You so right man... I'm trying to be as chill as possible.

If she doesn't flake on the first date, she likes you and all you have to do is not fuck it up. Instead of trying to boost attraction, just acknowledge that it's already there and try not to fuck it up. That's all you've got to do.

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Thanks dude. Looks like it's on. We're meeting at 7pm. Now quick question? There's live music going on tonight at a Hotel and I was thinking about stopping in to check it out instead of the bowling. It's also free to get in. Would you say this is a good idea to do to. We can probably get food there or leave and go somewhere else. Honestly, Not to jump the gum but I'm not sure if I would want to even pay to stay a night at this hotel as it's extremely expensive, nor do I want to make her feel awkward. Was thinking we can check out the show, split grab food or whatever, then go from there. Trying to go with the flow like Jiu Jitsu.

You can't really get to know somebody at a show. It's also much harder to touch, tease, escalate...

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Date went well. No bowling because she didn't want to go so we went to a live show outdoor nice music. Afterward we walked around. Her entire family was at a play out there that she didn't inform me about. She did apologize or that though. I met her nephew who didn't get in the show. We walked him to the subway and then talked more and got to know each other. It's unfortunate but she had to meet her family to take them home later that night. I walked her to the theater and looked at her opened my hands, as she grabbed them I pulled her in and gave her a kiss. It was awesome. I used kino pretty much the whole night, one thing that works well is to open your hand when leading across a street. She grabbed it and then we were holding hand the whole time. It wasn't awkward at all.

I'll call her Monday to plan something for Wednesday or Thursday sine she'll be leaving or the west coast for several days.

Good job.

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Called her today to schedule a third date. Left a voicemail and she didn't get back to me. I know this is a common thing. Will wait a couple days to see if she returns my call. If not should I reach out again? I'll be going away next week.

I'm not sure if I'd have left a voicemail, with it being easy to put to one side and forget about, but it's not a big thing.

Don't get in touch if she doesn't. If you were playing tennis and you hit the ball to the other person... would you hit another one over before they hit it back? Of course not the ball is in her court now.

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Read this thread and wanted to say good man. This girl actually came to you! That's gotta give you confidence, and it should. She hit you up, she found your number, she texted you first. You're in so don't worry. Infact you should be feeling like this happens all the time!

Solid advice J.Daniels, really enjoyed reading it and I learnt alot!

I agree at this point in the dynamics of the interaction, balls in her court. Don't worry either, she's the one trying to pick YOU up, so let her do it

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Thanks guys she texted me this morning apologizing that she didn't call me back. She said she will try me later today. At this point should I respond back to the text or just wait up for the call?

If I did respond, it'd probably just be something like "Alright, let me know when you've got your schedule sorted and we'll do something " but there's not much point lol, let her get in touch.

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Thanks man! Actually ended up using something similar. She got back to me a little ago saying she'll be out of town attending and event. She said she will be back next Tuesday and asked if we meet then. I didn't respond because I'll be leaving for a trip next week for 5 days. Looks like our schedules are conflicting already. How would you go about responding to that. Should I just say yeah next week sounds good and get back to me. Or let her know I'll be away next week and schedule for the following week.

She suggested Tuesday and I leave Wednesday

Yeh dude she's asking YOU out. You don't have to really game her as she's trying to pick you up. Be more confident here man, she's chasing YOU.

I don't think you have to play games. Tell her Tuesday is sweet and leave it at that, you won't need to text her or call her until the previous day to set something up. I wouldn't tell her that you're going away for a week either. Leave telling that to her later, you've got that up your sleeve to let her know you're a busy man next time she wants to set a date up with you, because remember she's chasing YOU so she'll probably be the one to bring up setting another date up with you, as that seems to be the pattern thus far. You're in a good position bro.

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Thanks dude! I ended up just saying "Hey! Early to mid next week is great. Have fun on your trip."

I said this because I got it wrong, she will be returning on Tuesday and I'm leaving Wednesday morning for a week. I may not be able to see her. So if/or when she reaches back I would then let her know I'm gonna be taking off for a week. Also what if she doesn't contact back when she returns. I'll be away, should I even bother until I get back?

She wants to see you on Tuesday, doesn't she? Set up a date Tuesday night.

if she can't do Tuesday, then you tell her you noworries and that you aren't available until the following week. This will pressure her, she'll more than likely drop whatever she's doing and make time for you, before you become unavailable until the next week.

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