I have been stuck in this situation a few times. After i finger a chick and have grabed her tities and we are still making out...she never wants to go any fucking further. What is theee bestt way to get past that? and when i do...what do i move on to without rushing and freaking her out?

Are you getting her off, or just fingering her a little? Is she completely naked, or does she still have clothes on? Are you naked, or do you have clothes on? Those are all gonna be BIG factors in this, not just minor details like most people seem to assume.

Don't get her off until you fuck her, otherwise she will have the ablility to say, "I got what I wanted, have a good night."

Don't touch her pussy at all until she is completely naked (first time only pretty much, unless she continues to do this).

Don't take your pants off (some people say don't even take your shirt off), until after she is completely naked.

These are all matters of demonstrating who is dominant, who is in control of the situation and ways of ensuring that she goes along with you, because she's going to be doing what you expect of her. If you let her get your clothes off and isn't fully naked, then she's got the power. If she still has even panties on and you've got your hand in them, then there's a barrier in between you two and she's not doing it for you, she's doing it for her, that's bad behavior and we don't reward that, so you don't touch her.

If she doesn't comply with these and tries to get you to touch her before it's time, or get her off without having sex with you, or get you naked, then you stop it, break rapport and let her know that you'll be leaving, or if you're at your place, just get up and start doing stuff on your computer, she'll come back to you.

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that's fucking awsome man, yeah when i'm fingering she usuallly still has her pants on so that's good to know

Depends on the chick really, but sometimes i am gettin her off and sometimes i am just fingering them a little...so just fingering them a little is off limits until they have their panties off rightt? and do they uuussuually just take off their clothes themselves? or do we usually do it for them, you know what i mean?...like how do we hint to them that we want their clothes off?

and i didn't really understand what you were saying in the brackets here

""Don't touch her pussy at all until she is completely naked (first time only pretty much, unless she continues to do this).""


Thanks rye, did u get my pm by the way?

To be honest (again). I dont tend to put my fingers down there, i feel its kind of weird and i dont get nothing out it. I dont really start groping there breasts nither like they are the crown jewls. Buts thats just me, i do what i do.

And maybe if you did'nt call them 'tities' aswell, that might help.

And who says she has to have her clothes off. clothes on, clothes off, i dont seem to mind. Unless she's wearing a minging outfit, then i cant wait to rip them off.

Maybe you jus got the build up wrong?

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Sorry about not responding to your PM Cool, I saw it and didn't have time to reply and then forgot to flag it, I'll get to that soon as possible.

As far as undressing girls goes, you should be doing some heavy making out at that point, so she should either get the point and start going there, but if she doesn't, then you can either start helping her out of her clothes (making sure to keep her hands off of your clothes till she's fully undressed), or you can tell her to take her shirt off, then once you've got that off, you just start tugging at stuff and she should help from there, cause she's already given compliance by taking her shirt off.

Once you've had sex with her once, as long as she's still showing interest and you're in a position to have sex again, you need to continue with making her get undressed first, as it anchors the fact that you're The Man. The exceptions are if she's being dominant and you're letting her take control of the situation and she makes you strip first, you're doing it with clothes still partially on (raised skirt outside, or against a door), or she's wearing lingerie.

Hope that helps.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

sorry mann....her breeeaassts