I've been dating this girl that i really like for 4 weeks (i'm taking it slow, i'm looking for something stable, and i don't want to rush into something that i'll regret).
The first 2 weeks, everything was awesome, she was very responsive, she introduced me to her friends, i did it too, she showed a lot of interest, she told me that she told to her sister and her mother about me and told me that i make her very happy and those stuff. But this past two weeks, everything changed, every time we chat, she was very cold, she started to show less interest and she started to flake, i asked her out a thursday, and at last minute she canceled it, then she told me to meet up the next day, and the next day she canceled me because she had troubles with her dad and she was upset, and then she told me to meet up the next day, i told her that i'd accept but only if we met earlier because i wanted to do something later (that's because almost all of the times we met, was late because she had some things to do), and she agreed, then, yea, she called me and told me that a friend's aunt died and she wanted to support her, and then i told here "no worries, she needs you", that was on saturday. After a few messages later, we met up last thursday and well, we had plans to go for lunch but when i arrived to pick her up, the battery of my car died, yeah, i know i'm extremely lucky, so i called a crane to pick it up, as we wait, it got late, we didnt have lunch, but she was ok with that, she told me that atleast we saw each other. After that, we talked the next day, and after that, we didn't talked until yesterday.

I forgot to say, everytime we chat, she respond after 2~3 hours, i take like 10 minutes maybe less (i know, i shouldn't do that, but i'm like that, if i hear the phone and i'm free, i'll respond right away, i don't like to make people wait because i don't like the people that makes me wait)

now, i'm not sure what to do, i thought about asking her out this friday, if she can't i would ask her when she have free, arrenge a date, if she flakes, say something like "no worries, let me know when you're free" and don't talk to her until she does, hoping for the best.

what do you guys think?

PD: sorry for my english, i tried to use the translator to make it better =D

Did you have sex?

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What is wrong with you people?

Why the hell are you deciding on a relationship so soon?

You're not secure enough to get into a relationship with a girl that gave up sex on the 2nd date?

I had sex with my ex girlfriend on the 3rd date. So, because you have held out to the 12th date makes your girl better quality does it?

This insecurity will sabotage your game and lose some cool girls. You should always strike whilst the iron is hot in my experience, ALWAYS. Stop being so judgmental over girls that have sex on the same night. Some of the coolest girls I've met have been 1st date sex or even same night sex.

You deserve to lose this girl because you're depriving her nature to have sex with a cool guy during the exciting courting period. Wait too long, they simply lose interest and they just "want to be friends'.

Stop judging the quality of a girl on the time it takes to seduce her. Instead judge girls that are gf potential on that fact she is cool as fuck, loyal, not needy etc.

To me, this whole waiting for sex for so long is just a disguise for the fact that you're afraid to pull the trigger and make the move

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sadly, no, we almost once, but was late (like 5 am) after a party, we went to the car to take her home, we started to make out, then it get really sexual (she was very excited), then she said "why here?", because we were on the building parking lot, and there was cameras and a lot of light, so i stopped, but not for what she said, ok yes, but not only that, i didn't felt very comfortable too. After that, i drove her home and she kisses me, told me she had a great time, and she left.
i forgot to say that i live with my parent's, so does she, and we have had logistical problems...

Why not?

Afraid to make the move?

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well, you're right, i know that i've been waiting for too long, but it's not my fault, i want to, but i have had some logistical problems, and that makes thing so hard...

not really, it's because i don't like to do it on the car, i'm tall, and she is tall, and my car isn't big at all.

Why didn't you try to have sex with her when you drive her home? If she lives with parents, why are you not trying to get her to your place "let's watch a movie"???

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Sounds like she has flaked then. I bet you wish you tried on the car, don't ya?

If she likes you she will get back to you.

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For the love of God fuck her in the building elevator.

Logistics are never a problem. Unwillingness to get out of your comfort zone is. If you'd have led properly, lights cameras and whatever other excuses would've been irrelevant.

My biggest problem was figuring out how the fuck to get the elevator stuck in between floors. It just didn't work. So I said fuck it, went to the top floor to minimize chances of having someone stumble across us and endulged in what we both were craving so intensely.

The possibility of having her neighbors catch us only made it so much more memorable, specially for her. Do you not want to live this? Why are you depriving her of such an experience?

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I wish we lived in a world where some helpful vigilante will turn up with the bang bus limo and provide a logistical solution to guys who can't take the next step.

If I was me, i would of done it in the car, despite the height. Figure it out. Because once you already fucked her. Going to her place or your place is incredibly easier.

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hahaha totally
do you know those elevator for handicapped? i mean, the ones for the people in wheelchair, well, some of those, don't have floor slection, some of them you have to push a button to go up and down, so, you can easily stuck it between floors.


well, thank you guys for the advice, i'll still try with her but dont waiting too much, well, maybe next time i'll fuck her in the car, even if i'm uncomfortable as fuck

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hahahahaha yea, something like that