I was reading The Game by Style and was contemplating the fact that he "overshot his goal." I think that the reason he did so was that he never actually defined what a win, for him, was. I will attempt to do this because I don't want my life to lose its excitement. I don't want to lose my personality in the process of picking up women. What exactly is the point of "gaining the world but losing your soul?"

I know, for me, what a win isn't. I'm not after sex. I am celebate. Most guys have sex to prove something to themselves and possibly others. I refrain from sex to prove myself. I turned down two threesomes in as many weeks. It's easy to have sex. It's hard to say no.

A win isn't using the same lines and openers with set after set after set. I simply want to be comfortable approaching beautiful women and getting to know them for who they are, and then being equipt to take the relationship to the next level.

I guess what I want from the pu lifestyle is to see a chick that I can see myself marrying and then be able to pick her up.

Every game gets old after you have been playing it for too long. It would be a true loss to make being a pua my identity and then have nothing left when it comes time for the next phase of my life.

Maybe this is just the afc in me coming out, I don't know. What is a win for you? I think that this may be important for your development as a pua.

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take her breath away.

A win is very personal. First, it comes to personal goal setting. What is your short term goal, your intermediate term goal, and your long term goal. Here's an example of these goals (not mine, just an example):

Short term: Get enough confidence to blow through AA.
Intermediate term: Get a girlfriend
Long Term: Have a mLTR

In one hand, you can have your general goals, but in the other, you can have your goals for each individual set. For example, your goal could be to try something new, like a new routine.

Whatever your goal is, make it attainable. Keep in mind that attainable does not mean easy. Challenge yourself. No one appreciates anything that they do not have to work for. Every time that you reach your goal, take a step back and reassess where you are in your life. At this time, you should be setting higher, harder goals. Never settle.

Every time that you meet a goal, it's a win.

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Life is a game. Win.

Your stance on seems a little pompous, to assume that most guys do it to prove something, i know that just as when i kiss a woman it's because i'm attracted to her, so sex is just a progression of that, it's fun aswell.

I suppose a win for me at the moment is sex though, it's the ultimatre form of attraction and if your game is to attract women, then what better goal?