I am trying to date my colleague from another team.
She broken off with her bf and was being much friendly to every guy in the dept, including me.

I decided to make a move and try to date her on Thursday. I manage to get her number, she gave it to me with slight resistance, manage to convinence her its just a number which i can text after work.

At night i tried to arrange a date with her on friday, however she said she wanted to rest.

Friday past and she didnt accept my date, so i went to chill with my guy friends. At night, i texted her again, being more direct, asking if she would like go out with me in the future. She said she prefer to be in a small group. She also said she rarely goes on a date unless she is very interested in the guy.

She is open to the idea of a small group outing. However i feel that it is very hard to progress further if we keep doing group outing with colleagues or friends.

These are the last few text before the night between me and her.

me: You don't go on dates?
her: hardly, unless i am interested in the guy.
me: Asking you for a date to see if we can click. however you wanted to rest at home
me: <<complimented her and did a push-pull>>
her: naa dont want to go on a date with you, lol
me: so picky!
her: of course
me: I also didnt state i wanted to be your bf.
her: haha, you want, i also don't want.
her: Good night
me: nitez

Honestly if there is a chance to progress beyond friend, i dont mind trying. Else i would rather keep it as colleague and move on with other girls.

post925780.html#p925780 :Same girl from this thread I presume?

Dude, This is the worst thing I have ever read. Where the hell to start? she isn't interested in you. I know this because she is telling you this directly. The only reason she gave you her number is because you're work colleagues and didn't want to hurt your feelings. Take the hint. You have oneitus.

Read my sig thread. You're not immersed. Please learn some basic game before you get fired.

You have a long way to go man. I encourage you to get in the deep end practise cold on strangers for the time being before you alienate your social/work life. You don't have the fundamentals to capitalise with girls at work at this moment in time.

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i accept your feed back Dragula. Next, i wish to know how do i improve on this. If she is not that interested in me in the first place, i have no idea why she made bought me a small gift weeks ago. Anyway i only considered her as an option as my other colleagues are asking me to date her, of course i am asking her on a date discretely.

Plus, its just a date, i have not made up my mind she is the only one. As my other friends said, date a bunch and pick out the one that i can connect with.

If she is buying you gifts because she is interested in dating you. Don't you think she would want to meet you when you asked her? Sounds like friendship, man. Are you sure your friends aren't tooling you? Because she plain isn't interested in you romantically.

VT1987 - What if I told you that you need to interact with a 500 people to develop basic social skills, would that be intimidating to you? Because to be blunt, you currently do not posses the required skill. You need to step away from your social/work bubble and use strangers to develop your fundamentals, because to be honest, you will need to creep out a lot of people to get social-able. What better way to do it on strangers in a bar? You're here for a reason. Get in the trenches.

Are you a virgin?

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This girl recommended other weekdays as she have to wake up early the next morning. My general preference is Friday to Sunday for meeting ups with people (friends, family or girls). I didnt take up her counter offer when i ask her to join me for dinner. Pretty much ignored it as give her only my option, which was this friday or nothing.

I am willing to interact with 500 people. It used to be intimidating, however I used to do cold call and interact with strangers for deals.

To be honest, i am new to this relationship gaming, which is why i register myself in this PUA forum in the first place. To learn the art and develop the basic social skills.
I have started to date girls about 3 months ago, started off with the best friend of friend's girlfriend. IMO failed in that date, and understand that i need to step up and improve on it.

Recieved some tip from another good friend. He recommended me his ex classmates, went for a date, I wasnt that interested initially. Was Chilling out quite well but no idea why there wasn't much progression.

This third girl, attracted my attention weeks ago, was kindly bored as girl 2 disappeared, so tried to chat and hit up on this girl who bought me a gift.

Anyway, I know my character, i am willing to take a beating and willing to accept failures. Most importantly, to learn from the fall and stand up to be a better man.

This is how guys lose their fucking minds... wind up with split personality disorders and shit...

Let me make this very clear for you... She doesn't like you.

She didn't like you when you baited her into giving up her phone number. She just dealt with the pressure. She's not going to like you. She's already turned off by you.

You will save yourself a lot of time and frustration if you simply screen girls and "work" the ones that like you.

Because they actually like you, it won't really be much "work." You'll actually be able to enjoy yourself and not hate/resent women because they keep playing games with you. (mostly cause you keep playing games with them.)

If no girls like you... then you obviously need to work on yourself. Make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. Don't try and game them into liking you for your lame self.

I've advocated dating coworkers (in addition to strangers). This is not how you do it. When you get disinterest... You stop. You don't neg or whatever or pressure her... You just stop and take the loss. This thread is how you get into trouble.