So 2 months ago, I got dumped.
She had some emotional issues,
And I pushed her away be being so needy
We were only together for 3 months.

I followed all the advice her. "Moved on", focused on myself and ignored her.
She kept trying to keep contact, I managed to hold off.

Saturday I ran in 2 her on a party (2 months since the breakup). The vibe was back instantly, we ended up kissing.
Yesterday, she kept initiating contact and I told her to meet me for drinks. We ended up at my place, enjoying eachother, talking, blablabla and fucking multiple times.
I got the impression that she was really getting herself together. She claims to have been with no other guy. She knows I've been with at least 1 other woman. And she was really fishing if I would be still interested in an LTR with her. I played it cool and said we'll see.

I'm not head over heels anymore for her but honestly I did get emotionally invested in her again. Now If she could show me the value consistently that she showed me yesterday this girl would definitely be the kind of woman I'm looking for...

The question now remains...

Is this one of those moments I just move on and build this emotional fortitude that will strengthen myself?

Or do I take it as it comes and see what happens, being willing to walk away at any time but defiinitely risking to get more emotionally invested in this girl again...?

Should I initiate and take direction or should I let her come to me...?

She has been trying to keep contact, seek attention ever since.

Thanks guys!!!

You are the one in control, do what YOU want.
You regained control by sticking to your guns. Continue to do that.

Keep it light and sexual, she wants to chase....fucking let her.
This is sort of a double edged question.

Should you control and take direction? Absolutely. Should you let her come to you? Sure why not. Bang her till it squirts out her ears.
Only you can answer that one. Tread lightly.

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I'm going to say it like this. If it were me I walk away. If she was willing to dump me before, odds are that she would be willing to dump me again. The next time would be easier for her to do so.

To me, this is another oneitus scenario regardless if you have less of an attachment to her than you did before and regardless if you are seeing other women currently. The fact that she dumped you and wants you back puts you in a mentality as if you had won the relationship. It's a bad state of mind to be in.

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This is perfect for you!
Yes! You are inexperienced with women, go out and get that experience. What you do is set this girl up as a low level fb. Let her do all the pursuing, keep your emotions in check (it will be a battle that will improve you as a man), and then you can still have her in your life.

I suggest seeing other girls at the same time to get that more experience and to have those options. If you do set this up right, you will be able to have whatever relationship you want with this girl. Whether that is you and her just as FWB or if you want to see if she can earn being your girlfriend again. Let her pursue.

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I would never be exclusive with her again and just keep her as a fuck buddy, and keep learning and trying to fuck as many other girls as you can.

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I would continue moving forward.

You got her again because you are better now than you used to be so why go backwards? Why not continue moving forward in the direction you're going.

And also keep in mind that you're probably on a bit of a "high" from the randomness and spontaneity of what happen. Meet her again under different circumstances and its likely that you will not have the same feeling that you had upon seeing her today.

Enjoy what was, reflect on the decent memory and continue moving along. You're currently in better position you attract someone of higher value than you ever were in the past.

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First of all thanks for all the advice guys.

I'm going to try this.

Now she keeps initiating contact true texting.
Of course it's nice getting the attention but I really dont need this right now as I'm busy working on myself (reading, working out, medidating) so I have no time nor the energy to invest in this texting thing.

Could I tell her something like;

"hej I also liked it very much, but at this moment i'm so busy that I have no time to text all day. And to be honest I also dont need that right now. We'll see eachother soon and go from there"

Or should i just ignore?

tnx

Here's the thing about texting.

If you don't have time, don't text.

Remember before texting? When you didn't have time to bullshit on the phone, you didn't answer the damn thing.

When you do have time, make sure she's texting you titties, everyone has time for those!

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Just reply whenever you feel like it.

The tables can always turn so just be aware of that if you're going to continue to involve yourself. You don't need it now, but after another good time and some good sex you'll be posting about her in a different way.

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Funny thing.

She just asked me "If I still wanted to meet and that I could be honest" (after i didnt respond to previous message)
I replied "Just busy, meet me Thursday at 20h30 at my place and bring drinks"
She "Ok"
Me "We"ll talk then x"
She "x"

Take it as it comes I gues...

If you break up with a girl (or she breaks up with you) there is always a valid reason behind it (in my personal opinion).

Eddie Fews Had a good point about not going backwards.

This is exactly what I feel like a guys does when he fucks an ex. Notice I said "fuck" and not even "gets back with". I personally feel like no matter how "no strings attached" the sex is, it is not a good idea on principle. Principally speaking, you are investing some measure of time and effort into a girl that broke up with you. Even if all you do is text her "come over and fuck" and bang her out for 5 minutes, that could have been 5 minutes of your life not spent on a pursuit that is a waste of time with no future. That is regression to me. I never actively strive to regress.

Progression would be funneling 100% of your seducing efforts on new girls. I believe break ups always happen for a reason. The hardest part of dating is the time leading up to a decision to break up or not. Once it happens, your decisions about what to do should require no thought. It didn't work out with that girl. You tried. Now it is time to leverage the abundance inherent in life and meet a more qualified match.

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We've been together again now on 3 different occasions.
Everything went really well; great talking, having fun, awesome sex,etc...

She keeps initiating contact all the time and she is chasing.

However I'm not yet convinced. I dont have the feeling that she is putting in the extra mile or actually fighting for me.

I'm not telling her anything about this.

Do you guys think I'm right in expecting this? Or is this something a woman will rarely do?

What you feel is her not being good enough. She's never going to be, which is why I instructed you to enjoy the moment and leave it as it was in the first place. You've advanced, old news stays old even when you grow.

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If that extra mile is what you REALLY want......

Let other women into your life...

If you build it she will cum....

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