Had a second date set up for this past Saturday. I closed on the first date which was two weeks ago.

On Saturday at 3pm I sent her a text...

Me(3pm): excited to see you tonight!

Her (5pm): need to reschedule. Or see you later. It's Sams bday dinner tonight! Friend duty.

Me (6pm): all good, I'll be out, give me a shout if you free up later

Her (6:05p): perfect

Her (3:00pm next day): hiiiii. We lost the apartment! I'm homeless again:( how was your night?

Me(3:30p): hey you. Had a great night. What happened?


Nothing since.

Does this broad have any interest or is she just playing me for attention? Sounds like she has no real interest in meeting up again but just likes my attention when she craves it.

Disrespectful as hell IMO. Though you handled it well.

Had you not texted her to say you were excited - you'd have been stood up.

Not sure what the whole apartment business is - but if she's losing her home then ok maybe she's got something bigger on her plate sucking up her time.

Tough to say if there's genuine interest. If you've already closed the deal then maybe she doesn't think it was all that good? She doesn't exactly appear to be chomping at the bit to get into your pants again, does she?

Agreed. The apartment bit is she is moving to NYC from BOS. Last Tuesday she told me she was signing a lease on her new apt in nyc. Then yesterday she said the lease fell through. Not sure what to think, but I'm def not happy with the way things turned out now that it has been over 24 hrs since hearing from her. This is why I hate dating. In order to be the one not getting hurt you have to be the one who treats the other person like shit.

Back burner and go for your other prospects then. I mean on top of that she is moving away from you anyway. I don't see a whole lot of value proposition here if it's a relationship you're after.

She sounds like she prob has some other options happening as well anyway.

She is replaceable.

She's moving to NYC. I live in NYC.

So you were going on random dates with a chick who lived in Boston then? Anyway regardless...

Same advice. That's just my 2 cents though.

Seems like she has a guy she is talking to already.

Next time she texts you, don't reply and see if she follows up with a second one.

And you don't have to treat anyone like shit, you just have to have standards and boundaries that you do not compromise. A woman can only love a man she respects, once the respect goes, the love goes right out the window with. So by standing on something, you maintain the respect.

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I feel you Eddie. I have to let this girl go though because she clearly does not respect me. Canceling a date last minute for clearly a BS reason. I already feel like a chump for responding to her on Sunday after she had canceled on me. I should have not responded then. Then she would have realized I don't take shit like that from anyone.

She hit me up again. The move is to ignore her and she if she sends another one right?

???

The move is the figure out how much self respect you have, and act accordingly. The move is to ignore her, period - or did you not read any of the advice, above?

It all centres around self respect.

Why would you want to date her? I shake my head at guys like you. Even if she does text you again where is the appeal in dating someone who doesn't respect you or your time?

You know the answer to this, already... You repeated it above...Are you looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear?

Love it! Yea feels good to. Be the one to walk away.