my ass. I was pretty devastated and had a terrible case of one-itis. Probably the most severe. Stage 4 one-itis, I didn't think I would ever recover. After finding out that the former love of my life, had found a new man I wanted to make a change in myself. I wanted to become someone who would never have such AFC like thoughts about women and dating. And by accident I stumbled upon The Game. I was extremely intrigued about the idea of seduction. I am still only a third into the book, but I want to believe this world is true. That it is possible to accomplish such feats. So I turned to forums.I've always been bad with women. I didn't socialize very well on account of moving so much. Moving across county and different countries. When reading The Game I realized the writing by Style or Neil and the introductory portion of the book hit so close to home. Maybe with some of you too. Anyway, to wrap a long story short. I wanna be able to do this shit. To be able to be confident in myself and not have such over-romanized feelings about women that aren't based in any reality. If there's someone out there that can help guide me in some direction I would appreciate it. I've been told I am not that bad looking and I used to be an Actor, I am pretty good at being persuasive when I am not anxious or doubting everything about myself. i am very fucking good at giving speeches, interviews or anything using verbal skills (I said Fucking because it provides insight to the magnitude of greatness in my ability). But I am still an insecure piece of shit. My bad about the long post; I may have been drinking a bit.

Welcome to the forum! This happens a lot in the community bro and I hear it a lot. Getting into a LTR, especially with the first girl you've had sex with, and then separating can be a big psychological blow. You've haven't developed the abundance mentality yet because of your experience and it's not your fault. You made the right choice on staying with her out of love but many guys start getting complacent and comfortable and sometimes the girl may start looking for something else. It is possible to become great at this and start being with more beautiful women and feel amazing about yourself. It sounds like you have a lot of potential based on your communications skills. You just need to work on your inner game a bit and start taking massive action. I know a few inner game tactics and ways to start taking your game to the next level. I'll send you a PM.

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Way to be here now man thats a step in the right direction of trying to be successful with women. Have you been working on any approaches? Or are you comfortable around women? just looking for how to play the game a little better? We're glad to have you here on the forum another piece of our community haha. Thanks for sharing your background with us. We will do our best to help you get where you want to be with women if you first promise to put forth your best effort to become better with them. Try to do a lot of thinking while out in the field making approaches and determine what your root of insecurity is? this may help you overcome that feeling.

thanks WillEdward and SubNova. I really appreciate the words of encoruagement. I think I do need alot of work on inner game. Also my biggest issue, or sticking point, is approaching women. Having a reason to talk to them and be there. I am sometimes comfortable around women and sometimes not. If its an unfamilar setting like a cluba bit more nervous. Anything for someone beginning this journey would help. I think if I go 100 on this I could be quite good. But anything you or anyone has to offer I m game.

Yeah man no problem. I'm just getting started as well with the whole "game" aspect of it, however, have been having successful approaches most of my life without paying much attention. One of the best things I could say that I find helpful is before you're going to go out sarging one night. First talk with as many people naturally throughout the day as you can. While standing in line turn around and make small talk about something happening in the area, or just ask how their day is going. This will start up a conversation and help you get into the vibe of just letting go and communicating. Do this a few times in a day and have positive interactions and you will feel your confidence skyrocket. Then later in the club/bar use that confidence and just make a conversation with your lady of interest.

Yeah man I actually tried that as part of the newbie assignment. I only did it for 30 minutes but I felt it did make me more comfortable connecting with others. I worked at a hospital and we had to smile to everyone we met; so I've done something similar. I actually now smile and greet people randomly. Not even just women anyone. I've been trying to be more connected with people on a one-on-one basis. Which has been difficult to me under certain circumstances. But that’s only true for one or two maybe three people. In large groups, I am very comfortable. I did a lot of theatre so I am used to performing for 100's or people. What my sticking point is; I am afraid of starting to sarge by myself. I don't know any single guys who I can wing with but I am trying to work on that. But I just feel wired approaching women by myself. Also when I do meet women or approach a set; I feel like I would be able to start or open. It reminds me a lot of starting a scene. I can make up relevant stories on the spot (I am better at it when I rehearse) but I don't know what to do from there. I can implement a FTC and leave, but I feel like I would leave and not be able to figure if there is a connection or if she wants me to stay. I feel like I need work on understanding the process of PUA. I have been reading the game and have downloaded a plethora of PUA material. But I would like a concise step by step guide which will help me lay the foundation of my game. Like a scene in theatre, I do well if there is script that is well structured and leads somewhere; it has a beginning middle and end. I am confident in my abilities that I can go through that. But with out structure or a guide, I am a completely fucking inept. I have found through self discovery (and a complete psychological assessment in the spirt of working on inner-game) ; that I don't do well if I am emotional or enter in a situation which unstructured. Is there anything I should read specifically or can anyone point me in a direction where I can find the whole process of seduction. That's the way I learn best. I hope you 60+ viewers maybe able to offer some assistence?

Way to go man thats what its all about taking shit and putting it into action. A little update haven't been putting too much effort into gaming again lately, but I go out to the bars twice a week and talk with women all the time. Plus, all the women I talk to on a regular basis being a college student I am looking for two maybe three very special women whom believe in Polygamy. I won't point you in the direction of a seduction book man you don't need that. That last post see how much fire you had. That's what a women wants to see. Go ahead take a look at the book called "what is every body saying?" And I will say, read this book with discretion because it will open you up to a world hard to close the door.

Hey man. you might want to read "Models by Mark Manson" and start approaching as soon as you can.
You can take a start any time you want. Its never too late to be good at something. Don't let any limiting beliefs stop you. Best of luck.

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great job stumbling upon The Game, great book and i love the ending

i believe your interviewing skills can be a blessing or a curse. you dont want to be barraging her with questions but you do want her to invest into the conversation as much as possible.

approaching is super easy once you get the hang of it. just start off small with a goal in mind. give 5 simple compliments to women throughout the day on their clothing or hair or style. then move up from there

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I honestly haven't looked at this forum since a month after I posted. I actually had a jaw injury and wan't able to talk for a couple months. But I am healed and have been going out. I really appreciate the replies I got while I was away. That's really dope. I am definitely going to this advice and read and apply changes to my game. Thanks again, can't stress that shit enough.