I have a really bad habit about sizing people up. Whenever I walk in a room I can't help but to try to decipher who's alpha or beta. When I can tell I'm more "alpha" than others, then my confidence goes up, but if I don't feel like I'm as "alpha" as someone else, I feel like shit. I've got some really deep-seeded insecurities I'm trying to address right now, but for now I just can't stop sizing people up. How can I stop doing this?

Being aware that you are doing it seems like a good start.

When you meditate you notice thoughts and you dont let em control you, you just watch em pop up and leave on their own, then get replaced by another thought and is a continuous cycle.

Then you notice your thoughts are not YOU.

You are the holder of the thoughts. Complete and utter peace is what you really are.

Be aware and flow from your center, dont let your thoughts control you.

You are deeper than "wanting to size people up"

Just notice it, and replace that feeling with good positive thoughts that will help you in life.

Thats how i would handle this situation.

Good luck.

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Right, but how can I rid my mind from this?

Learn to deal with it I guess. Just kinda brush it under the carpet. Realise that other guy's a could be cool guys and not be treated as the enemy.

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Comparing is based in the ego, and IS the ego for all purposes.

The tree does not compare. The tree grows to its fullest potential and is proud to be a tree.

The river doesn't think "I wish I were an ocean." It is perfectly content as a river.

You must drop comparing. Drop it immediately. Be your own man. Whether you think you can immediately stop comparing or not, either way you are right.

To me, anywhere I go i don't even NOTICE other guys. I mean from the standpoint of meeting girls. Obviously I'm not going to make a move with a girl that is making out with her bf, but yeah I don't even realize the guys are there.

You'll stop doing this when you actually become an alpha male.

When I walk into a room I'm long for fellow alphas to make buddies with. There are enough women for all of us.

The mentality you have is non abundance mentality. If you were truly getting laid and having real success with women you wouldn't care who was in the room because you would know that you already have yours.

So you learn to stop when you begin putting the work, and effort required in to get the success you want.

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