Over the last few weeks there seems to be a flood of guys showing up on the forums that have been very vocal about their views on pick up. They have been very vocal about what a PUA is, but as they post all of them have displayed a disdain for women in some fashion.

Before I discovered the PU community, I grew up with a mother that had a disdain for men. My mother’s closest friends were her cousins that couldn’t keep a man. The thing that they all had in common is that they were the people telling me what a man should be. Being a kid, of course I thought they must be right.

At the age that I started liking girls I had already started developing bad habits because I had a screwed up belief system. This lead me to the path of wanting women, but at the same time resenting them for not wanting me.

The night before I joined the military I lost my virginity to a girl that was also joining the military, but a different branch. She realized that she didn’t want to go eight weeks without having sex and I was taking what I could get. I spent maybe three minutes giving her all that I had, but in the back of my mind I was fucking every girl that rejected me.

I said all that just to make the point that I did not like women. Since I did not like women, I was not good with women.

Fast forward eight weeks. I’m out basic training and into the technical part of my job training. I was in a position where women were throwing themselves at me. I didn’t have to say much or do much. I would sneak girls into my dorm room and spend the weekends and cheap motels with them, but for nearly six months I thought I was successful with women. In reality I still sucked because I had no idea what I was doing right, it just happened and I expected it to. The problem was that I still had that same hatred for women.

I ended up getting stationed in San Antonio, Texas. Still getting laid by different women, but at a lesser rate, and still not understanding how or why. I still had that same dislike of women even when I had a girlfriend at one point. One of my coworkers and I moved off base into an apartment. We came up with a plan to talk to girls in basic training on their town pass. We’d bring them back to our apartment, have sex and then drop them back off at the base. We did that just about every weekend for about a year and a half and then I got tired. Funny thing is, I no longer had that hatred anymore. I was more indifferent.

During my indifferent stage, I was hanging out more just to have fun without the purpose of conquering women. At some point I started enjoying having their company and that indifference evolved into actually liking women. I started to learn what made them tick and actually had real conversations and enjoying their company. It about this time I had also discovered pickup and pickup taught me how to actually be good with women, although I had to find my way through all of the facts and fiction.

Fast forward to today. I can tell you right now that I absolutely love women. In some aspects they balance me out. Here’s what’s important: My positive outlook towards women (at least the majority of them) gets returned back to me. Does that mean that I have sex with every single one of them? Of course not, but I am really happy with the quality and quantity and it’s been this way for years now.

What’s the point of all this? You new guys that come in here with so much to prove but at the same time have such a negative view of women are not in a position to actually teach anyone how to get women. Learn how to like them without compromising your masculinity. They’ll start liking you back and sex will not be a chore getting it.

I’m done with my rant…but if I see someone that doesn’t like women but is trying to peddle their expertise, I just may bump this.

Peace fellas.

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Good post. Very true.

Women are not the enemy. In fact, no one is the enemy. If guys are not happy with the results they have, it's time to suck it up and learn the skill they are lacking.

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+1

Right on.. People can only tell you how to be like them. If you're not currently where you want to be with women how do you expect to tell someone how to get to where they want to be with women? You can't ask for advice on a topic and then turn around and think you're ready to give advice on that topic.

Good post man.

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Your prof says your in LA so I guess you moved.

Wish we could have met