I found out a girl I was having sex with was having sex with two other dudes as well about a week ago - juck. She went in crazy mode when I confronted her about it, saying we absolutely "have to remain friends" and calling me unreasonable for telling her that isn't going to happen. I deleted her from FB however not from Snapchat - guess that is the oneitis in me. I also contacted one of the dudes - in a friendly, hey bro just fyi way - asking if he knew about me, since she claimed he did - he deleted her from FB/his life as well.

Fast forward to the weekend, was at a female's friends place and I put a picture of her in her pool on my story "time to relax", I got a random snap from her shortly after - seemed irrelevant, opened it and ignored it and just had (non sexual) fun with friend. I think I then got blocked and unblocked (I saw a notice in the evening that she added me as a friend)? I clicked the [v] thing next to the announcement, which I think removes someone as friend and clicked it again which I think added her again? (yeah, I'm not good with this stuff)

Today I got a snap in the morning of a plush toy I won for her at carnival saying "Mr Paws says hi ..", ignored it, followed by a picture of her laying in bed around 10 hours later saying "Sooo, you're not going to respond?"

I decided to respond - text only obviously. The conversation went something like:

"Hey x, why are you contacting me?"
-"I saw you readded me during the weekend. Thought we were ok Guess not"
"I never deleted you from snapchat. Thought you'd understand when I said I wasn't going to be just friends with you?"
-"I do, please delete me from snapchat"
"Feel free to do it yourself, you're mature enough to make your own decisions I have learned." (Is this too much "you've been a bitch"?)
-"I just did " (I assume she actually did it - her story disappeared)
"Oke, well, I have a visitor so bye" (and I did) (she read this snap)

Should I have responded to her snap or was it too early? Looking back at it now, I feel I gave her what she wanted: (too much) attention while lonely/bored
I went no-contact because I feel I was too invested in her and I tried too hard and I want to forget her after the bullshit she pulled. Should I have just removed her from snapchat as well? I feel like I should have
Did I lose anything by responding the way I did? I don't feel like I really lost power/dominance but not 100% sure
If she actually deleted me, is that bad or good? I feel its good (and fun) that I can make her that emotional with such little text but does it reduce the chance of her contacting me again? (can be good or bad, I don't know yet)
Did I handle it correctly if I do decide that I want to fuck her again in the future?

Obviously resetting my "no-contact timer"

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yikes, that was a difficult read...

I don't really get it. You are angry with a girl (that is single) you slept with recently and you stopped all contact since she slept with other guys...

If you're pissed at her....Just ignore her???????

If you want her back, then stop moaning that she is meeting other guys. This isn't like frogs mating, girls are allowed to have sex with other people too...it is called, being single

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Here is the communication you are sending her: "We are not bf and gf but I find it my business that you are having sex with other people. I judge you. You are a slut. I care too much about you."

Of course she friend-zoned you after this. Why do you care who she is having sex with, if you guys aren't together?

Get this, women have sex. The next girl you are with, she's probably had sex, she probably has options of who she can have sex with, and she probably is having sex. Find some new girls so that you don't have to care who she is having sex with. Is it your sex life or yours?

Part of the game is mastering yourself. Your jealousy is an important thing to tame .

Oh and it wouldn't have mattered what you said in the snapchat thing after.

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This is getting ridicules.

The last 4 post I've run into on this forum are all oneitis questions. What the hell are we turning into as men? My stomach is turning lol. Lord help us.

Look man..

When you moved on you made the right decision. Just because you're feeling weak, attached and desperate doesn't validate you going back on your decision. She'll lose further respect for you than she had originally and this situation will become more emotionally draining.

I don't delete numbers or snapchats, because I just learn to live with it. I've developed thick skin (which is what this forum is all about. Pick up artist), however if your'e not yet capable. Delete her and move forward with your life. You're wrapping yourself up in something you're not emotionally ready for.

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Maybe you were just not pleasing her as much as those other dudes?

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