[/b] ive only sign in today and so i thought i should write a topic thats bugging me and should get it off my back, heres my ?, i see this chick thats pretty and she stares at me and all i do is look away and she keeps stareing as the hours go by , but all i can do is look away as i have no interest in here, but i really do , how can i approuch her ..in a really good way with out feeling scared..
and after that problems done and if im succeful
how do i talk to her ..should i talk about how pretty she is , or
show her not that much interest but i really to just act like i dont
be funny and cocky, tell me how i should do all this, this would really help me , for three years i sucked really and i hope this would built my skill alot ...any advise would help xxxDownToRisexxx

Ok, I am trying to paint a picture in my head of the situation. So do you see this woman daily?

Cause if that's the case, she already thinks you're mr. "nice guy" by not looking directly at her. Try not making any eye contact with her at all until your ready, freeze her out.

Now you gotta prepare yourself man, a good opener/line aint gonna get you know where if you can't back it up. So what you gotta do is get over your fear of women.

What worked really well for me about 2 years ago was I promoted for this club, and forced myself to approach every single remotely attractive woman at every mall in my area (took a couple days haha)

Make that your mission, to approach every remotely decent looking woman at a mall and try and strike up a conversation!

You have to learn to embrace rejection as opposed to dreading it. Don't dwell on it and just try and learn from it.

Beyond doing something like that I can't think of anything else for you to do to not be nervous around this woman.

But remember to breathe! And take your time with what you have to say, people who rush what they have to say appear to have less confidence, so you gotta keep the mentality that you are out of her league my friend.


*Edit: hey check out this thread i found
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Cause if that's the case, she already thinks you're mr. "nice guy" by not looking directly at her. Try not making any eye contact with her at all until your ready, freeze her out.

I think she thinks your a creep.
If shes not smiling and just staring at you, than she would have already made a shit assumption about you.

Only way to fix that is if you hop in there, sit down next to her and start talking. If shes reading a book, say omg you geek! i cant believe your reading a book! its such a beautiful day! what are you reading anyway? take the book and look at the back, and start to read it in a queer eye for the straight guy voice, than change to chipmunk and change to ZOTOR the invader of earth! lol.. get her to laugh, ask her how long shes been a geek for and if shes ever consider doing that on a professional level.

Thats enough negs, now you demonstrate higher value so she sees your interesting, from all the other guys.

Take her hand, and palm read it, get kino going gently! if you cant palm read, do the ring routine trick, ie thumb is Poseidon, index is Zeus, so on.

Now once you've established kino and showed her something cool, gently back off lean back be compfy, don't look at her, and ask her for a opinion on something as a small stack routine. Get in a conversation your both happy in and than youve broken into her world!

Now you can isolate, say lets go walk around the park a bit, we can always come back here, move her around, try to quickly turn the other direction and lift your hand and see if she takes it, if she dosnt than you haven't done something right shes not ready! you need to build compfort ask cheese questions here and build rapport have her invest more into you! So tell me 3 things that book worms have the regular people don't? (example). Don't ask too many questions, rather let her invest more and more of her answer to you. Than take her hand, walk over grass or something, give her a excuse to grab yours if shes wearing heels. Now you've connected! you can walk her around some more, go on a instant date, take her for a bite to eat and around to some more cool places and demonstrate more value, or you can end it and say, hey babes i gotta go, promised some friends id do something later! you've keept me long enough wouldn't want me to get bored off you this early . Rip a piece of paper, write your number, hand it to her! say.. oh and draw a picture off yourself so i can remember you by.

- Impact

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Hey if she's looking over at you think postively, she probably likes ya. So smile next time. If she responds with a smile, then you're in there. What have you got to fear, she's WAITING for you to approach. Just have an interesting statement and a neg ready at hand.

If you smile at her and she looks like she's calling the police then get the hell outta there and know that at least you did something.

Everyone's gotta start somewhere.

walk up to her. drop ur number on her desk. walk way.

but ur shy so that won't work.

better you do this.

get a sharpie. better yet get 2. tape one under her desk prior to class.

write "HI" real big on a paper. show it to her when she stares at you.

then if she responds with a hi. hold another paper that says. "look under your desk"

she'll find the pen. then ask her ' are you having fun in this class?'

next thing you know she'll be talking to you after.

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