hi guys, any quick advice please?. I have a first date with someone in an hour. I have been trying to nail her all summer. I don't care if I screw it up but I would like to nail her or at least kiss asap.

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Wow nice find Peb!

Good luck with that, OP!

Remember this thread?

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Let's change his name to 'Mr Hostile'

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Well, I wasnt going to write about it but it was honestly the worse date I have ever been on. It was so bad that I have only gotten about three hours sleep because of how dissapointing it was. I dont even know where to start. It was mostly my fault because I set myself up for it.

This is the first time that we ever met eachother in person, after about six months of talking online and we had not met up to that point, because she kept delaying it. Strike one. I should have just walked away after a week

Before we met she would not even give me her number so I had to use this annoying chat app to find her. Strike two. I should have just walked away.

So I arrived at the date and I introduced myself to the wrong person. She looked identical. At first I thought it was a joke and I thought she was trying to see if I was a player, and I was showing her pictures of this girl but she kept denying that it was her. So after ten minutes the girl that I was actually there to meet showed up with me sitting next to this other girl. Not a good start, but in hindsight I wish I stayed with the first girl because she had a much more relaxed vibe and much friendlier.

So I left with this girl I was there to meet, I didnt know my way around this area as well as her, so I just followed her. Bad on my part, ouch! While we were walking around i tried to keep the vibe light hearted and fun, by singing here and there. she kept telling me how guys from my country were so boring and that i have a chance to prove otherwise. It bothered me a bit from an energy standpoint. How do you react to that? Pick her up and swirl her around? Shout random words in the middle of the street? After walking around for about an hour we found a bar.

This is my mindset at this point.......all we have done in the last few months is talk, talk online. I didnt want to talk very much at this point. I wanted to look into her eyes, enjoy her feminine energy. We had already talked for about an hour while just trying to find somewhere. But now she starts to challenge me and I feel like im being dissected. She starts to go on about how fun and cool she is and how she is cool enough for both of us. She said that yes, im like every other boring guy in my country.i wanted to just walk away but I didnt want to be a coward. She shows off about how she gets involved with different surfer clubs, how she meets people all the time. My body started to sink abit because this didnt feel like a unique situation for her and that I could have been just about anyone.
Then she asks me what an average day is for me, what I usually do on a saturday. And Im not good at lying on the spot so I tell her and she compares how filled her day is by comparisson and that im lazy. And selling her lifestyle like im supposed to be really impressed by how active she is. Maybe its not, but I wouldnt want to change it just to get some chicks approval. At certain points it felt very much like she was doing a one man show and that I could have been just any other spectator and that I was supposed to feel privileged that she gave me some of her time.

I didnt expect to go on a date where im dissected and have to evaluate if my lifestyle is exciting enough. Now im thinking, she knew what I was like for six months why did she agree to come here? Six months of interaction is going straight down the drain.

So then she goes to get us both a drink......Im sitting with my back to the bar so I dont know whats going on but she is taking forever to get these drinks. When she comes back, she tells me that she has got the waiters phone number to set up a date with him. I got a rush of anger strike through me, I wanted to just get up and leave, but I try to just not let it get to me and stay positive. She gives flirty looks to every guy that gets her attention. I notice about her through this whole interaction that her eyes never stay in the same place and she never makes eye contact.

On the other hand she allowed me to give her alot of physical contact. I put my arms around her while we were walking and I touched her neck and the side of her face and caressed her thighs when we were at the table, and i got more adventurous after our date by touching her ass, she didnt give resistance but when I moved in for a kiss to the top of her head she pulled back and said that we wouldnt talk anymore if I try to kiss her again. I wanted to leave after that but our date was almost over anyway by that point.

And I got the dreaded peck on the side of the cheek to boot.
In a way it was a positive date in the sense that I can learn from it and improve. If my game was better, she wouldnt even have had to get the waiters number.

Now I dont know what to do, if im going to log into this website again because im not sure what it will be like if she is logged in. I almost stumbled into a second date with her tonight, because she misunderstood something I said and she said "maybe tommorow, I will see what im doing." Im not sure if I can handle her company again but I might get sex out of it. What should I do from here with her? What can I do to prevent this type of date from happening again?

She told you that she got the waiter's number to your face lol.

That would be the nail in the coffin to ditch. Another notch on the belt from a girl disrespecting me like that is not worth a bang. You still haven't banged and yet you're contemplating another meet?

Get some respect for yourself. Call people out on their shit. Stop chatting to girls for month and months and stop getting banned from shopping malls...

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thanks. it was horrible. I was pretty shaken up about it afterwards and I haven't slept hardly all night. there is advice like that, stop doing this, stop doing that. but its not going to help me from not being in that same situation again next time is it?

Why not?

Walk away as soon as a girl disrespects you. Couldn't get more simple than that?

There is a lot of anger and frustration behind your words. No doubt these girls feel this too. Not good.

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thanks. I don't know why I stayed there after that. possibly scarcity.

ughhh no advice at all.
I gave a lot of material that I would want to know how to respond next time. like when a girl makes you feel uncomfortable on a date by telling you that she thinks your boring and lazy. how do you respond to that?

What ?

If I called you a weird bell end, would you want to hang out with me?

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Dude there is so much shit wrong with this I don't even know where to start.

- 6 months of talking
- consistent signs of unreceptiveness
- shit test after shit test
- straight up disses
- toxic personality by the sound of it
- superiority complex at it's finest

I swear it's like some guys would do literally anything just to get their dicks wet. I honestly don't know at this point how it would be possible for you to become even more of a doormat.

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I actually think she kind of likes you. The reason she was saying all that stuff is because

WOMEN CAN FEEL YOUR INSECURITIES AND WILL POINT THEM OUT FOR YOU TO SEE AND IMPROVE.

Now they don't have the most eloquent way of saying it.

Instead of "You know, I feel that you allow people to disrespect you, you should work on that"

She will say, "I just got the waiters phone number, he's so hot..."

Get it?

I think that if you just got up and walked away without any words, you'd get a text from her in an hour
saying, "I'm sorry if I offended you with something, I hope you still want to see me"

When she said you are just like any other guy, your job wasn't to prove her wrong and be something
you're not.

Your job was to say, "Yea that's true. We actually have a club called "like any other guy" and we
meet every week to talk about how we can be more like every body else..."

Right?

She was TESTING you with everything she said. All you could do is get angry, insulted and feel bad
about yourself.

Wah Wah Wah...

Women will test you. They will throw jabs at you randomly, just to see how you'll respond.

And to you, being the cry baby that you are (look at the posts above, "man this is shit forum nobody
answers") she got you right below the ribs.

POW!

I would actually shake her hand, and say, "Great job. This guy needed it."

Instead of blaming her, take responsibility and stop acting like a little bitch.

Here are some specifics for what you can do:

1. Stop acting like a winy bitch when you don't get what you want. Take responsibility
and find a way to make it work.

2. When she tests you next time, with saying stuff like, "You're borring", instead of trying
harder to prove her wrong, say, "Yes, thank you for noticing. I try really hard at it..."

Remember the formula, when she says something insulting, say YES + ADD ON IT.

You're so weird. Yes, I actually graduated in weird school last year. Was top of the class.

3. This step is the most important one. Devote yourself to developing yourself into the most
interesting man a woman has ever met. Become a renaissance man. Fill up your life with great
things so you feel AWESOME.

Travel. Start a business. Do stupid shit. Sky dive. Do things that scare you AND excite you
at the same time.

That's it my man, hope this will stop your winy ass from crying on the forum anymore

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