Question: when you're in your early stages of getting good at this, how much value do you place on the outcome of your sets? I met a woman last night who said she'd be happy to date me, as ever pay no attention to anything a woman says when you meet her in a bar (or in many contexts, to be honest), and she was young, pretty, and we had common ground, but the idea of dating her didn't excite me like the idea of going out and living on the fucking edge.

I met another woman a while ago: sweet, oriental, good person, and she's been texting me, wanting me to meet her friends and talking about places we could go together. When we met she asked whether I was married. I think she definitely wants me as a boyfriend, and I like her. I could easily go down that route. It has an entirely different appeal. It's another human being who likes you and wants to be with you. What could be more awesome? And yet...

I posted previously about going out and hitting a few sets and I did badly. Last night I did well on the first one (the cute girl who gave me her phone number and said she wanted to date me), still pretty well on the second although they didn't hook, and the third was fairly poor on my part. And you know what? The third is the one I'll look back on most fondly. These three girls, listening to me babbling and trying to figure out what I wanted to say, being cagey and acting like they were above me, me making a complete tit of myself, it made me feel alive. Because I knew that to be a tit in the eyes of these girls and not to care was life somehow. And if I was to be in a relationship and feel like I couldn't hit on women (I stood there and told these women "yes I've come out on my own. No I'm not just looking to meet people. I'm looking to hit on cute women") I'd feel like I was missing something. And the whole thing of "commitment". Isn't that just society telling you that it's your lot to put up with a woman's shit? Yeah, it feels good now, because this woman's doing things that make me feel good, but isn't this just some kind of honey trap? I might be cynical because of my background, but for fuck's sake, so many guys are in relationships and miserable. Are their wives/girlfriends doing all the good things for them that they did in the beginning? Or am I just being cynical? Could this one be different? Is there such a thing as an actual soulmate, someone who doesn't see you as a penis and and as earning potential? Or is that just Disney shit?

So has anyone else had this dilemma? Starting to get fucking high off game, and yet seeing the more conventional (and dare I say it emotional) path laid out as well and feeling like that could be good. How did you decide? Do I just feel satisfied with one woman who really cares about me, with another human being who is of equal value and who has great things to share and is willing to share them with me? Or do I want to become the ridiculous, seductive animal that I feel I was born to be?

Discuss.

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I like to ask this question to people.

If you were just an uber bachelor and you could get laid with a different perfect 10 bomb shell every night, would you ever get into a monogamous relationship eventually?

Then you have your answer.

I hate it when my friends tell me that they are more into staying in with their fuck buddy instead of chasing pussy, but if pick up wasn't a chore and they could have a different girl every night, I am pretty sure they would be slaying the pussy.

Pick up can be hard work but I do feel like people get into relationships or try to drag out their fuck buddy situation because the field can be mentally draining and become content. I did this with my ex girlfriend, I knew that it will end one day because I didn't see babies or marriage. But I got away from the grueling field for a few years and worked on my other shit. I feel bad about it but I didn't really know what I got myself into at the time.

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LOL. And I mean LOL. Fuck no.
This is the thing. Your comfort zone is your death. Man 101.
That's what I'm wary of. And why should you trust anyone's presentations of themselves. This girl weirdly texted me back referring to me as her "soulmate" after I used the word in this thread. She obviously wants me, but what will she bring other than gratifying my ego? Is there a real soul connection out there? Do I believe in a thing called love, listen to the rhythm of my heart etc.

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