Hey guys,

First off, thanks to all of you who help us noobs here, really appreciated!

I'm having some trouble sealing a date with a girl I know is interested.

A little back story:

1. She was a gym receptionist and we used to chat all the time...you know, long chats that were way more than a friendly hello.
2. She was married, and she also knew my wife! (So no playing)
3. I'm getting a divorce now, shot her an email and found out she is divorcing too. (I only have her email at this point)
4. She comments how it's "interesting" that we are both getting a D (girly destiny type convo)
5. Told me she'd "love" to meet me for lunch.
6. She Pulled out a couple of hours b4 our date, saying she had to take care of her kid as her ex was being creepy and wanted to take him from daycare.
7. I tried to reschedule and told her she could bring her kid and hang at my pool w me over weekend.
8. Exchanged a couple emails, and she's pissed about her ex being a jerk for upcoming divorce court BS.
9. I drop her an encouraging email re divorce, then don't hear from her for a couple weeks.
10. She crops up out of the blue telling me she's sorry she's been outta touch, but had a lot of highs and lows. Asked me if I can meet for lunch this upcoming. Monday.


So:

A. I like this girl and she's girlfriend material for me. That's the route I want to go.
B. I need a little game here, as I've tried to meet with her and suggested dates several times but to no avail.
C. I don't want her to walk over me, me agree to Monday, then have her blow me out again.

Thoughts welcome!!

I like your instinct of not wanting to jump at her lunch suggestion after she had flaked on you before and had a long time with no contact.

She has to WONDER about you and what you're up to and right now she thinks you're on the edge of your seat waiting for her next email to come through and waiting with bated breath to meet up with her.

Reply later next week thanking her for the invite; telling her you had a busy weekend if you had one; and being upbeat. Get her phone # so u can text her.

In the meantime get out there and meet some more women. This one may be able to tell she's the only carrot in the pot at the present time.

Thanks Oceanx! Interesting insight regarding her knowing she may be the only carrot! )

Good call, I was tempted to write her back today. I'll wait.

Was fucking the Ex, and now that dried up.
She is possible piece of ass material; THAT is the route you NEED to go 1st!
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I think you've post about her before.

Step one: Slow your role, take a deep breath and relax. Guys have to stop with the whole girlfriend material thing before they've extensively gotten to know a girl intimately. I've dated some of what appear to be the "coolest" girls ever before being intimate, who turned out to be emotional wrecks after letting their guards down. Some gym convos aren't going to tell you nearly enough about a girl to make that call. Not to mention: She's currently getting a divorce, do you think she's in the emotional space right now to have a healthy relationship with anyone? I would think there are some things one most sort out in a bit of alone time before just jumping into the next situation. Now while it is possible it could work out, I'm just encouraging you to take her off the mental pedestal you're putting her on.

Its a good story. 2 divorced people meet up and live happily ever after just shortly after breaking away from their partners and knowing each other from a distance all along. Great story. And I'm sure you would love to get your hollywood movie thing on with this one, but thats only going to happen if you play your role. You have to remain objective and relaxed. Don't force the story. Acknowledge the possibility, but only take steps forward if the logistics are working out. Hold her to a standard and be willing to walk off the set if she isn't making every effort to live up to it.

Her first flake already isn't a good sign. I would of likely already walked, but considering your situation I understand.

Its a mind frame thing man. Get in the right mind space. You thoughts will create your feelings and your feelings will influence the way you behave. Keep that in mind and replace the fairy tale thoughts with some that are a little more objective.. for now.

Let me know if theres anything else.

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This goes beyond PUA advice and is sheer wisdom.

I appreciate it Eddie, really neat advice, and thank you for the sanity check.

My previous posts actually relate to another girl I recently met...who has now flaked. :-/