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Received IOI's from a girl (looking at me from distance or when I was passing by, several times), so I asked her out. We met at a pub. The beginning was not so good, I was a bit nervous and I think I acted like an AFC, because the conversation wasn't fun but a bit serious - default AFC question&answers talking e.g. Why do you chose to study there, where do you work etc. I tried to lighten up the mood and told her to sit next to me, but she didn't say anything and blushed. From my observations she was shy, because she didn't answer uncomfortable questions. After finishing a beer we went outside and just walked around the city. I offered to play pool but she didn't want to. While we were walking I tried to walk as close as possible, my arm 90% of time was touching hers, or her back, at the same time I was making banter talk and teased her. Several times she started to walk very fast, then I touched her back or arm, slightly pull and told not to rush while smiling, to which she didn't reply, and I couldn't tell if she liked when I touch her, however I continued to do it. At the end we were at the park, it was a nice place and I wanted to kiss close, but she was avoiding me. Whenever I was coming closer she walked to other place, pretending she was checking around the place. Then she said she wants to go home. I wanted to at least hug her, but she quickly walked away, just waving her hand. Now when I see her she pretends she doesn't see me, and avoids isolation with me, however I see her sometimes looking at me from distance, when she thinks I don't see her. I wrote her in fb after this, but she didn't reply. I can't figure out if she is very shy, or I creeped her out during the date. She wasn't that great looking, so I'm not disappointed. I want to know what did I do wrong, so that I don't make the same mistakes anymore.
My theory is I didn't build enough comfort and started kino too soon, but I don't know, I'm not a PUA yet.
Tl'dr. Went on a date, 90% of time was touching her, after date not responding.
Overdoing it is just as bad as not doing it.
You have to develop sort of a feel for these things. In the sense that if she's shy you need calibrate your "aggression" if you're willing to put up with that. At the same time if she's really outgoing you can escalate things much faster.
Right tool for the right job. Get it?
Anyway, you wrote, so let her reply. But she was definitely feeling uncomfortable.