This is my concept to dealing with any shit tests or AMOGs. Don't take ANYTHING anybody says seriously, and anything they throw at you, defuse it, and they will tire themselves out.

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Yes, I am alive. No, I haven't been posting on this forum. Yes, I am still a badass.

This summer's been SICK. To start it off, let me just say that my state control is fucking insane. I wake up in a good mood, I stay in a good mood all day even if all I do is work all day, it takes me literally 10 seconds of talking to get into "God Mode", as Simple Pickup calls it, and I go to sleep feeling like Attila the Hun. Except I still watch porn sometimes. I'd quit, but then I just get boners all day. Ok ok, I'll quit.

ANYWHO. Days usually go like this:
I wake up. I do my morning state control practice routines. I go to the lab and do science with my two awesome lab mates, BM bro and VL girl. We gossip and goof off the whole time we work. I go home and take a nap. I wake up and go get even more shredded than I already am. Then I either do something social, or work on my business idea from like 9 pm till 1 am. Rinse and repeat. Yes, I am a fucking machine, and yes I have pulled 13 hour work days while staying happy and positive the whole time.

My girl situation! I'm in the beginning stages of dating a cute blondie, AJE girl, who I met at Spanish club. She's a goody goody girl (you know the type), and I have a sneaking suspicion that she's a virgin (clumsy kisser). She's also 20, and I'm 28, so there's that. All the other girls in my social circle tease me that I'm a predator. There's several handfuls of periphery women in the social circle who are also snapping at a piece of the action, who I hang out with on a regular basis, and on top of that pretty much every girl I interact with loves me. Sigh, such a tough life...

I still hang out with a ton of girls who I consider great friends. and a few select cool dudes. I am still coaching JK bro on getting better with women. He lost his virginity like 3 weeks ago, super proud of this dude.

GOALS as of right now. In terms of game: seducing taken girls, and not dating them. In terms of other areas of life: getting back in half marathon to marathon running shape. In career: launch a successful self-help business by first building a massive YouTube following. I'm in the process of learning web development right now, so I don't have a pay an arm, a testicle, and my third born child to have a web site developed. I'll let you know when the YouTube channel is up, so you guys can get free value like every day. Also, you get to see my beautiful face. Win-win.

Dat's pretty much all, you crazy perverts. Keep at it.

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Alright dudes, my YouTube channel is up. #shamelessplugs

Search for ThatSocialAsianGuy ... all one word. Enjoy!

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The prodigal daughter returns! KF girl is back in town after being gone for 4 weeks, and her first move was to hit me up for a run, which we are going on tomorrow night. Last I left off she was macking on me hard, and I was receiving it positively and passively, cuz she still has a boyfriend that she's got issues with. Girl be lookin to upgrade, yo.

Usually my take on girls with boyfriends depends on the boyfriend. If I think that the boyfriend is a pussy or a douche bag or she doesn't like him or something, than I have no problems with things happening with her, but if it's a happy committed relationship, than I'll just be friends with the girl.

KF girl shenanigans aside, AJE girl is coming back tomorrow morning. She's already verbalized she wants to hang out a bunch when she gets back from her family BVI adventure and that she missed me. We've made out several times but she wants to take it slow (she's a goody goody girl and possibly a virgin). She's only had one bf before, that she only dated because she wanted to see what having a bf felt like (she didn't like the dude). She went to a tiny high school. She's shy. And adorable.

L girl (in my phone as "white girl from China") might be coming to the HUMONGOUS social thing I planned for Wednesday. She's comfortable talking about sex, and we've had some good fluff talk.

There's also the ever looming presence of HLS girl, who is still in love with me and coming out in September to visit.

This is all good practice and shit, and my social circle is booming. The last time I went out to the bars (last weekend) I basically hung out with a huge group that was half people I knew, half people I didn't know. Basically was the fun center of the entire group, all the girls were coming over to flirt, were attracted to me, etc. etc. At the end of the night JK bro wanted to do some cold approach, so we went to the Blind Pig, and he spent the first 10 minutes being a pussy. Finally he did one and CL bro and I watched as he spent 45 FUCKING MINUTES having a mediocre interaction with a tatted up chick. I get bored as fuck so I chat up the girl next to me.

We end up exchanging mom cancer stories. Wtf?

It ends in her giving me her business card without me asking lol. Won't follow up cuz she ain't hot enough.

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Here's something I do that pretty much no other dude I know does:

I'm friends with and hang out with a literal shit ton of girls that I don't try to fuck. This does ridiculous things in terms of:

1. Pre-selection- Whenever people friend me on Facebook they comment on how many hot girls I hang out with. That means any girl that Facebooks me automatically concludes I'm really high status and that I must be sleeping with / seeing some of these girls (which is it's own self-fulfilling prophecy)
2. Making more friends- Girls are attracted to me and automatically want to be friends with me, and then I choose whether to friend zone them or give them a shot at sleeping with me. Dudes try to befriend me so they can meet a ton more girls, so I have to be ultra selective in the guys that I hang out with so my girls don't get creeped out
3. I always have awesome events when I organize them because the girl to guy ratio is insane
4. Whenever I go out I don't have to approach and I automatically get attraction because of preselection
5. I get unparalleled insight into the female psyche in the dating game. I've had friends tell me their virginity stories, all their dating drama, etc. etc.
6. Basically all the hot girls conclude I'm banging shit tons of girls and therefore want to bang me
7. I don't have to cold approach to practice and get better at game
etc. etc. etc.

Basically all you have to do is have some semblance of normal social skills, and

1. Be able to generate a really high, fun state all on your own consistently and easily
2. Not actively try to fuck girls (aka friend zone them). As soon as you do this they actively try and fuck you
3. Organize events and invite people to them. Tell them to bring their friends

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KF girl texts me to run at 3 pm, and I accept.

I pick her up, and at her house, she invites me in while she changes. I take the opportunity, knowing that next time she'll feel comfortable with me in the house.

The light, playful, flirty mood continues. As we drive to the running site, we fluff about the past 5 weeks we hadn't seen each other (she'd been out of town), and she picks up the phone. Her body language, tone of voice, and face all read annoyance and displeasure as she greets Erik, her bf.

I take my shirt off before we start running. Ladies all over feint with excitement.

We run 5 miles with a lot of hills up at Reservoir Ridge, and she starts inquiring about the rest of my week, setting up logistics to meet again.

On Wednesday (tomorrow), she's coming to my social event. On Thursday, she wants to go with me to running club.

We finish the run and high five each other, turning it into a non-interlaced finger hand hold after for a couple seconds.

On the drive back, we fluff more and she begins touching my arm. She wants to know what I'm doing tonight. Have I seen Inside Out? I tell her I've seen it, but it was awesome and I'd see it again. She reacts excitedly. She mentions out loud if I've seen the inside of her house, but remembers that she'd invited me in before. She said she'll text me if the sushi thing with her girl friend gets out early so we can watch the movie.

I return home. Maybe the movie will happen, maybe it won't. It doesn't matter. I shower, and go onto campus to read "The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks", as assigned to me by my professor.

AE girl messages me on Facebook. Here's the exchange:

AE girl: *tired emoticon*

Unfazed: Hey! You doin alright?

AE girl:
Hi!
Just so tireeeed
Hahahaha

Unfazed:
Yeah, traveling will do that to you... makes ya just wanna lie down and blob all day
Whenever I traveled back from China, it was a 12 hour jet lag time switch, brutal
basically would end up sleeping all day and staying up all night

AE girl
Sounds like crazy party Ning
But in reality it is probably a lot of drool and sleep talking
*grin emoticon*

Unfazed:
What crazy party Ning? I'm really shy

AE girl:
Bahahaha!
Wanna go on a hike this week?

Unfazed:
Yeah! What are some good times for you?

AE girl:
Uhhhhhhhhhhh..... Not Friday.
Maybe weekend?

Unfazed:
Hahahahaha yeah, how does Saturday during the day sound?

AE girl:
Sounds excellent!

Unfazed:
Groovy groovy

AE girl:
*dancing emoticon*

Unfazed:
*another dancing emoticon*
Yours kinda looks like me on a Friday night

AE girl:
It kinda does. Crazy party Ning.
*wink emoticon*
I did some dancing on the islands

Unfazed:
Ooo la la

AE girl:
Boy was it embarrassing. I mean fun.
Well, both

Unfazed:
Hahahahaha
This I have to see

AE girl:
No, no, that's okay, no one ever had to see it

Unfazed:
*ham cat emoticon*

AE girl:
*another dancing emoticon*

Unfazed:
I love ham cat. Wish I had one

AE girl:
Me too!

Unfazed:
Under what circumstances did this alleged dancing occur and what do I need to do to recreate them

AE girl:
There was music and peer pressure. I was also completely sober too.
That's not true, I actually got up with out any pressure of dancing from my family
We all make bad mistakes every now and again. Hahahaha *grin emoticon*

Unfazed:
That ain't no bad mistake. I bet it was a sight to behold
Did you twerk?

AE girl:
Okay, it wasn't that big of a mistake.
Haha *grin emoticon*
I don't think I'm even capable of twerking

Unfazed:
They tell me it's all about the booty shake

AE girl:
I guess so. Maybe I need more coaching

Unfazed:
You should sign up for my club dance coaching program
Twerking is one of my patented moves

AE girl:
Oh really. You should sue Miley Cyrus.
Unless she is your student

Unfazed:
how I could sue Miley, she brought us such timeless classics as "we can't stop" and "wrecking ball"

AE girl:
.....

Unfazed:
She's also one of the deepest poets to ever grace our time. Take for example, this line from her song "Do my thang": "every single night and every single day, I'mma do my thang. I'mma do my thang"

AE girl:
......
So much thought must have been poured into her work

Unfazed:
golly what could it mean

AE girl:
The world will never know

*end of interaction*

Man, I'm a funny dude. Love it. It's gonna be weird, but there's a chance that both KF girl and AE girl will show up at at tomorrow's social event. It's gonna be interesting. And hilarious. I love it when girls fight over me, it's so cute.

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I'm glad you posted that bit on your social circle. Our heads are in the same place.

I posted something the other day about how "cold approach" is a needed and necessary skill but it should only be insurance (i.e. you want to be able to do it when you happen to be near a turbo hottie in Starbucks or whatever...) but that having girls built into one's lifestyle is the real goal.

I'd like to hear a little bit more about how you go about this part...
How do you find the events? Who do you invite first? Are you inviting them by text? Facebook? Have you found (like I have) that it's important to have a couple of "go-to" bros for these group events? I'm curious about the whole process because for me, this is not the hardest part, it's just the most cumbersome. It takes a long time and a lot of planning.

You mentioned a big event yesterday (Wednesday), maybe the most helpful thing to do is just break it down for us.

I'd also like to se how you friend zone girls...

I personally game them almost exactly as I would a girl I was trying to bang... EXCEPT... no one-on-one invites and no direct sexuality. I actually still behave sexual and display sexuality (so they are comfortable telling their friends to bang me), it's just not particular to the girl as it would be if I wanted her to sit on my face. My behavior is still flirty, fun, playful and filled with my usual mix of dominance and caring and solid subcomms.

OK, finally... what's your morning routine?

I have my own that puts me in the driver's seat right out the gate. It involves meditation, long-term visualization, short-term visualization, posturing, a few quick cardio intervals, and some soft-tissue massage with focus on relaxation and release (think foam-rolling but I use other tools). I feel like this wakes up my mind and my body and then brings the two together for CAPTAIN PLANET-like powers combined.

Then I drink upgraded coffee, take BCAAs, drink ACV, and get right to work.

I also experimented briefly with self-hypnosis. I was finding good results (n=1 obviously, so YMMV). But the site I was using was taken down and I have yet to find another I trust.

Lots of Q's but you posted a few things over the last few days that just caught my attention.

Here's my structure for organizing events:

1. Figure out something that I want to do, that I think is cool, and I would enjoy doing. That way, even if it bombs (which I've never had happen) if I go do that thing I'll still be in a good mood because I'm doing what I want to do.

The reason these things never bomb is because people are living in zombie mode, WAITING for events like this to happen. People are literally waiting for cool social things to pop up so that they can go meet people. In that way, you are actually giving awesome value to these people by organizing these things.

Here are past things I've organized that I've really liked, and that have been successful:
1. Karaoke
2. Potluck at my place
3. S'mores around a firepit at my place
4. Hiking trips (super easy to do in Colorado)
5. Camping trips
6. Drive-in theater

Here are some things that I've gone to that other people have organized, that I thought were awesome:
1. Roller skating
2. Running races (5ks and such)
3. Mini golf
4. bowling
5. laser tag
6. volleyball (big here in Colorado for some reason)
7. pool parties / bbq's
8. Red Rocks Concert

Here are some things that I want to organize for the future:
1. trip to see Book of Mormon
2. karaoke in Denver (in the works)
3. carnival
4. more hiking / camping (can't run out of this in Colorado)

2. So after you figure out what it is you want to do, you can either bring it up in conversation to gauge interest (I'm always talking about things we've done and things we should do when I talk with someone I like), or you can even just skip that and organize it anyways. I've taken to making Facebook events, and it seems more effective than sending out mass texts. Here are a couple examples from Facebook events I've organized in the past:

Thmoreth
Graham + choco + marshmallow = BOOM
Backyard fire pits. Ghost stories. Shooting stars. Ya kno'
PS Friends of friends welcome

Some More S'mores
S'mores party redux. Except this time, we'll go check out the lagoon concert series on campus beforehand. Meet at Mandy Skoranski's and my place at 6:20. Walk over to concert. Chill / eat / goof off. Return to our place. S'MORES. I've got bug spray this time!

Potluck with a hint of housewarming
The new place needs to be broken in properly. And that means delicious food, alcohol, and debauchery. Bring food items and friends!

Pho / Karaoke Extravaganza
WUTTUP gangstas!

Do you like watching people make fools out of themselves?

Do you enjoy good Asian food and hanging with awesome people?

Are you ready for an explosion of awesomeness? *Nod your head yes*

Welcome, and prepare yourself for a once in a blue moon event.

My lab mate Victoria (not on Facebook) and I are organizing a trip down to Denver for a GLORIOUS night of delicious food and raucous karaoke.

Itinerary!
5:00- meet at my place in FoCo, carpool to Denver / Aurora
6:15- gorge ourselves on delicious Vietnamese food at Golden Saigon
7:15- migrate across the street to Family Karaoke, where they rent karaoke rooms Asian style for 25$ an hour. Sing your heart out like the diva you are, or make fun of your foolish friends that will

Role Call!
The guest list is going to be capped at 9 (Victoria is bringing another 9), so the first 9 people to RSVP yes get the spots. With 20 people it's about $1 per person per hour (INSANE).

If you have a friend who LOVES karaoke and is a cool cat, shoot him / her an invite as well!

NOW CLICK THAT RSVP BUTTON!

So basically you just write your little sales page for the event, include the time and the place, and invite the people. I'll invite pretty much everyone that I like, and it's great for girls that I just have a brief interaction with and exchange contact info with, cuz they always appreciate going to a fun event.

For people I don't have the Facebook of, I send them a generic text such as:

"Sup gangsta, some friends and I are doing XYZ at XYZ time. Feel free to join!"

Sometimes, if I don't feel like organizing shit, I'll even just ring up a buddy, see if he / she wants to grab beers, and then as soon as I have 1 definite yes, I mass text the shit out of my contacts with the same text. Then, I end up rolling into the bars with like 10 females with me. It's fantastic.

If you do this, people will start bringing friends, and you can meet those friends, befriend them, and then include them in your social circle (if you want). Also, they will start inviting you to events that THEY organize, and you will meet more people this way. Meeting people through warm approach like this instead of cold approach is insane, as long as you're a normal person if a girl is single you don't have to do anything and she will be attracted to you.

I have a couple go-to bros, I have more go-to female friends (attractive but that I'm not actively trying to fuck). In terms of dudes, I only invite guys I know are high-value, that aren't into some creeper shit on my girls (has happened before), and that has good game. The better game he has, the more likely I will invite him and hang out with him, just to learn from him. The worse his game is (or has creepy nice guy game) the less likely I will invite him.

The thing on Wednesday, I just made an event where people met at my house, we walked to a concert nearby, then came back to my place for Smores. I invited everyone I knew, my roomate invited everyone she knew, and it turned out to be like 70 people invited. We cleaned, prepared the house, and everyone had a fantastic time. Only about 20 came, but that's still a solid party.

I friend-zone girls like this: Usually I meet them in a group setting. I'm an attention whore and always the center of fun, so I have a massively fun time, and I ignore them. They eventually approach me, we chat and flirt, connect, I run normal flirtation and sometimes vibing (normal conversation) game with them, and mention some event I might organize. Then I tell her she should come. We exchange contact info. She's in the friend zone, doesn't have to be permanent, and I just invite her to group things. If she's super interested, she'll take the initiative and suggest one on one things with me, and I can decide yes or no. Then she gets her shot out of the friend zone. Etc. etc.

My morning routine is very short, and very effective.

I wake up, stand up, and do my power mediation routine I learned from Jason Capital. It's fucking weird as fuck, but it always makes me pumped as fuck. It's hard to describe, so I'll make my next YouTube video about it, publish it, and send you the link so you can check it out. Hope this helps!

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Wednesday night:

I wait with MS girl for people to arrive, and she tells me all about her new boy crush. I peruse their phone conversation, by this dude that apparently texts like a robot from 2054. As in, super long texts, a robotic tone, and no contractions. I'm very amused by this, and respond by downing several watermelon chunks.

MC bro arrive, and I commence epic levels of trolling. The mood goes up. ML bro arrives. I immediately regret inviting this bro. I'm going to man up and not invite him next time.

We all walk over to the concert. AE girl texts to meet me there, and she joins our group. Two more girls that I invited arrive as well. I basically talk to AE girl the entire time, she's been gone for two weeks on some boat somewhere and she tells me all about her vacation. We joke around. I devour the cookies she brought.

Me, AE girl, and ML bro go to a food truck to get tacos while the rest listen to the music. This bro is a dumb fuck. He needs to GTFO. JK bro gets here, my man! I troll him yet again by telling everyone to ask him about that time he fell off a mountain (he actually did, 2 weeks ago). AB Panama girl arrives, I go collect her. We all go back to the group and NOM NOM NOM those tacos. I flirt more with AE girl, she starts giving me all her body language and we make some good eye contact.

A good ole Colorado storm rolls in, and we all peace out back to my place. I ride with AE girl.

We get back, A bro arrives with JH girl (hooked up with her), B bro, two girls that my roommate knew, and we all sit and wait the storm out. I basically entertain the entire group by trolling JH girl. She asked me if I knew someone from Cornell, and I immediately said yes. She bought it, and I described how this girl was a fantastic bassoon player, played in a fantastic bassoon band, etc. etc. all deadpan. She couldn't tell if I was trolling or not until I cracked an ever so slight smile. AE girl, as well as everyone else, is all laughing at literally everything I say. It's hard bein' a gangsta...

We all go out, and I fire up the firepit. We all sit in a big circle. I sit next to AE girl, chat with DY bro (just arrived) and AG girl (one of my best friends here). AG girl tells me about some weird ass leg infection she got that day. I introduce them all together. AE girl and I talk about dreams and play footsies with each other. I sit behind her and give her a massage while talking to other people. She leans back into my legs and I chat with AS bro, who just arrived. Soon enough, people start peacing out, as it is a weeknight.

I walk AE girl back to her car, and we hug, and she tells me "it's been too long". DDDDDDDDDDAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
Then we make out and I push her up against the car. We make out some more and then she leaves. Then the rest of the folks leave, I fluff a bit with MS girl, and call it a night after some clean up (not a euphemism).

Thursday:

I text KF girl to run, and we run together over to running club at 6. It's fun, we run and all, and we joke around on the way back. It's still flirty and fun. It's back to the friend zone for this one, I actually do like AE girl. I'll tell you guys the whole AE girl story sometime, it's guuuuuuuhhhhh reat! like Frosted Flakes.

Friday:

I meet up with AE girl after lunch, we joke around, and have a little study pow wow inside the Behavioral Sciences Building. Soon enough we fall into a pattern of study a little bit, make out, study, make out, study, make out. She says she's excited for the hike we have planned tomorrow.

Here's the deal with AE girl, she's kinda shy, a goody goody girl, into studying, Spanish, runs, and is probably a virgin. We are taking it slowly, which is fine by me honestly. We get along and she's super cute (her inexperience probably coming from the fact that she is shyer and went to a small high school).

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Here's a sprinkling of value for you today:

Just as dudes have a range of
Nice guy ---------------------------Confident badass (ideal)-----------------------Jackass Douche Bag


Girls have a range of
Innocent girl next door you bring home to mama -------------------------hot entitled girl that's sucked a lotta D

These girls respond to different types of game. With hot entitled girl, you basically deny her all validation, tease / mock / troll the shit out of her, ignore her, flirt with other girls in front of her, and play a more asshole-y type game.

With goody goody gum drop girl, you switch to game that's a lot more pure fun based, with a touch of validation denial in the beginning and rounding it out with some thoughtful compliments / gestures, which in my case always makes me lose a hot entitled girl. As soon as hot entitled girl gets validation from you, she's like boom yeah he's like all the others.

And obviously this is a range of girls, no girls are pure one way or the other. This might be different if you're a good looking white guy or something, but as a good looking Asian dude, game is a bit nuanced differently here in white-town USA.

Some thoughts on how being Asian changes things: I use racism humor a lot, it has a great shock effect and girls always react really well. It makes it "okay" for everyone.

My game / my personality / basically who I am right now, I don't even call it game anymore, is at a high enough level of badassery that girls I talk to basically get attracted either right away, or if they're not as smart, eventually. However, I can tell that being white definitely gives you an advantage here in Fort Collins. You can be an average looking white dude with absolutely no semblance of game and there will still be girls that like the way you look, and just buy in because of that. If you're a good looking white dude, you can be a straight up dumbass, talk like AFC king of PUA forum dot com, and girls will still be attracted to you. Asian dudes have to have a high level of game if they want to succeed here, because it simply isn't the brand of guy girls deem attractive here.

It would be interesting for me to go somewhere where there's a high density of Asians to see the difference in game, and it would probably be more beneficial for me to learn different aspects.

For example, in California (a ton of Asians), in Europe (American accents go far), or in the North East (more Asians), I could probably improve more in terms of sexual escalation, one of my weak areas that I'm trying to work on (go read Daniel Balboa's shit, he's boss at this). Take that, do with it what you will. Peace

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Good stuff on the social circle building.

It's funny, that's exactly what I used to do a few years ago. Then I just got out of the habit, especially when I had a GF.

Here's another thing to consider: being good friends with a guy that does this too. I've had two good friends over the last few years that threw lots of parties. One was a top promoter in my city. I'd go to all his events, get immediate status because I was with him, and get access to all the hotties he was with. It was stupid. We cleaned u

Same thing with another friend of mine who used to live in a house right on the water. Full nine yards, pool, hot tub, big backyard, etc... Same thing there. I'd just show up, get instant street cred, and almost always wind up with some cute little thing. Best way to consistently pull top-tier girls that I've had.

The caveat, of course, is that both of these guys had great game, had their shit together, and the social circles they had built were therefore filled with uber-tight girls. Not all networks are equal.

Thanks for posting. Looking forward to seeing the morning routine vid.

FRIDAY NIGHT

Listen guys, if you're not doing something social on Friday and Saturday nights, YOU'RE FUCKING UP. Don't watch Netflix, don't play video games, don't stay in and watch pick up videos, be the baller I know you are and go out and TAKE ACTION.

Take JK bro, for example. He messages ME to meet up early to discuss strategy and how to warm up for a proper cold approach session. Remember, taking action WILL ALWAYS BE REWARDED. Sitting on your ass won't do shit.

I arrive at Thai Pepper, ready to eat several plates of poultry, and AG girl and AP girl arrive. We immediately get to chatting, gossiping about our love lives, and laughing. They convince me to come to Trainwreck with them that night, which honestly sounds more fun than running around cold approaching drunk idiot girls all night. JK bro arrives, we dine, JK bro shares his epic Stacy story (where I helped him lose his virginity 3 weeks ago). AG girl talks about a hot guy who got her number the day before. I tell stories about AE girl.

I notice that I have a skill I need to fix a bit. Whenever someone with low energy talks to me, I tend to shift to match their energy, instead of the other way around. Now that I'm conscious of this, I'll work on this. I'll talk the way I talk no matter who it is.

We all head to the theater, and JK bro and I get there first. He tells me he's amazed at how I can just be such good friends with girls, and how he struggles with that. I ask him he thinks he struggles, and he says maybe it's because they don't have as much common ground? I tell him you don't need common ground to make a connection and be friends with a girl, all you need is the ability to generate fun.

We devise a new plan. He tells me he can tell that when he speaks, it's all monotone and shit, and the energy goes down. I tell him we are gonna do a weekly vocal training session, where I'm gonna transform him from talking like a dirty old grandpa to talking like Russell Brand on crack.

The movie's average, and I head home after to sleep.

Saturday morning, got out of bed....

I pick up AE girl and we head to Boulder. We chat in the car and listen to music, but once again I have this problem with her, where she's more nervous and quieter, and her state rubs off on me, instead of the other way around. THIS WILL CHANGE!

We hike up the Flatirons, holding hands and joking around the whole time, and take cute pictures together. After lunch at the top, we hike down and discuss our personal life stories a bit more in depth. I tell her about traveling and some childhood memories, while she tells me about her traveling, childhood and middle school / high school memories. She LIGHTS up during these, and we've made a better emotional connection.

I gotta remember this shit. Everyone's favorite subject is themselves, and their opinions. Getting shyer girls to express these is the trick. Here, it might not be the worst to just ask more questions and delve a bit more.

We're feeling closer by the end of it, and we head down town, walk around, holding hands n shit all lovey dovey. Then on the drive back she does this tender tickling thing on my forearm and hand and is pretty sensual and gives me a boner. Well played, little girl, well played.

After dropping her off and an epic nap, we meet up again with her friends to play volleyball. I dominate, we flirt, and other girls there flirt with me. It goes well. We goof off some more, and then she leaves to have dinner with friends while I go do some lab work.

She texts me that she was sad we didn't get a proper goodbye, I tell her she should come over for a movie after my lab stuff. No response.

I call her when I finish, and let her know that if she isn't coming, I was gonna head out to the bars cuz some friends invited me (JK bro and MS girl). She says that she's tired and nasty from volleyball, and will probably just head home. I say ok, no worries, and go to hang up, and she says WAIT! Some friends and I want to go hiking tomorrow, you should come! I qualify the invitation, asking time and place. She mentions that she doesn't quite know yet, I tell her I have some work in the morning, but I'm interested, and that she should text me when she knows.

She texts me later starting with... "So hey there, person who I maybe sorta kinda like..." Lol

I head to the bars, meeting JK bro, MS girl, Z bro, and his friend HH girl. We goof off, dance, bullshit, and generally have a raucous fun time at the bars. I get a wee bit drunk, and JK bro does a fantastic job of keeping high energy, opening a bunch of dudes and girls, and being social. PROGRESS! Keep kaizen-ing, gangstas!

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Oh yeah, despite being sorta of dating-like with AE girl, there are still things I've noticed that I need to work on. Showing direct sexuality and escalating is one of them. I'm going to practice the whole seduction, building tension, and channeling my inner Daniel Balboa on AE girl. From what I've read, it's some mixture of being bold with unwavering subcoms (which I'm good at) to showing sexual interest and verbally escalating (which I'm bad at). My plan is to read through Daniel Balboa's stuff to get a better picture and idea in my head and to work on that from there.

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Your comments on geography are spot on, and they show that you are "seeing the matrix" so to speak.

See, this is something that the PU teachers can't talk about. But the sexual marketplace, or where you live, is one of the most important things when it comes to your success in dating. They can't talk about it because if they said, "Oh yeah, most of this shit is completely irrelevant if you live in a small town, or if you are perceived as lower value in a particular city, so if that's the case, you're better off moving than buying my shit," well, they'd have much fewe customers.

But it's 100% the way it is. The number of girls that meet your standards in a given proximity is one factor. The number of those girls who are attracted to you is the second factor. In the ideal situation, both are working in one's favor.

I don't think my current location is the greatest. It lacks a high number of girls that I'm into. And I think the girls here are just less receptive in general.

And like I mentioned last weekend, NYC is heaven for a single guy, almost regardless of your "niche." Because it has both factors working for it. Unlimited girls. And enough cultural variety and acceptance that pretty much any type of guy can find a lot of girls who are into him, provided he doesn't have any huge negatives working against him.

Re: escalation. Three parts, in my opinion:

1) Verbal
2) Physical (touching her)
3) Subcomms

Start small, like with a hand on her thigh. Gauge compliance, particularly to touch, and then move forward further.

And remember, this is as much about what's going on in your head - what you truly believe about yourself and a woman's sexuality - as it is about these three tactics.

You have to truly believe that a woman is a sexual creature. That she craves hot, dirty sex and that she's frustrated. That you are the liberator of those frustrations. She wants, scratch that, needs a dominant man. This is her nature. You are that man. It's your nature. And you are proud of that. Shameless, proud, and stalwart.

I can't convince you to believe any of that, other than to tell you that I have lost count of the reference experiences I have that tell me it's true. Same will happen for you.

I have a long escalation guide somewhere from the now-defunct TMI site I wrote for for a little while. I'll dig it up and post it this week.

Thanks man, I appreciate it that.

On Sunday, I go hiking again with AE girl and 2 more friends. Afterwards, AE girl invites me to play soccer with some friends. We play soccer, stick around afterwards with out mutual friend, AZ girl, and play some basketball. AE girl and I head back to my place before heading to Alley Cat's to meet her friends.

I shower and walk in to my room sans shirt. When AE girl notices she stumbles in the middle of her sentence lol. I tell her, "try not to stare too hard." She jokes back that she'll try, but it's difficult.

After Alley Cat's, she's driving a friend home and I go to sleep, but a text wakes me up at 1 am. She tells me she's going to be over in 4 minutes. I meet her outside and we make out. I push her against my car and we alternate hugging and making out. I suggest going inside. She makes an excuse that basically tells me she's not comfortable with it yet.

We make out some more. I tell her I like her, and I like that she's smart, funny, and happy. She tells me that I make her happier. I tell her I'm glad. We make out some more. I tell her I think she's sexy, even though I know she doesn't think so herself. She doesn't know what to say. We make out some more.

There's some people making noise out. I suggest we go inside my minivan (gangsta as fuck). She uses the same excuse (she has to leave soon).

I lift her hands above her head, pin her against the car, and push my erection against her. She reacts positively.

I run my hands under her shirt on her back. She stiffens up a little bit, so I pull back out and we continue making out. She tells me she's never wanted to kiss someone this badly, and that she thinks I should know that. I think I should know that too. We make out some more, then I walk her back to her car, and she peaces out. I tell her to text me when she gets home so I know she got there safe. AWWWWWWWWW

She does, but I'm already asleep so I didn't text back.

Today, I drop by her office at 2:30 just to say hi, and she looks tired as fuck. I make some small talk, but I can tell she's out of it. We'll see each other at Spanish Club. I suggest car pooling, but she says she'll just meet me there. Eh, wutevs.

I like this girl, and the more I like a girl, the harder it is to play the game correctly. The rush of endorphins and emotions from making out and cuddling and what not clouds the judgement and makes a man needier. I'm going to have to remember after every bout of this to remember that my mission in life, my work, and MY goals are more important, and to REFOCUS back on those.

All in all, getting better, but slowly. Experience is experience.

I put up a new video, check it out by searching for ThatSocialAsianGuy on youtube. Currently I'm researching how to get more hits and more views on there. I'll have more free time when I don't have to finish reading The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks.

I'm going to re-up my concentration, play the game correctly at Spanish Club, and re-analyze afterwards.

As far as that make-out session with AE girl, I think I could've escalated more verbally, but she didn't react to the comment I made about her being sexy... she just fell silent, which is understandable, I think it just made her feel a bit bashful / awkward. Then again, I'm not sure. I think the piece of the puzzle I need to work on the most is verbal escalation. We shall see!

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