Hello everyone, I recently discovered this forum and this is my first post, I decided to post here to understand if my case is hopeless because my mind is my enemy.

So to start with I was introduced to the game and puas tactics by a friend in March or April. He's been doing this for a few years and he really feels comfortable doing it, not me. I was really excited when I started this, but like always my fear wins over everything else in my life.

Today I am at the point where I feel everything is pointless. I can make every scenario work in my head when I am by myself thinking, but the second I see a girl and say to myself go and talk to her, it'seems like a blank took over my mind,nothing else is there. I don'the understand all the reasons that made me like this, and I always have nothing to say when I want to talk to someone( maybe I have been conditioned for so long that I can't seem to be able to do anything).

Sometimes I wish I was still a beta playing video games and waiting for a girl to approach me ( I lost my virginity that way, the girl was very hot but depressed because of her BF, and saw in me a nice Virgin beta so she really wanted to be my first one). After that (it happened last year), I was only able to date one girl ( 2 dates only, I kissed her on the first date but then messed up on the second because I didn't know about the game.

I am feeling more depressed than ever, because I know about the game, I know that I look good enough ,even though I am short 5-5,5-6 but I learned how to live with that and I have been working out for almost 2 years so I am not the skinny ugly AFC looking. I know I look good enough to attract some girls attention, but my mind is my worst enemy which is making me feeling so bad from the inside. I am so scared of engaging strangers when I am by myself and I always feel like I will never be able to build attraction like pua's or real Alphas do. I am a full time student at a univeristy. Before joining the University I always thought it would so nice and all girls will be mine, but I never expected my mind to be my worst enemy.

I don't want to make this post any longer to not discourage you from reading it. The only thing i want to conclude with is that I can't seem to understand myself because when I am alone I am always thinking to approach girls l, and yet I never do it.

I hope someone else was like this and found a way to change. Because I will change, I will keep this post updated

I just finished my day on campus but I opened a 5~6 and got her number, maybe the testo released after the workout helped me a bit. I'm still struggling but I promise I will change

We are very imaginative creatures and are able to create comfortable simulations in our mind. But in order for anybody to grow and improve, you need to step outside of your comfort zone. There's no magic pill to make this go away. You just need to start taking action and approach. You can start off with "easier" openers like a functional opener and ask for directions and work your way up to, complimentary, situational and direct if you prefer.

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Used to feel literally suicidal after approaches. I sorted out my emotional problems at the same time as I did my girl problems (by seeing a doctor and therapist.) I suggest you do the same.

I found out that even though it takes some effort I can still open girls by themselves, but the hardest is to jump from a comment or little discussion to building attraction. I am able to use some kino if the conversation goes well, but sometimes I can't stop them from walking and I get very stressed, so I just laugh and let go miserably...
I also started the 30 days challenge of Neil Strauss yesterday.

By the way I wanted to thank you for your replies, it means a lot to me. I swore to myself that I will change l, and I will!

Are you doing daygame? Sometimes during daygame the girls will walk to test your resolve. I suggest you look at Sasha Daygame reopening if that's the case. If they do this in the club, your set is blown or you stayed too long without trying to move them. Can you give me more details?

Well I'm in my fourth year at a university, and my advice would be to stop focusing so much on getting laid. Especially at the beginning of college, I think it's best just to focus on making as many friends as possible, guys and girls, and expand your social circle. Then you can meet your friends' friend's without having to "cold approach" and it will all get a lot easier. Not saying you shouldn't try and cold approach if you want to, but a lot of the girls I have hooked up with I was introduced to, at least at first.

also alcohol helps....

If you are following 30 days challenge, I would recommend don't necessarily follow his methods to achieve your tasks. Just complete the tasks he has given on each day (e.g approach five strangers). His methods are not the best, specially when it comes to learning "magic tricks" and "cold reading". You don't wanna spend your time and effort learning these tricks at this time. That shouldn't be your primary goal.
You can learn them In the long run if you want when you've sorted out your problems though.

Also, I would recommend reading "Models by Mark Manson". Its a very great book for inner game. After reading this, I guarantee you will feel your thoughts changing regarding women.

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Really? that's so weird. Because everyone is so comfortable doing things they've just started out at. First time I ever played basketball I was almost recruited to join the NBA.
Oh you special snowflake you. You get approach anxiety like literally every-single-one else? Damn. Must be so hard for you.
Yeah. 1 girl and 1 date. Clearly something to wish for.
And ofcourse you fucked the second date up. It's only understandable. Because only guys who know about game, them and only them ever get laid.
Don't worry about it bro. Not everyone deserves to spread their genes. Survival of the fittest, you know how it is.
Finally something that doesn't scream defeatist.

Your sob story is pathetic OP. I mean you no offense by the way, the point of this forum is to help people out not put them down. But you needed some real talk, because you're being an absolute wimp.

Almost everyone goes through the same pains at first. You're just looking for excuses. You didn't fuck up because you had no knowledge of the game and your mind may be your enemy, but it's not to blame. Truth is, you suck. You and 95% of the other dudes out there. And that's fine.
What's important is whether you're gonna do something about it or not.

Before you can run you gotta be able to walk. And you will fall learning. The only way it's gonna happen is by putting your ass out there and allowing yourself to fail.

PS: Yes, read Models.

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