Guys,

I need your help. My ex broke up with me and I'm definitely not yet over her.

Today I was stupid enough to make contact with her (after 4 weeks). She kept sending me messages on how I was and this morning my emotions got the best of me.

I initiated contact and told her I wanted to see her. She was defensive/surprised in the beginning but we agreed to meet up at her place tonight.

What should I do now?

Should I come up with an excuse and cancel the meet up (might look obvious)?

Should I go? And If I go what should I do?

Thanks so much.

If you go you're gonna fuck, get your fix, start overinvesting emotionally and in one week time you'll be back here with your progress set back to square 0, your emotions shredded and wondering why she's ignoring you.


Be honest.
"My emotions got the best of me this morning. We both know this is a bad idea. Gonna have to cancel."

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Looks like you have made the decision to go see her already...

This feeling of wanting her back, Usually happens during the duration of watching brazzers porn right before the cum shot

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You are so right. It's funny to see how I am fooling myself thinking I'm going to just go there "saying goodbye". Thinking fucking her will give me some sort of "walking away with my head high feeling". While in reality (and thats the hard part to see right now) by tomorrow I will probably get hit so hard by having been intimate with her again I be at square 0 immediately.

There are 2 scenarios I'm seeing must I go to her:

The first I ignore all relationship talk, act though, have fun, be the cool attractive guy and end up fucking her...
Second I try the above but fail miserably and become an emotional loser, which she might just even fuck out of pity...

Anyway not worth it!

how can you say this and then follow up with the question in the subject?

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I'll bet #2.

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Bet he did #2 (hope I'm wrong).

Key things to remember:

-You don't actually want her, rather you want the effect she had on you - most any woman you're attracted to can make you feel this way, she's just a symbol/figure

-Did she inspire you to become the best version of yourself? Likely not or you wouldn't be in this situation

-It is your ATTACHMENT that is trying to dupe you into making contact with her. Like a drug addict, our the reward centre of our brain influences us to seek-out pleasure while reducing pain, its only normal to want to reach-out to an ex. With time that attachment will become less till eventually its gone and we're free of it.

-She dumped you, in her mind you weren't good enough for her for whatever reason. Does she truly deserve you?

I followed your guys advice and cancelled. For which I'm really happy. I haven't heared from here since.
It's with ups and downs but I can sense that I'm getting better at putting my mind in the right place.

Thanks guys!

Great job! Trust in yourself. That feeling you're experiencing right now is a result of doing just that. Keep it up.

Right thing to do but I hope you were at least apologetic for insisting on seeing her and then backing out.

I'm surprised by how many guys do this--Press really hard to see a woman and then back out. Puts the woman on an emotional rollercoaster as well.

I'll be the first to admit I'm both surprised and proud of you. We need more people that actually want what's best for them around here.
Dafuq?

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LOL RC my thought exactly. Maybe this person is his ex, or more likely someone on the receiving end like the OP's ex.

I blocked her on FB. But today I see a pic of a friend of hers where they are sitting in a bar and her ex is at the same table. I get overmanned by emotions and call her...

She tells me nothing is going on and that it was a coincidence.

I can sense some kind of dark satisfaction in the sound of her voice now that I'm calling her.

After that question I tell her that's all and we say goodbye. I get a message saying:

"I dont want you to call me anymore if you call for that stuff and ignore all the rest (She has been sending messages which I ignored...). So long and have fun fucking other girls"

First of all;

I should just not respond right?

Secondly:

She was talking to a girlfriend of me this weekend about that she was struggling with our break up. Later that night a friend of me saw her crying. That in combination with the messages she sent me asking to come to my place to drop my stuff this weekend and the photo are really making it hard on me. All in all I think I've been doing quite good (obviously with some exeptions) the past 5 weeks but the above makes it feel as If i'm slipping...
Could use some great peptalk or whatever!

For the record, she broke up with me and I believe I'm still crazier about her than the other way around.

Thx so much.