hi guys, hope everything is fine. i need another perspective than mine.. maybe i am overseeing something.

backstory: i am dj and musicproducer and traveling quite alot. i knew this girl allready before i started seeing her and she knew me who i was. because alot of hear friends hitted on me before.

so, 2 months ago i had a gig in my hometown (which i live in) at a local club and saw her again. we talked and talked.. and then i took her to the backstagearea from the club and we continued. nothing happend sexual that night.

a day later she texted me that she really liked talking to me and felt that there was something special. the weird thing is.. i felt the same. but she also told me she had a boyfriend in that text. which i replied
"i understand, only that u know.. i am not going to be ur textingbuddy or something like that"
i just tried to be direct because i didnt and still want to lose my time with a girl who got a boyfriend and i am not sure where this is going..

since then we have beeing seeing each other almost every week 2/3 times.. we kissed, had sex at hers place. which she really liked.. and she told me she couldnt get hear head away about it and never had that feeling before. since we had sex for the first time she was hooked on me.. i let her chase mostly of time.. and i push it so much to the limit to the point she was desperately texting where this is going. i told her that i am interested in her...

everytime i went home after a date with her she texted me stuff like "ur the best thing that could happen the me " or " do u still like me " etc. really needy stuff. and i was always mirroring her .. but not in a needy way.

about her boyfriend : i know nothing .. she didnt even mention him once.

now to the problem : after having a great weekend with her.. we were still texting like always. and i didnt feel anything differently from her .. but then from nowhere.. she texted me before i left the country for my gigs last weekend

she:i am really confused.. and need to shut down a bit

me: okey, yess.. u same confused.. maybe u need to clean up ur mind again

this was last friday... since then, i ve heard nothing from her again. and i also didnt text or call her since then.. if she needs space to think, then she should go for it.


what do u guys think about the whole situation ? is she maybe playing now? thanks in advance.


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She ain't playing.

She's probably an emotional mess by the sounds of it.

Personally I don't like this type of women. They're mentally exhausting and frankly unsexy as fuck. Neediness is repelling for both genders in my opinion.

Anyway, what are you trying to get out of her?

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thanks for the reply r.c.

yess, it can be unsexy. but she never took it that far that i thought it was to much.

we ve been only two months in.. but i can really imagine starting a relationship with her.

do u think i should i better wait till she initiates contact again? i always have in my mind the she is waiting that i do the next step and kinda testing me.

Given her type, yeah. I agree.

I'd arrange a meetup and make my intention a bit clearer.

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okey. thanks man. really kind...

do u think i should wait more couple days or just go for it now? and how should i initiate the contact in case she isnt ready and still confused? thanks in advance.

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Whenever you're free dude. If you can meetup tomorrow talk to her today. Don't make it too far apart.

As far as initiating, just be fun and casual. Don't put unnecessary pressure on her.

As far as I'm concerned her "confusion" is due to you playing hard to get combines with her needy / insecure self. Throw her a bone, she'll take it. And if she doesn't there's no point in wasting any more time on her.

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okey. thanks man. ill go for it.

What's the one thing that is always mentioned in posts like this: if she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you. Proceed with caution.

That's an absolute bullshit statement.

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You want to start a relationship with a girl who's cheating on her current boyfriend? How do you think that will end for you?

Remember gentlemen: If she monkey-branches to you, she'll monkey-branch to the next guy too.

Those women shouldn't make it beyond the level of MLTR in your life--never a committed and exclusive relationship.

Christ, some of you guys give me migraines.

Date whoever the fuck you want. But if you think causation equals correlation you're being 1st class morons.

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