Hey guys,

Everyone knows practice makes perfect right? To continuously try things over and over, until you become better and better at whatever it is. Boxers; are not born they are made.. You could be the biggest, baddest dude around, and then one days walk into a Boxing Club and get served by someone smaller than you. Not because they are stronger than you per se, but most likely because they have practiced, trained and have developed form. The most important thing that I've learned in my 35 years of age is humility. Being humbled will take you very far.

And that leads me to my introduction; I am not new to the PUA community, artists, masters, the videos, the sites, the books; but what I am new to is form. Is a truly developed knowledge of seduction. I can pull terminologies out of my ass, and name of a bunch of great books on the subject; and even though I've read a handful of them, I have never really gotten very far with it.

To be honest, and that is extremely important here. I could totally be one of those guys who signs up on here and acts like he knows everything and gets tons of hot chicks, but only copies and pastes crap from other sites... But would I really learn anything? What would I get out of it? So, being honest and humble; that is where I will start. I don't know nadda. I'm here to learn. I'm open to listening and trying new things, preferably things that will get me out of my comfort zone. I am going to be honest about myself, my likes, my weaknesses, my strengths... If I do so I believe that I will learn and take in a lot more, and develop my own pua style that is unique and tailored to my personality. That is what i want.

I don't want to be someone else, I want to be the best ME. So if any of you see potential in my words, and are willing to help along someone who's not here to be super cocky, or become a "bro", but to just find happiness, then please hit me up.

~Def Shep

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Welcome to the forums.

I like your attitude. Let me know if there's anything you need help with.

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Welcome bro

It's nice to have people that have burned the boats and is all in. I guess that's the foundation to it all

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Thanks you guys very much for responding.

I do actually have some things I need help on; for starters I have severe approach anxiety.
Secondly, I haven't dated anyone or smashed anything in 2 1/2 years... I took that time off to get my stuff together as a man. To get to know who I really am, alone. They say that the more time you spend in solitude the closer to yourself you become.

With that being said, I am ready to enter back into the world of dating, but this time I want to really do it right, and take it more seriously.... Because there is truly a science to this stuff. I want to harness it and have it become muscle memory.

So anything you guys could help me out with, that would be great... I may get better advice from someone who has had really bad approach anxiety; but any advice is welcome, thank you!

- Def Shep

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- Def Shep

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.
-Jim Rohn

We all have had bad anxiety.

Only the people that don't appear seem to think they just have it worse to back up their lack of action.

To get over the fear of spiders you need exposure. Just ease into it and do it to about 20 girls a week, then hopefully you will start to enjoy it. Then perhaps increase that number till you just evolve where you can chill out and just do organic approaches going a it your day.

You need some volume right now. Put some hair on your chest. It will be hard but very liberating and rewarding. Just think, every girl you see could potentially be something special. That's the beauty with it all.

I would suggest to make a tinder account too but anxiety is your priority

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