This is NOT playing games. I can see how it may come across as it is, but it's not. You shouldn't be available all the time, and by not being available all the time hopefully you're building a lifestyle where you are actually busy. Your in essence faking it until you make it, pretending to be busy until you really are busy.

Obviously when this should be done is complicated as the dynamics of every relationship between masculine and feminine is different.

If you are available literally all the time, and you're just waiting until she's free, you're not leading an interesting or attractive life and she's probably not going to be attracted to you. You're going to be too easy.

You don't want to be authentic if that means you're available 24.7 for her or if you send her 100 text messages a day, or feel the need to write her a poem and sing it to her at 12AM in the morning at her house after throwing rocks at her bedroom window.

You want to be the guy she will be attracted too, and that guy she will be attracted to will not be available whenever she is. Straight up. That's some oneitis shit. Be hard to get. Otherwise you'll just be like everyother guy out there who barely gets any pussy and then drops everything at the thought of getting some poon.

I'll give you're text thread a read though, could always use help there

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loved your "My in depth texting & dating guide."

Solid, solid advice and post!

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R.C is right.

Being hard to get > being easily attainable > playing hard to get

Women are a LOT smarter than you think. Women play hard to get instinctively, unlike men. Women do it when they're getting attached and they're scared that you're a player. So when you play hard to get, women can genuinely sense it and it tells them "He really likes me, but he has nothing going for him so he wants to try and pretend he's a catch. How cute." ...must be something about the vibe it gives.

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Lots of interesting opinions on here. I'm more interested in what works so I'll always know to handle situations like this. I think if I showed you guys the whole convo between us, it just seems normal. I'm more interested in knowing if I did anything that would effect the Pick up. I don't believe so. As far as my life goes, I really am that busy. I travel a lot. And have 3 different jobs, so I did tell her that. Plus, I've been investing in her a bit more that warranted so, maybe taking some steps back is more necessary. If you look at my post on this thread you can see the few messages we exchanged so hopefully it helps make sense.

Yah I agree. You shouldn't be 'playing' hard to get. You should just be hard to get.

This area has alot of variables tho

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I believe she's making an excuse. She changed her profile pic on the dating site. So I assume, she's dating other guys and just told me she's leaving to give as a lie for her days to date other guys for the next few days. Now, I'm already going after other girls, I get it but what do you think of my opinion. Imo, I lie is always vague so her not going into detail may explain a lot.

Secondly, since she's "leaving" later in the week, how often should I text her to keep attraction going?

Also, since she's still in town and It may have been like 2 days since we talked, maybe I can text her and see if she's free tonight?

You should only be calling or texting once a week to arrange a date for 3-4 days later. If she rejects twice, just say "Ok, let me know when you've sorted your schedule and we'll arrange something"

No exceptions.

Nothing wrong with her dating other guys, you're not exclusive untill she brings it up and you agree.

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J, helpful response! To make clear, I edited my above post. I presume she used her vacation as a lie to not go on a date until she "comes back."

We last texted on Mon, it's been 3 days when I said "I'll let you know my schedule." When should I text her (In general how many days do you wait?) and when I do, first text like "Hey, sorted my schedule. I'll be free the beginning of next week how's Tues?" And if there's issues with her trip, I'll just ask when she gets back, etc.

text now and say "Hi. I'm a little less busy SPAM. When are you free?"

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I've posted all her responses. I hope it's clear for everyone. She said she's free next week, which is why I said Tues. It's like taking a shot in the dark if I suggest a day not knowing when she's back from her "trip". Maybe "X! I'm less busy after Sun. What day is cool for our adventure!? "

If she doesn't text you back, she's not interested in you. How fucking difficult is that to comprehend?

...Majik, I don't think you're following with what I'm saying. Also, negativity like that really isn't appreciated and gratuitous. If you're just going to be rude, please do it somewhere else.

She's been texting me back. It's not about her. I'm learning from some awesome people about the process of texting and how to know where this girls coming from.

Majikal does have a point.

If you suggest one day and one day only, she can easily flake. If you ask what days she's free, then suggest one... yea.

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Maybe I can clarify this for you...


You said Wednesday at 5 pm.

She didn't respond.

If she was really excited to see you... You wouldn't have made this post.

She doesn't like you.

Move on.

As much as Majikal is quite harsh, he's right about 60% of the time. *neg*

Nah, he's spot on. You can't grow a plant without a seed... think of attraction as a plant. Putting water in an empty pot won't make anything grow.

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