So I'm going to keep this short, obviously I'm AFC or I wouldn't be typing this.

> Getting mixed signals from my best friend for a few weeks, she seems interested but i'm not so sure. I think this is because I'm going to college in another country (USA, i'm from AUS originally).
> I fly over to NYC.
> Still getting mixed signals but she's still flirting even though i am not its been nearly 3 weeks.
> Tells me she's coming over to NYC to see me for New Years. And Organised it.
> The only contact I have with her is text and video call. So it's hard to tell if she is interested or not.
> I'm definitely not "in love with her" but I am intrigued by her, she's a HB9 and ticks all my boxes.
> Although, I think i'm still in the friend zone even if she is being flirty.
> So how do i get out of the friend zone before New Years with only my phone?
> Also her and I have both had feelings for each other at separate times over the last few years (we haven't had anything sexual happen).

I assume best friend zone is different?

I'd appreciate any advice you guys can give me. Thanks.

EDIT: I want to have sex with her, a relationship long distance while in college is not want any guy should want.

Because you seem to want some quick fixes, and there aren't any, I'll just give you some good material for your situation.

YouTube: Jason Capital (I've seen videos on the friendzone, but all of his videos will help you)

YouTube: Adam Lyons (mainly his old shit, I've seen friendzone stuff by him, too)

YouTube: Richard "Gambler" La Ruina

Another idea would be to maybe start a game... give it a random name. For example:

"Wanna play the out of 10 game? You do know it, right?"

*she says no, so you tease her for not knowing, saying all the cool kids know it, but if she sticks with you she'll be alright cause you'll get her as cool as you in no time*

You say "All you basically do, is ask the other person something like "How good are you at singing?" or "How hot do you think Cheryl Cole is" and they answer it on a rating out of 10. It helps you get to know me ha. Don't make it sexual though, I know what women are like"

Then you say you'll go first.

Ask her something like "How good can you handle alcohol?"

*She asks you something*

Ask her "How good/bad was your first ever kiss?"

*She asks you something*

Ask her "How much of a good kisser are you?"

*She asks you something*

Etc.

See how you escalate?

Just, you know, random.

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Thanks dude, appreciate it!
Although if I escalate it so it is is sexual, even just a little bit, wouldn't it be the wrong thing to do? Because I'm still in the friendzone?

Assume that she wants to fuck you (seriously, you need to) until she directly tells you otherwise. Even then, take it as her joking. No doesn't always mean NO! If you act like a friend and get too scared to make it sexual, you'll be treated like a friend. If you act sexual (not overly sexual and thirsty, just flirty) then she'll probably go along with it.

If she literally tells you "I want to be friends" then it's time to say "Oh, I'm not really interested in friendship. I think you're an incredibly sexy, funny girl and I'd like to see where we can go... but friendship isn't really something I want. But give me a call if you change your mind, cause I really do think you're cool" then you walk, and you don't look back. That will be a struggle, but we've all had to do it at one point or another. Most of us got into pickup, because we were in the friendzone. I tell you what though, I haven't been there in 5 years ...cause I walk away. It's the right thing to do. It's better than being false and leading her on. You want what makes you happy.

Also, don't be afraid to be too busy to text her back. If she texts you while you're at work, reply on your break or when you finish work. If she texts you after 9pm, don't be afraid to text back the next day. Girls fucking despise guys who are willing to drop everything just to talk to her.

Seriously, everything you've ever known about women, is fucking wrong lol. The films brainwash guys so badly from birth. I was so angry when I realised this shit. but then, I was happy to see how much I could turn it around.

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Thank you, seriously you're a fucking champ!

By escalating sexually you find out the truth if she likes you.

People think it's a risk. But it isn't, there no friendship since you want to empty your balls into all her holes.

How do you find out if a dog likes you? You stroke it. If it growls or runs away you know the truth. I could of used a better example than a dog but you get what I mean.

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This.

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Way different.

You've allowed yourself to be in position you weren't content and happy with and dealt with it anyway just to maintain contact with an attractive girl with the hope that maybe one day something like "this" would happen. Now while absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this situation possibly made you slightly more attractive than you were before; hence her slight interest, you are still the same guy. You're still her friend and you're still driving behind her on a one way street thinking about a way that you could get ahead. If this weren't the case you wouldn't be making this post and trying to get with someone thats suppose to be your friend. I never try to get with any of my friends. Thats why we're friends.

Had you said something like " Nah its cool. I'll just see you when I come visit" when she suggested she come to new york you would of been in a slightly different position. But of course you don't have it in your to object to her or show emotional independence because if you did you wouldn't be in this situation.

She's your friend man.. Keep the friend.

Not to mention, you're in New York f***ing city. This is the biggest city on earth and some of the most attractive women from all over the world come here to visit and chase their dreams. Why in the world are you worrying about some girl back home? Because you think you may finally have a shot in hell with an attractive woman? And not with the millions of attractive women that are going to pass you on the street every day?

Your attitude is what landed you in this situation. And the hope of getting with your best friend who's thousands of miles away is exactly whats going to keep you in this situation. You have to learn to let go man.

Ask her to help you get laid and she'll find you more attractive than she would with you sitting around waiting for a chance like a puppy waiting for food from his master.

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Yeah I get you, I mean we've been friends since before we even hit puberty so it's not so much i've been a bitch about it, but i'm not gonna lie in someways i guess i have. The signals im getting off her was my reason to post this, not my feelings for her, because lets be clear here i don't need her, depend on her, miss her so much im going to kill myself or anything else.
And in regards to other girls i met one last night and my game was fire, i just didn't get the close I wanted, but if we meet up again and its "the last time we'll see each other" I know i can close it with sex (HB8).

Thanks, I'll definitely think about this and act on it.

I wouldn't say I disagree with this, but I'm 50-50. It doesn't exactly work in his favour when it comes to pre-selection, but I suppose it would make her think "Oh, I think he liked me..." and it'd also make her realise that he IS a sexual person. I'd probably be more into ME being the one to help HER get laid, though (as a joke, of course - disqualifying myself by helping her find a "nice young man" and whatever)

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Five months of gaming is way too much effort to get sex on new years eve. Youre in nyc.. I'm just saying, I won't actively do all of that for a girl coming at the end of the year. If she comes and you still want her then go for it.

Yeah I get you, i'll just see if there's anything when she gets here if not i don't care someone else will if she doesn't.
Meeting up with a girl in a few days so hopefully i can full close.

No. Put in the hard work of regularly getting with women and you won't need advice on how to get 'this one girl'. Maybe you'll need advice for the finer points but "I NEED THIS GIRL AND THIS GIRL ONLY" screams one-itus.

I just wanted to update and say that my best friend is out of my life. It's not really something to celebrate but I'm happy, feel bad for her but I'm happy. Probably should of done it years ago but yeah. She's a nice girl so I feel like I made the wrong decision, but I think it had to be done..
Anyways thanks for kicking my ass for me. Much appreciated. Hopefully now I can get laid and take my mind off of it.
Ps I told her as politely as possible I can't be friends with her but I'll be around if she wants to try again. And she said "Go fuck your self." So I guess she didn't care too much