Hey guys, I have a question that has really been haunting me. I live in a country where it isn't common for strangers to talk to each other. The general mindset here is that it's weird when someone randomly speaks to someone else they dont know, and people will stare and pay attention to what you do. Also, people will feel surprised and tend to avoid these random street talks (could be at a coffee house, on the street, in a club even).

Does anyone have any advice on what to do? What sort of openers should I run? How can I get a girls # with this kind of mindset going around?

I'm new to this so I would really appreciate honest, kind responses. Peace.

What country is this?

Sounds like an excuse to me.

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Colombia. And trust me, wouldn't be posting otherwise. Peace.

One of my best friends is columbian and he didn't have an issue getting laid when he visited. No one is saying you have to be a raving approaching maniac, but babies are being made in columbia am I correct? People are having sex, there are parties etc.

The best opener you can use is "Hola"

Its not about what you say its all about how you say it. Its all about the vibe and frame you are projecting. The best opener will fall flat if it isn't delivered from the proper vibe.

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One of my best friends is columbian and he didn't have an issue getting laid when he visited. No one is saying you have to be a raving approaching maniac, but babies are being made in columbia am I correct? People are having sex, there are parties etc.

The best opener you can use is "Hola"

Its not about what you say its all about how you say it. Its all about the vibe and frame you are projecting. The best opener will fall flat if it isn't delivered from the proper frame.

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Women emotionally respond to the exact same things (on different levels, but not very different) no matter where they're from, or any other excuse that you can think of, really.

Wanna know what you're doing? You're trying to justify why you "can't" do it. You're trying to find reasons why it's not your fault that you "can't" do it. I'm from a rough area and I used to tell myself "I'll end up getting stabbed if I do this shit, just walk up and talk to some girl who could have a boyfriend" ...then I decided to stop being a little bitch and ask myself better questions. By that I mean, hmm... hard to explain. But I'll try:

When you ask yourself a question, your brain will immediately think of an answer. Try it now, ask yourself what your name is, ask yourself what colour your hair is. Notice your brain being all honest? Now ask yourself why you CAN be just as good as any other pick up artist, no matter where they're from! Ask yourself what it is that girls will like so much about you. Ask yourself what makes you so attractive to girls. Yea, powerful isn't it?

Now get a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle of it. On the left side, write down a list of all of the positive things that will happen if you start approaching girls, literally everything you can think of. On the right side, write down a list of all of the negative things that will happen if you DON'T start working on your game and approaching girls. You decide if it's worth it.

1 more thing: Try a little reframe - you're from a place where it's not normal to talk to strangers. HOW COOL IS THAT!? That means you're like the only guy doing it! You literally have no competition. You lucky fucker, you.

Now stop the excuses, go and kill it.

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Thanks J.Daniels! You just made me see a whole new world with the idea that I could be the only one doing it! I appreciate the post and I'm gonna stop overthinking it and go for it.