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 Post subject: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 12:06 pm 
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Basically these days I work in a corporate setting and don't have nearly as much time anymore to go out and sarge.

With Tinder I was hoping it would be an efficient tool to meet girls but I have had problems with it. I used it for a few days since Thursday and after many many swipe rights (i auto swipe right then screen for the girls i want to talk to) I have had only a few matches... only 2 matches where we have had human conversations (i.e. not a bot or sex worker).

I don't think I am a bad looking guy at all, in fact I am confident because I have had good experiences in dating outside of Tinder. I just think the whole ethnic minority thing on online dating may be held against me because girls can swipe left for anything...

So yeah, in the past few days I have had zero matches apart from bots and I its just making me feel a bit doubtful, is it the app or is it me? Surely people must get more matches than this? I was pretty close to a date with one girl but she flaked... I mean, its just bloody difficult.

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 12:15 pm 
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Basically these days I work in a corporate setting and don't have nearly as much time anymore to go out and sarge.

With Tinder I was hoping it would be an efficient tool to meet girls but I have had problems with it. I used it for a few days since Thursday and after many many swipe rights (i auto swipe right then screen for the girls i want to talk to) I have had only a few matches... only 2 matches where we have had human conversations (i.e. not a bot or sex worker).

I don't think I am a bad looking guy at all, in fact I am confident because I have had good experiences in dating outside of Tinder. I just think the whole ethnic minority thing on online dating may be held against me because girls can swipe left for anything...

So yeah, in the past few days I have had zero matches apart from bots and I its just making me feel a bit doubtful, is it the app or is it me? Surely people must get more matches than this? I was pretty close to a date with one girl but she flaked... I mean, its just bloody difficult.
No matches usually means your pics are not up to par

If you think online dating and racial ethnicity is a problem (i am white so I can't relate) then Tinder will be a waste of time unless you are swiping a girl from a similar background which is probably like 1 in 50 girls and even then ,your pics need to be up to par for that 50th girl.

If this ethnic problem was bad for me, I would niche down and find an online dating site that specifies it. For example, there are websites for Jewish people, there are websites for Muslims etc.

Send me a screen shot of your profile, i will give you brutal honest feedback

Alternatively, you can work on some goals to give you more time for real life infield. I hope you're not saying you're busy for the sake of it but are just in fact you feel safe behind the keyboard.

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 12:24 pm 
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Basically these days I work in a corporate setting and don't have nearly as much time anymore to go out and sarge.

With Tinder I was hoping it would be an efficient tool to meet girls but I have had problems with it. I used it for a few days since Thursday and after many many swipe rights (i auto swipe right then screen for the girls i want to talk to) I have had only a few matches... only 2 matches where we have had human conversations (i.e. not a bot or sex worker).

I don't think I am a bad looking guy at all, in fact I am confident because I have had good experiences in dating outside of Tinder. I just think the whole ethnic minority thing on online dating may be held against me because girls can swipe left for anything...

So yeah, in the past few days I have had zero matches apart from bots and I its just making me feel a bit doubtful, is it the app or is it me? Surely people must get more matches than this? I was pretty close to a date with one girl but she flaked... I mean, its just bloody difficult.
No matches usually means your pics are not up to par

If you think online dating and racial ethnicity is a problem (i am white so I can't relate) then Tinder will be a waste of time unless you are swiping a girl from a similar background which is probably like 1 in 50 girls and even then ,your pics need to be up to par for that 50th girl.

If this ethnic problem was bad for me, I would niche down and find an online dating site that specifies it. For example, there are websites for Jewish people, there are websites for Muslims etc.

Send me a screen shot of your profile, i will give you brutal honest feedback

Alternatively, you can work on some goals to give you more time for real life infield. I hope you're not saying you're busy for the sake of it but are just in fact you feel safe behind the keyboard.

I have 2 pics, one of face , one of physique with vest in the gym.

I find it difficult to get time to sarge, I am very tierd after work. But yeah, I will have to find time because Tinder is not a viable option. Too many flakes. And online, I think there is a racial penalty because girls don't feel as safe I would guess from random foreign looking men messaging them... there is always the security issue. I am also in a new city without friends (lol) here so I want to find people to go out and sarge with. I am pretty good when I am out just talking to girls.

But in the city I am in, Newcastle, there is a lot of racism on the nights (I am mixed Chinese). Although that is a mixed bag in itself, because on my first night there I had an insta-date with a seriously attractive blonde Irish girl. I find life a lot easier in London generally though.

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 12:44 pm 
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yeah London has everything except English people. Capital cities are ridiculous for Tinder.

The smaller cities like Manchester, Liverpool, Newcastle are more of a domestic ethnicity. I would put more effort into col approach if I were you. Also, join citysocialzing.com and start meeting people who are outside loners and develop a bit of a social circle.

Join up the the pick up scene in Newcastle, I am sure you will be welcome.

p.s. I predict your 2 pics are lame, my gut feeling, I am still thinking you should PM me.

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 3:13 pm 
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Tinder isn't as great as it used to be. Everyone gets less matches now.

A standford economist looked at tinder and did some caculations:
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According to this analysis a man of average attractiveness can only expect to be liked by slightly less than 1% of females (0.87%). This equates to 1 “like” for every 115 females. The good news is that if you are only getting liked by a few girls on Tinder you shouldn’t take it personally. You aren’t necessarily unattractive. You can be of above average attractiveness and still only get liked by a few percent of women on Tinder.
The full experiment and more details here: http://worst-online-dater.tumblr.com/po ... ss-you-are

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 4:01 pm 
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Go out and sarge. If you don't put in the work don't complain you aren't getting results.

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 4:10 pm 
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He pm'd me his pics.

All blurry selfie crap. Not Really put in any effort. But he understands

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 Post subject: Re: Tinder problems
PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2015 5:33 pm 
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If your lifestyle doesn't allow you to meet people, you need to do something to change that dude.

Quit your fucking job. Quit being a slave like that.

I'm guessing your "Tinder Time" is at work because you're there so much you can't go out.

Obviously you're not very productive at your job. So you should fucking quit and spend your time doing something that you like doing.

The fact that you're miserable and have no life is why girls aren't interested in you. They can see it in your face that you're a soul-less corporate fuck.

No disrespect. Don't get mad. Just keepin it real. :)


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