Female here.

Sounds like you did perfectly. She looked stunning b/c she wanted to look good for you, not for the play. If she was a little nervous and you caught her staring at you, she is clearly into you. Also, do you know how much courage it probably took for her to get your phone number and initiate??

Don't worry about only kissing her cheek. This was a short meet-up, basically a daytime date. I agree you should keep escalating, but I think it's okay to escalate slowly if you're looking for a relationship with this girl rather than just sex (I don't know your intentions). Next time touch her more throughout the date, even just holding her hand.

Definitely follow up by Monday. I agree with everything that's been said about leading. Women love it when a guy takes charge, makes the plans and we can relax and focus on looking pretty. This step of making the plans triggers something in a woman that makes her feel taken care of, which then causes her to feel receptive to you.

Good luck.

This is funny and probably bad text game on my end. Keep in mind I'm not good at texting at all which sucks because it can score me pretty high points to attraction.

Her: Hey how was the race?
Me: It was awesome, couple guys took a bad spill but I came out with my arms and legs attached. How was your weekend?
Her:Did you get caught in the fall as well? My weekend was good. Not too eventful. Just hanging out at home being lazy.
Me: No I didn't get caught in that. Home being lazy? Such a beautiful couple days we just had.
Me: Here's a good one. What's black and sits in the front of the TV doing absolutely nothing everyday?
Her: What?
Me: My sofa

I know bad joke but I though it was funny especially since it was the first think I saw looking across the room here. Anyways how can I counter this because I'd like to ask her what her plans are for the week, Obviously she thinks my joke sucked but whatever. Would you wait for her to get back or just hit her back with another text?

Please wait for her to get back. Women should be doing 70-80% of the pursuing in the first few weeks (that number should only increase as her attraction to you goes up)

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@wilyone

Thanks! Always great to hear from the perspective of a female in addition to male. After my previous text exchange we continued texting. I asked her what her Week looked like and that it would be nice to get together and se you again. She said Tuesday and Wednesday she is free. I then said Wednesday works good, Hows your Thursday eve? She said so far free. I said Great! Let's meet Thursday eve. She said sounds good. I left it there with the text exchange.

Now Wednesday I was thinking I'll get back to her and say I'll pick her up at X-time and we can do something like a dinner I suppose. I was thinking of hitting the docks this time around as their are nice places to eat by the beach and then afterwards take a stroll down the boardwalk. Is that to much? Or would you do a city scene? Also my logistics... Not sure if I would be able to borrow a car nor can she come to my place as I am roommates with my sister at her apartment and she's not having it. Any suggestions and tips will be helpful.

Why do guys like dinner dates so much? I don't mind it as PART of the date, but not the whole thing. Much rather bowling/ice rink first.

You should've already arranged when you'll pick her up, eliminating the need to contact her again.

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Good call. I can just say something like great meet you at x place at x time or I'll pick you up at x place at x time.

Also would borrowing a car be cheesed or should I just meet her in the city?

Meet her in the city. Don't borrow a car to impress her lol

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Well she won't be in the city that day and I won't either. That's why it's easier if I just picked her up from her place. I didn't suggest it yet but I was going to say that I can pick her up at Ike 7pm. I'll be doing my business outside of the city that day so the city will be inconvenient.

I wouldn't have arranged a date for a day that I wasn't exactly free... but it's up to you how you handle it, to be honest.

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Right exactly! Thats why I couldn't meet Tuesday and Wednesday as she specified. I suggested Thursday because after 4pm I'm free and that works because that day I will have a vehicle. Also the city is a great place but she always hangs there. I'd like to show her some other cool spots local to where I live and she doesn't live to far from me so it would work perfect. Bowling is an option. However I'm 30 and she's 39 or 40 I believe. Would you say that would be an solid place to go? I've been reading more on the bowling dates in your thread and it seemed highly recommended by many.

Yes. Make her feel like a kid again. Then take her for something to eat afterwards. That way you can really get to know her. Remember to escalate, too. It's not a crime to have dinner on a date, it's just a crime to base your date on it.

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Yes exactly what I was going to do. Looks like plans changed though. After I said I'll pick her up at 7pm She called me and said her sister and family had dinner plans for Thursday evening but she was available in the afternoon up until 5pm. She told me this on our first meet up when we were together that her sister is visiting from out of town and they like to hangout together. I said that wouldn't work for me because I'll be out of town that day and back in town around 5pm. I asked what other day worked best for her this week, hence Friday being the only day left.

She said Friday would be good unless her sister wanted to do something since she won't be here next week. I said Great! Let's meet at 7pm in the city. She said great that works. I then told her to just give me a call if anything comes up with your schedule. She said ok, goodnight, bye, adiós.

I don't know why she's so psyched on the city. I mean yeah it's an awesome place to be but theres also a bunch of cool stuff happening outside of it as well. I'll take her bowling out there and then we'll grab a bite afterwards.

P.S. Props to myself for spending only $15.50 on my first date with her.

Well done not spending too much. She's set herself up with an excuse to flake if she changes her mind, so don't get too invested thinking about Friday ok? Just assume it'll happen, and pursue other girls. You're not exclusive with this girl until she brings it up and you agree.

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Just realized that I didn't tell her were we would be meeting on Friday at 7pm. Would you say it's ok to just give her a call early afternoon to tell her to meet at xyz or text? Also I know you mentioned not to get to hung up on dinner dates. I was going to try out the bowling thing and then go for a walk around the city. Was thinking of just walking past a restaurant and saying... "Let's get food here." Or even just want into a place I'm familiar with that I enjoy going to that isn't to over the top and loud. Thoughts on that. Also, any other tips on having a solid second date would be helpful. It's been a while since I've been on one.

Almost forgot, how would you guys dress on your second date? Do you go all out and look really nice and clean cut? I'd like to say I have a clean style that has a mix of things from vintage, punk rock and post wwII union/blue collar if you will. This isn't covered here much so just wanted everyones take on that.

You're starting to overthink, which is getting you more and more invested and is dangerous. Call her suggesting where to meet. If you want something to eat after, just say "Lets get some food"

Don't think about second dates before you're even on the first one. That's a huge mistake so stop it.

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