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hoboken
PostPosted: Wed Aug 19, 2015 9:09 pm 
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So I got dumped a while ago.
Followed all the advice here, trying to move on and ignoring her.
She still tries to contact me directly and indirectly (trough mutual friends).
I feel this is her trying to be "friends" with me. Not trying to re-establish the relationship.

Can someone explain to me why it is so important for her to be friends?
Since for me I have actually zero ambition being friends with her, I even hate the idea of it...
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Since for me I have actually zero ambition being friends with her, I even hate the idea of it...
Good man. My guess is she still wants connection and validation. Don't give it to her.

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Wants her cake and to be able to eat it.

Way of hanging onto the attachment, mostly for her sake not yours.

If she ended move on. NEVER go back...UNLESS she contacts you down the road and realizes she fucked up AND you are in a place where you want to give it another shot.

Solid clean break, only way of regaining your sense of self and having the relationship you want with her (if you want it by then even).
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Why did she dump you?
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Why did she dump you?
She told me she wasn't ready for a LTR and that I pushed her away.

She is emotionally really unstable and never know what she wants.
And I did put her before me, stupid...
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"Let's just be friends" doesn't even mean she wants to be friends. She is basically she is no longer interested in you romantically.

"I don't want to be with you because I want more penis" isn't something honest girls would say.

Move on. Find a girl better looking and better personality. I'm pretty she is the type that showed a lot of red flags before you Got into a LTR with her. Next time, be more picky.

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Why is it important for her to still seek out the attention of a guy that isn't giving her attention? You're kidding right?

Read this: viewtopic.php?f=25&t=190620

Who cares why. If you're moving on, you're moving on. No need to analyze a woman that isn't currently in your life.

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You can just let her know that you aren't looking for a friend. I've done that with my past ex. She thought I was bluffing. She doesn't hear from me ever now. It's either the booty or the boot.

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Can someone explain to me why it is so important for her to be friends?


I found woman do this when they feel guilty about breaking up with you and is way to deal with their conscience is to keep contact (supposedly they feel bad cause they hurt you..but it was their decision)...what purpose does it serve to anybody? Whenever she sends you a msg take days to respond in a polite way until she gets bored of asking... Move on bro any unstable chick is not worth being a knight in shinning Armour for.
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Can someone explain to me why it is so important for her to be friends?


I found woman do this when they feel guilty about breaking up with you and is way to deal with their conscience is to keep contact (supposedly they feel bad cause they hurt you..but it was their decision)...what purpose does it serve to anybody? Whenever she sends you a msg take days to respond in a polite way until she gets bored of asking... Move on bro any unstable chick is not worth being a knight in shinning Armour for.
I don't really think it is important for them. I think in this case she simply wants to ensure he's not devastated, so she's keeping contact. Her matronly way of "letting him down easy"...

The other reason a girl may want to remain friends has already been written by another poster above me. Likes attention and validation. She knows you want her back and she can message you anytime she'd like for an instant conversation and for you to tell her she's pretty.

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Well she probably enjoyed hanging out with you she's just not attracted or interested romantically. Ever thought maybe she just likes you as a friend? I mean a relationship typically is you enjoy each other's company and you're interested romantically. Without the romantic part maybe she just wants the friendship? Maybe she just likes hanging out with you as opposed to she's looking for attention or for some other reason. It's not complicated.
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So I got dumped a while ago.
Followed all the advice here, trying to move on and ignoring her.
She still tries to contact me directly and indirectly (trough mutual friends).
I feel this is her trying to be "friends" with me. Not trying to re-establish the relationship.

Can someone explain to me why it is so important for her to be friends?
Since for me I have actually zero ambition being friends with her, I even hate the idea of it...
Dude, just say her that there is only 2 ways you are interested "Romantically" or "Not at all" and if she isnt up being involved romantically then say her to contact with u again if she changes her mind and just move on with your life..

Only reason she wants to be friends is because its easier to her to get over in that way, but dont offer her this luxury.
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Just be a dick to her then... That will get her away... or make her want you even more lol
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