Quote:
Her: Haha, you don't know me at all. (monkeyface)
Me: Haha, yea sure, I know you better then you think.
Her: No, you only see the bad things about me.
Me: Then show me your "good" side.
Her: I've showed you them, too bad.
Me: Next time show them better.
Her: I like the way I am, I don't want to change myself.
Me: I didn't ask you to change yourself. Anyways, I'm going to sleep. (It was like 2 AM)
She responded like 20 minutes later with: Goodnight babe kiss.
Could you be more specific about what the picture was? Hard to understand what prompted this back and forth... but regardless...
It's a basic conversational skill to for the most part avoid themes that are not positive (Mystery and gang termed it, "negative thread").
You didn't outright argue with her, but you essentially created distance between each other by saying you don't know each other that well. Not only that but you kept pressing the issue... ie "Show me them better." You should've changed the topic before then. How would you feel if someone close to you says "You're not doing a good job" and "you need to do a better job." You put her in a very low emotional state... People rarely like to be told their wrong.
It's really essential to be positive no matter what. I was on a date last night and my date made a nasty face at the waitress when she asked some probing questions of me. Instead of saying "Don't do that!" to her (negative), I said, "I agree with you that was a little much!."
Seek out "Alpha Man Conversation" By Carlos Xuma.
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