Ok, so she's not TECHNICALLY my superior, but she is a catering manager (i work at a hotel downtown). I work with her very rarely (on the occasion that i work a banquet event, she will sometimes be there), so i don't get to talk to her much. Something happened at work recently (kinda dropped a shit ton of plates during a banquet and one fell on a lady ), so i went to her office (the manager) to find out this lady's address so i could send her something as an apology. We got to talking about what happened, then it went into how she essentially is a very philantrophistic person (which i pretty much am the biggest sucker for), and how she loves dogs (as do I), plus she's cute as fuck, so that doesn't hurt. Anyways, asked for my number so she could text me the information (she couldn't get it that day), which i thought was... different, because she could have just as easily emailed me, but instead she indirectly gave me a way to text her/call her.

My thing is that i REALLY want to try and go out with her, but I don't know the rules about fraternizing with superiors (out of departments), nor do i want to draw attention to myself by asking someone. When i talked to her, things that took place of importance:

*i came in with a banter line
*had alpha posture, eye contact, body language balance, etc
*She qualified herself (she spend a good while telling me about her charity event she did, very excited to show me from what i saw)
*we both talked about our dogs (so we basically built rapport for a bit)
*very smilely, and was talking a lot (to the point that i ended up having to leave, unfortunately), but she was making it a point to continue the conversation

So my dilemma; I'm off next friday, i unfortunately don't work with her all that often, but i want to see if she wants to do something friday. It feels odd just casually texting manager about something that isn't work related out of the blue, but the best option i have is to ask her out via call/text.

Do you guys think i should still try to shoot the shit with her a bit before asking, or just go in for the kill (i.e., have i built myself up enough where i don't have to Re-DHV?), or is this just a risk as fuck idea period?

This is not a one-itis situation, this is a "holy fuck i would wife this girl given the chance"-itis, so definitely is important to me!

So you've already put this chick up on a pedestal, and haven't even seen her titties yet?

Is it me or is this like the 3rd "This girl at work" post today..... Do people ever step out of the box anymore?

There are a shit ton of “cons” to dating your co-worker. But I doubt you care at this point...


Let's just keep it simple...

Text her "Hey, I'm doing this 'thing' Friday after work, I elected you co-pilot."

Or "Decided to make a life altering decision today.... I'll let you in on it Friday after work over a beer."

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Haha I'm still attempting to overcome oneitis, so its a process. I like that Copilot one!

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All of these girls are special and unique apparently

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well i'll say this much... i've had four individual one-itis' in the past couple days, which is significantly more than normal, so

but i'm easing out of it!

It's not oneitis, it's lackapussy.

If you're spinning a plate on a stick, and you drop it, you've dropped everything, ruined everything.

If you're spinning 10 plates at once and you drop 1... no big deal. You're still spinning 9, still incredible.

Moral of the story: Get more girls.

^ Don't take my advice listed above, until you've fixed your inner game. So many new guys hate inner game. *insert leg day analogy*

You're thinking "all I need is THE ONE! Just that one special girl, and I'll be happy!" bullshit. Firstly, no such thing as "the one" and I'm being brutally honest. Secondly, why would a girl go with/stay with a guy who is miserable? Would you go to a party where everybody was miserable, or one where everybody was having an amazing time?

Also, guys who depend on a girl to be happy... eventually get so scared of losing the girl, that they get paranoid, jealous, clingy and they become abusive "nice guys" ...constantly wanting to check her phone because "they trust her, but they don't trust other guys, so they need to look after her!"

Until you make yourself happy, you can't expect to make anybody else happy.

Start working out, get a promotion at work, get a new hairstyle, get a tan, learn a new language, learn a new instrument, take up a new hobby, get back to an old hobby that you used to enjoy, do that one thing that you've always wanted to do but for some reason never got around to doing... take your pick, just achieve some things and become the best version of yourself. Masculinity grows through breaking barriers and achieving things. Masculinity attracts femininity.

I was (kind of) in your position, so I started 4 college courses, driving lessons (they're on hold at the moment), got a new haircut, got a tan, started working out, got better with women, started making money at home through matched betting and quit my job because I was unhappy and didn't want to spend 1/3 of my life unhappy and the other 2/3 either asleep or dreading going back to work...

TLDR; become happy with yourself, then get plenty of options so you're not scaring girls off 1 by 1 and each individual girl isn't such a big deal.

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I'm digging it bro.

Except I do love leg day haha. Coincidentally, I love inner game building, just have a long way to go!

Yes it is.

Any girl that you're developing " i would wife" for before you've got a firm understanding of their mannerisms and behaviors outside of the work environment is the clear development stages of oneitis. Theres a lot more to wifing a woman than you'll be able to see in an attractive face, smiles, and casual conversation at work. I'd hope you would require more than that before you even start considering her for the possibility of anything serious.

But with that being said.. If the job isn't all the important to you. Go for it. Why not? Her title has nothing to do with what she finds attractive biologically. How do you think all of these students are fucking these teachers? Its nature. Women like what they like and often lean toward their "strong feelings" despite what it may mean.

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Good perspective. I unfortunately don't have all too many chances to talk to her in person which sucks, and idk the rules of attraction building that like, in the sense that I've built it with her in an interaction already, need I do it again before asking her to do some shit?

I would advise against it. Been there done that. It takes some tact to defuse these kinds of situations which can end very badly.

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I too am interested in hearing about this