So I had approached a beautiful girl, she was with a dude next to her and I had starting conversation with her, after a quick chat it appeared that they are not together so I had started talking with her, I had take her aside (to hear her better ) and started the KINO escalation, she responded well, so I had tried to take her for a walk (too soon apparently) by telling her that I am hungry and asking her to join me for grabbing some food.

She told me that she is waiting for a freind so she would not join me but I can go grab food by myself..
I didn't know how to react to this shit test, I had tried to convince her to join me again, but I felt that it was a poor game, I wanted to stand behind my word and felt that I had lost my game, so I had left her there with her friends and went to grab some food.

Do you have any idea how to overcome the situation when you ask a girl to join you and she says that "you can go by yourself", it definitely means that she haven't caught in the net yet, but how can I continue the conversation from this rejection point?

THANKS!

That isn't even remotely a shit test.

You tried to turn it into an instadate and you failed. Good for you for the attempt.

Should have gotten the number - if you felt she was reacting positively to your advances...

"That's cool - why don't I get your number then and we can do it another time"

This.

At an inner game level observe your words: Words are powerful things. You view women as they have to be caught, you have to do something to get them, an actual action that you have to do so they will like you from what you said. How might things be different if you considered that it wasn't what you did, but rather who you are that attracted women?

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OK you are right, so lets remove the title "Shit Test", but still I had tried to escalate and going for instant date, by an excuse and she blow the excuse, I can still talk to her for more time get a better connection with her and try again later.

So, how would you react in this situation except then taking the phone number?

You had used an excuse for a quick date and she had refused to come with you, but you can still stand there and talk to her for more time, the only problem is that the excuse you came out with just forcing you to leave in order to make it look like it was honest.

I think it the same problem with other time constraints, you are saying that "you'll leave in 2 minutes / you are having just a quick question" and you are standing there and talking, it makes you look bad and as someone who's lying, isn't it?

In my mind I always thinks that the girl thinks "why he is not doing what he said he would (leaving after 2 min), did he lied to me?"

If I get you right behind the language barrier (I am not a native English speaker), you are saying that the right way to think about it is that girls are not reacting to my actions but they react to who I really am.

I think this is a danger thought, because with this way of thinking then if a girl rejects me I have nothing to do with it because it's not my game it just who I am.

While the way I look at it if a girl rejected me it means I have to improve myself and my game, so next time my actions would lead to a better chance with her.

What do you think?

You're really over complicating it.

If she says no to an instadate, but you feel there's some interest, get her number and do it another time.

That's it. There is no secret force working against you.

Yeah what Charles said...

Think about it and flip the roles....

If you had to get to a funeral in the next 30mins, and some sexy girl asked you to go for a coffee. You would have to decline wouldn't you.

You're still attracted to her though. If she asked for your number, you would give it to her, wouldn't you?

Girls have stuff going on in their lives, just because she won't go for a coffee with you doesn't always mean it's disinterest.

There has many instances where I have asked a girl to come home with me and she has declined. I suggested the phone number to stay in touch then met up with her a few days later for the date. There is no point in giving up when she declined Netflix and chill

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This is exactly what I am saying. And I understand this exactly. However rejection is part of the game. Might it be better to look at your results in terms of I took actions as a man and from there you don't need to judge them. "I approached a girl I liked because I manned up, that's who I am." VS. "She likes me so now I'm good at game." In which mindset do YOU have the power?

The reality is to be good with women there are so many rejections that they can never mean anything about who you are. And this leads me to the biggest inner game part. Why do you have to improve yourself and your game? Why are you not already good enough? If you and her were alone on a deserted island eventually you would hook up. It's nature.

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