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Your options:
1) You can just cheat like 90% of the world and get caught eventually.
2) Or you can treat yourself to hookers like 90% of husbands.
3) watch porn to inject a little variety into your life like 99% of men
4) Or you can learn to be good with women and just slay the pussay without worrying about people catching you.
5) figure out how to be fulfilled in your current monagomous relationship.
6) try swinging/open relationship with your girlfriend. Trade with strangers.
Number 4 can seem like a massive chore to most people. But it really is the most rewarding. You need to really think about your love life and don't settle for less than you want.
If a guy, or anyone for that matter, has a weak sense of self then WANTING of anything will often seem like a pipe dream rather than having any grounding in reality. "Don't settle for less than you want" can perpetuate negative patterns of behavior in many ways and as one could imagine is based on how one feels towards one's self at any given moment. What I 'want' today maybe entirely incongruent with what I want tomorrow. In addition WANTING (of anything) is created out of ego energy and will not lead to any true fulfillment - why do you think that when people often get what they wanted only to become disheartened to realize that that inner void still remains? Although it is important to have goals (I do believe a big part of man's sense of being is predicated upon his sense of purpose), a more fruitful question to ask one's self is "how can I live more consciously (presently) in this moment?".
A relationship, or really any event where we may be facing some sort of inner tumult/hardship can be used as a vehicle to become more conscious, or delving deeper into unconsciousness and consequently despair. Inner resistance to what is is what created this downward momentum in the first place.
To the OP specifically, if you are hitting a wall it may not be WHAT you are doing, but rather the HOW (the manner in which you go about doing it). Though you may receive some validation here, those words will only fit into that which you already know. So if you feel the relationship has run its course then perhaps it is time to free yourself and move forward. If you feel with your heart that this person is right for you but you're resisting something, then find out what that something is and deal with it but do not dwell in it.
CHAT
