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To be a little clearer this is how the exchange went.

Her: Good morning (name). How's your week going? Sorry I didn't get the chance to call you back yesterday, I'll try you later today.

Me: Hey (Name)! All is well, let me know when you have your schedule sorted and we'll get together.

Her: Hi (Name). So I'm going to be away for a few days. I'm going for a friends wedding, and I'll be back on Tuesday. Are you around later that week?

Me: Hey! Yeah early to mid next week is great. Have fun at your friends wedding.

I could have been a bit more excited on the text exchange but I was busy all day. I'm pretty sure she's flying in Tuesday and I doubt she would want to hangout. Do you think I should shoot another text to be clearer on Tuesday or just wait for a response from her or till next week.

The name calling on every single text sounds a little formal lol (not a bad thing, just sounds formal to me)

You handled it good.. again, ball is in her court. You're only interested in texting to set up dates, right?

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Dude I thought the same thing about the name calling being formal. She started doing it so I just return it to be polite. She's also older than I am and of indian decent. She's really f-ing sexy. Anyway, I think because of her background she may be exchanging like this. Also wondering if my closing kiss on our last date threw her off a bit. Either way, the ball is in her court.

There's nothing particularly wrong with the name calling, but I wouldn't do it so much - especially if it's just because she does.

The kiss was a good thing to have happened.

She'll get in touch, but you should be working on other options (only about 5% of guys do, and they tend to be the ones who do well)

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why you doubting?

She's chasing YOU!

Shoot her a text saying that tuesday is the only day you can hang, otherwise it'll have to be the week after.

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This sounds like game playing. If you're available Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday... there's nothing wrong with asking when she's free, but not until she gets in touch.

I used to do things like "I'm only free on Thursday" until I realised how much it was holding me back when it was fake.

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Yah it would be game playing but I believe he actually leaves the next day for a week

There's also nothing wrong with being unavailable even if your are. You want to be hard to get and act like you are hard to get, not just to her but to yourself. Fake it till you make it type thing.

Being only available on a Thursday is just ruthless tho The only nights i'm available to date are monday, tuesdays and wednesdays because Thurs, Fri, Sat and Sun i'm out gaming in the clubs.

J.Daniels did you have that thread about Dates to a bowling alley? I think I saw you mention it but I can't 100% remember if it was you, if you could link it to me that would be awesome cos I'd like to read. Dates to bowling alleys are also my favourite so i'd be curious as to how you go about it. Dates at a bowling alley are impossible not to have fun

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The solution is for him to fill up his schedule, leaving 2-3 nights open. For example he could strictly only use Wednesday and Thursday nights for bettering himself - and nothing more. I don't care if it's taking up a night class, reading books, grooming or anything... there's something you can do to improve yourself.

Fill up the week with things like working, socialising with friends (or catching up with old ones), working out, getting a tan, gaming...

The bowling alley thing, as far as I know, has never been a thread (apart from an article I wrote on my old website which doesn't exist anymore) but here it is briefly explained in the second comment: viewtopic.php?f=134&t=191881&p=921502&h ... ey#p921502

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Bowling alley, relationship dynamic.

Drink, casual dynamic

*cool pose*

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Unless it's an instant date, I prefer to make a drink part of the date, rather than the whole thing. I'm not as fussy in person as I am on here though... I'd happily take a girl to McDonald's lol, cause I know I can pull it off. Infact, I got a girl to drive me there on Sunday so I could get a coke and a burger. Wouldn't dream of telling another guy to do that though lol.

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Fucken oath. You actually WANT to be busy. By 'pretending' to be unavailable on that night, hopefully you are doing something else, instead of sitting at home on the couch.

Thanks for the link. Couldn't agree more regarding the bowling alley. There's one I like to go to on a tuesday night because for $20 its unlimited games, unlimited pool and arcade, so there's alot of things to do aswell as the bar there, and it's in the middle of the city so we can bounce to a bar after and then bounce to hers. I love tuesday nights too, there so innocent but making something happen on a tuesday is so out of the ordinary normally for a girl and it makes it much more exciting.

Coffee dates are cool aswell. I've read alot that you shouldn't bother because it's hard to escalate to sex, but if you escalate while you're there and then you both bounce on you're own way, you can then setup a 2date and the sexual tension will be alot stronger, she will be thinking of you alot more in the days you're not seeing her. If she had a good time with you and is attracted to you the next date will be awesome and will generally lead to sex alot easier.

It's kind of like priming the pump!

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RIght so after my last text exchange saying "Me: Hey! Yeah early to mid next week is great. Have fun at your friends wedding." It's best for her to just get back to me at this point your saying? @On A Rampage I do leave Wednesday morning the day after with my friend for 1 week and won't be back until the following.
Like @J.Daniels said, I think there's nothing wrong with asking when she's free but not until she get's back in touch after my last exchange. Problem is what if she doesn't, do I just go cold since I'll be gone Wednesday?

Do nothing until she gets in touch. A song without silence between the beats, would be an annoying noise. Let her wonder about you - those are the moments that attraction thrives on.

You should be working on getting more options anyway. Do you think a guy with 10 options cares how long a girl takes to reply? Of course not! If you're spinning 1 plate and you drop it, you're humiliated and it gets you down... if you're spinning 10 and you drop one, who cares?

Work on getting more options, bettering yourself, betting on yourself, being the best you can be. Don't worry about her more than you worry about yourself you shouldn't have time to be so worried.

TL;DR: Women are plates. Plus music and shit.

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Wow man thanks! Your spot on every time with this stuff. I appreciate you helping out and sharing your thoughts on my situation. Not only are you helping me out but others who may be undergoing a similar situation. I'll await for her to get back in touch with me next week then, and if not I'll take off on my trip and see if I rekindle when I return. May I ask you to shed some light on one last thing...

I have a friend of mine whom I've known for several years who I polarized to after developing feelings for. I recently reached out to her a few weeks ago and she contacted me just the other day. We were thinking of linking up this Friday. Should I reach back out to her and invite her to some place I'll be at? It would be awesome to hangout with her and see her again. It's been a long time. We spoke on the phone just two days ago and I told her to let me know how her Friday is and if she'll be coming out as she was unsure. However, I know her to well and she's one to forget about things. I was thinking of shooting her a text tomorrow.

Best advice on this one much appreciated.