Hi Guys,

I need advice and don't have anyone I can talk to about this situation. Basically I'm married and I slept with another married lady, now shes pregnant. This is my worst nightmare. Its very early and she could just take a pill and have a miscarriage but she is thinking about keeping the baby.

We only met once and had sex once. She doesn't love her husband and would love a sibling for her two girls so doesn't see this situation as too bad for her. I also have a young child, my marriage would end in divorce and I wouldn't get to raise my child, which is killing me.

Please dont tell me im fucked or a dick, I know Im a dickhead and know how fucked I am.

I really need advice on what I can say to her that will convince her how crazy and irresponsible it is to bring a child into the world in our situation.

I have told her that it will tear my family apart, I wont be able to raise my child. I told her imagine if I said after our night together you couldnt live or raise your girls, how would you feel? I told her its crazy as we barely know each other and are married and the hurt we would cause those around us through this.

Is there anything else I could say to convince her of how crazy this is and to see that it is nuts to bring a baby into the world in our situations?

The more you want her to get rid of it, the more she will want to keep it. Thats a fact.

When you show your emotional hand to a woman in the manner you are displaying yourself on this forum they will exploit it. Because it is this that allows the to gain what they are looking for. "emotional investment". The more invested emotionally you become, the more they will continue to do what is making you this way. So you may want to keep that in mind.

Now, I'm not for abortion in these cases. I've felt the feeling you do, but I also believe in taking responsibility when we decide to get carless. You don't kill a baby because you didn't wear a condom.

Of course I understand your position. You don't want your family destroyed over some careless mistake. Thats life though man. We do shit, there are consequences.

However, if you remain CALM and share you point of view from the stand point of " You can do whatever you want to do, but I enough respect to respect my wishes. It took two of us to make the baby, so we should both be included in the decision.

The key is to be willing to accept that she may decide to keep it. If you can wrap your head around that attitude and project it, she'll be open minded to doing what you want, because you want be trying to "force" her to kill a baby for your own selfish reasons.

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