Fuck. Direct. Approaches.
That's been my mistake the entire time. All those anxious fucking days I had, all those approaches where I learned almost nothing..all just a smokescreen to what the true solution was.
I was reading about pickup last night and somewhere came across indirect vs. direct approaches. As I read into it...It was clear that direct approaches are fucking retarded, unless you're handsome like Steve Jabba or just fucking smooth and energetic like Tyler Durden. I'm not either of those guys. I'm a fucking NEWBIE, an AFC. Give me the tools to remove that.
INDIRECT APPROACHES are perfect, because it doesn't immediatly make the HB have to judge me (which will 99 times out of a hundred be a no). I can DHV, and do everything necessary to create attraction, without if it was already there, make it fucking pointless. Indirect approaches are what I was missing all along. And it's what I'm going to stick with all along. All of my previous successes.....INDIRECT.
So today I decided fuck it, and put it to the test. I was nervous as shit at first. So I started looking at some opinion openers, and one person came up with one, and it was so fucking creative, I had to do it myself. I drew a small stick figure comic on some cardboard at work, and when I went for coffee....started doing some approaches on the streets of Toronto (something I just do NOT ever fucking do). The first girl was in a hurry. The second girl I approached...she is very important.
We were standing on a corner for a light. I was there for 10 seconds before I said anything, because I was unsure if I even wanted to. But in my head, I was like "FUCK THIS. YOU ARE DOING THIS. IS THIS ALL YOU GOT, APPROACH ANXIETY? FUCKING SCARE ME, BITCH, DO IT." I waved my hand at her, and she pulled out her earphones (earphones are no longer an excuse). I asked her if she would buy my art in an art gallery for 2000$, and she said if it was part of a set, then yes. I proceeded to ask her if she was an artist, and she said she is (BAM MOTHERFUCKER). I did some escalation by examining her different clothes/jewelry (she was denying she was an artist, I was proving it to her). She said that I was good looking after I neggingly called her adorable, which was surprising since I was in fucking CONSTRUCTION CLOTHING....ONE MORE EXCUSE GONE. But seriously long story short, I made her laugh a lot, it was a good interaction, I went for a number close, but she said she had a boyfriend, and I could tell it was sincere. She wanted me to come say hi if I ever see her again if I ever saw her. It's not like it could have worked out anyways, she lives in fucking Toronto. But I did it just because. And I'm so fucking glad I did. I did the opener on a few other women (none of which were fuckable), just because.
When I next went to the mall for the gym today, I wanted to do the cologne opener (which is spray two different colognes on your wrists, and ask for their opinion). I drove into the mall feeling anxiety, so I again just went PSYCHO and blasted music(which is telling my anxiety that its weak, doesn't control me, that the stronger it gets, the greater my victory will be when I crush it). That's what I'm gonna call it. Going psycho. It's in a book I read called The Good Psychopath's guide to success. You should read it.
I walked around the mall for a bit, mainly to cash a cheque. It was difficult for me to spot a set I wanted to approach, and the longer I took, the more I got into my head, and the worse my approaches were going to be. I tried my hardest to keep my cool, but the second I approached a girl, it felt weird and unnatural, and I'm sure she could feel it too. "Excuse me, miss, I need a female opinion. Really quick." It just came out fucking wrong. She refused, she was probably thinking I wanted to sell her something anyways. It fucked me up a little bit in the gym, but in the end, it actually fueled my workout, and I squeezed in an extra chinup for a record today. YEAH BITCH, NINE FUCKING CHINUPS.
I wanted to get a picture of me doing bicep curls, but couldn't spot any girls I could approach. There was a woman doing stretching over by the side, so I said fuck it and got her to do it. I cracked a lot of jokes with her, and she kept saying "You're funny!" I definitely gained a new gym friend. But this is when weird shit started to happen, dudes I knew just kept appearing on my way to doing cardio. I looked and felt like a fucking superstar. I was making people laugh, having good interactions. This indirect stuff...I'm built for it. I've gotten so good at conversation with strangers, its amazing..
I wanted to get in one approach before I left the mall. I wanted to make it seem like I "JUST" noticed the girl. So I started looking at MysteryMethod on my phone(I think this is what I'm going to base all of my approaches off of in the future), looking up every now and again to see if a girl was near me or had noticed me. I looked at the in depth definition of the three second rule, and immediatly put it to the test. Make eye contact. Smile and approach IMMEDIATELY. I already wrote about the approach in a different forum, I'mma just copy and paste..
"For example, I was flirting with a booth worker today, and I tried tonnes of new things.
-Let her smell my wrists excessively as part of the Cologne opener approach
http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/ ... en/55.html
-Pushed her shoulder lightly, called her cute when she negged me
-blatantly walked behind her to look at her ass/legs while she told me to guess her age
-felt her waist when I told her I was leaving after she spent too much time with another customer
-reached for her hand in a romantic way (she treated it more like a handshake)"
I didn't get a number close, but holy fuck my game was so good. She was at least an 8.5, and I was able to talk to her and flirt with her like she was a 4, yet I was unmistakably attracted to her. I didn't bother going for the number close, because I knew it would have been a no for sure, and I'd rather keep shit not awkward the next time I probably see her.