So basically you didn't listen to the advice you got.

Who would've though...

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Nah, I just wanted to do not end this like children through texting. She saying that ,,ahh I didn't want a new BF, but he just came across" seems kinda fake. Well, I'm gonna just show her how happy I can be without her, get a life, try not to be an emotion bitch and if it won't work, well, there's nothing to lose.

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You wont be any of those things as long as your purpose is "showing her".

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So she was banging some dude behind your back and you still want to win her back? Move on... Relationship wasnt "brilliant"... She just played you

Good point R.C., I actually ment that if I'll get back in game, she'll see it anyway and I don't belieave that she was banging anyone, actually she met him like 2 days ago (as far as I know and I think I know well), and were like ,,Hell, why not, let's see a movie", maybe trying to hit me just for fun, maybe trying to get like you know, don't know english word - start seeing somebody just to forget about you ex just for a while. Now I'm more like pissed off, maybe waiting for that moment when I'll see her after she realised what she'd lost, saying how much she misses me and I'll be like ,,Muahahah, burn in hell, infidel!" Well, maybe I overreacted.

The only problem is my mindset and my gay heart. I want to move on, start living 100% but my gay heart still suffers, whispering - doooont go to sleeeep, think aboooout her. Well, I have a plan, and if I have enought balls I'll post the results, if any will come.

Thanks guys

EDIT: Actually you can tell me how pathetic or retarded my idea is. I work in a small tourist city, you know, sea, thousands of visitors, hundreads of HBs. I finish my shift at 8.am and my goal is to, every day, find after work a nice girlset, that come with an opener like ,,Hey girls, I have a question, are your boyfriends very jelaous?" and according to the answers tell them that I've recently broke up with my GF and want to show her that I'm doing great and such, and if I can shoot a selfie with them, post in on FB (why not, we don't share any friends). First of all, I think that's not needy and may end up in nice conversation (send it to my FB, but hey, we may meet up for a beer or something later), good way to fight my shyness and the orginal outcome - let her see I'm happy and doing fine. Very gay?

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Sounds borderline.

borderline?

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Borderline Personality Disorder (as previously defined in the DSM IV TR)

Signs & Symptoms

According to the DSM, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR), to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, a person must show an enduring pattern of behavior that includes at least five of the following symptoms:

Extreme reactions—including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions—to abandonment, whether real or perceived
A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self, which can result in sudden changes in feelings, opinions, values, or plans and goals for the future (such as school or career choices)
Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
Chronic feelings of emptiness and/or boredom
Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
Having stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality.

I was being a tad facetious but there are elements to her behavior which fit the description - although some women will fit that bill at some time during a relationship which doesnt mean they necessarily have a PD.


So anyway her telling you she found a new BF is protest behaviour and intended to get a reaction from you. This new bf may not even exist.

best to leave this one alone

Move on with your life NOT to show her but to show to yourself that you can be the man you've always wanted to be. You can't be this man while with her.

thanks n2, helped a lot

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Dude you are in obvious pain. That's fine, we've all been there at one point.

What you need to understand is that whatever you do as a means to demonstrate anything to her will not help your case in the slightest.

Sure it may make her jealous, make her come back begging even. But you'll still be same wreck of a guy and it won't be long before she feels it and leaves your ass permanently or fuck another guy behind your back.

Focus on what's important. You. Accept she is not in your life anymore and that's OK. You'll be fine man.
Don't trust your negative emotions. Eddie once said that "just because you feel something doesn't make it a valid reason to act on it." Take that to heart.

Go out with friends, practice your hobbies, whatever. It gets better.

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Showing her is why Facebook was made...

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Not only accept that she's no longer in your life anymore, but that you'd be become complacent with yourself in continuing with her.

I know for myself I want a woman that inspires me to be MY best, not inspires me to put her needs ahead of my own.

This girl isn't for you, at least at this point in time. Forgive her for all her faults, it is part of healing and moving on. Forgive yourself for your faults, and use this opportunity to grow as a person. Learn to LOVE you again (or perhaps for the very first time in your life). This means learning to be cool with being alone, and actually enjoying it at times. This will help you in your next relationship if the girl simply doesn't meet your standard u'll be able to leave much more easily to free yourself up for somebody more compatible.

It's the people who relationship-jump I feel bad for, they never take the time to be with themselves and grow. They end up perpetuating their relationship issues they'd learned in childhood and never grow.

Thanks to you guys I've learned much.
My heart still complains as I was really happy with her, but on the other hand, I asked myself ,,Do I really want to be with a person who laughed me in the face while I was saying how much I love her?"
As someone once said, partially I'm a ,,beta bitch prisoner of my emotions" but now I know what to do. The problem always was in - ,,Don't act like that person, become that person"
Some people never were in love, I've spent 8 great months and I still complain? Come to Poland one day and each one of you have a crate of beer

On the other hand, she was on anti-pills all the time, which contain a lot of hormons, than she was complaining that she might've forgotten to take one and took the day-after pill which contains a blast of hormons, so I was thinking, maybe that's why she's exploded?

Still I wonder, the guy she started meeting after our break up (I saw him when I came to pick her up so he seems real) is like, to piss me off, show something, forget about us as fast as possible? Or maybe hell why not.

Thanks for all the advices, I truly must become the man I've always wanted, not think that I am one. You're better than a legion of psychologists

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You're hurting, you have an open wound right now. That open wound is very much experienced in the brain like a physical wound - in fact it involves the same pain centers. Be compassionate to yourself, it will take time and you will have your moment so have a contingency plan in the event you want to scratch that attachment itch and potentially contact her.

Use this opportunity to grow as a person and I guarantee u'll attract more quality people in your life. People worth your time.