Alright, does anyone know any mental tips on how I can cold approach women in a public setting without feeling embarrassed? Like for example, if I am in a grocery store, and there's people in line. There would be a lot of pressure at this point, because she's working, and there's people watching. I just get nervous because of the spotlight feeling. Thanks.

Hello man,


Thanks for posting this,you'r not the only one who has problems approaching strangers and trying to make a connection. If you'r going to talk to a stranger or anyone for that matter always make the conversation ABOUT THEM! people's favorite conversation topic..themselves.
So "mental tricks?" be observant and people with respond, If I'm trying to talk to one person I look right at them and speak clearly, if I'm in a group I usually look around and speak out loud, if anyone speaks back conversation has started.

I'de recommend a book its called "How to Win Friends and Influence People by dale carnegie" best book on this topic ever.

PS. You will get embarrassed no matter what, some people will sense you'r uncertainty and verbally strike you down. Don't let this stop you, I've talked to maybe 50 people since starting college and at least 30 of these people have been either indifferent to me or aggressive/rude. but at least 15 I now stop and talk to when I see and only about 5 have begun to start a friendship with me...its really a numbers game man. Just keep in mind rejection is just a tool we use for people that wouldn't get along together anyway, the people who accept you are the once you want to be around.


Hope this helps,
Sincerely,
Compass

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Just go approach the girls regardless of how you feel and don't stress about the outome. It's just practice and the girl is only a number, not your soulmate. Instead of trying to avoid emotional pain, submit to it and conquer your fears. Eventually the process will become fun.

Approach everyone. Old ladies, old men, dudes. You'll be warmed up and the pressure will be off. Over time, you'll just feel like it's normal, and the people who respond poorly you'll be like "wtf?" and your reaction will disarm them and make them look bad instead of you.

Try indirect in the 1st stages

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Or don't give a fuck about what others think of you.

You're there trying to make things happen while the rest of the guys in line are going home masturbating.

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