| Met a girl at a bar, she was with her family, she kept smiling at me so in front of her parents I politely went over, said hi to her, suggested we go to another bar later that night, got her number and politely left. Iteration went for about 30 seconds as I did not want to make her parents uncomfortable.
Two days later we went out for drinks, hit it off immediately, made out for a while, always made sure to pull away first...everything went great. Met 2 days later, went to some clubs, all the bouncers know me, usually have friends who have private tables and they always call me over. (high social value) She said it seemed like I was a celebrity. For the next two weeks she was always texting me asking me to hang out, we had sex a few times, she would always text me the next morning saying how good it was... the works..
Then I got drunk one night and she was out with her friends, I asked her a personal question about her sexual past over a text message and she was really offended. A few days later she really wanted to go for ice cream and I was in a bad mood, night did not go well, I was tired and she was talking about something that was pretty boring to me. Later that night we had a long talk about that text I sent her, she found it disrespectful, I apologized and said it wont happen again. Then she kinda went over the top and said if it does she will be gone. Again, I apologized and said it wont. I walked to her car, told her that I thought she was very special and I hold her in a very high regard, we kissed and hugged, then she left.
We didn't speak too much after that, she had plans on the weekend, she didn't text me so I didn't text her. No texts for 2 days so I decided to give her a call, she answered said she was with her friends and would call later... no call. Next morning I get a text saying, "have a great day!" I responded with something simple and then again didn't hear from her for three days. Finally I texted her and we made plans to watch a movie the next night, last minute she bails (she wakes up at 4am for work) I got somewhat pissed and said that it is disrespectful to cancel last minute, she was extremely apologetic, offered to get a quick coffee but I was in no mood to see her, so I declined.
HB9: well what are you doing Friday
ME:I don't know its only Monday. (im still a little pissed)
HB9: well we should hang out Thursday or Friday
ME: when we first met I would take you up on both of those offers but now I don't know.
HB9: "never mind then! good night."
ME: don't turn this around on me, I just don't want you making plans just cause you feel guilty
HB9: I said that you think I don't want to see you
ME: Lately ive asked you to go out and you either say you cant go or you bail
HB9: Ive been really busy with work and I guess I haven't done the best time managing my time.
ME: im not a insecure man (lie) but I want you to care about me as much as I care about you
HB9: I do care about you, im surprised you don't know that.
that was about it for that.
Things were weird after that, she has always been a slow texter but now its much slower than before, only saw her once in 2 weeks.
She used to ask me to do things and now nothing. Ill ask her what's she's up to and she will say she is with her friend and I should join, but why didn't you just invite me in the first place??
Saw her the other night, there was very light touching/hand holding. We made plans for Friday night had a quick kiss and that was it. Made plans to hang out tonight, then right before the time came a crazy ex told her a friend I was talking shit and banging this other girl behind her back. she wasn't mad at me but at this other girl. We didn't hang out and she cancelled on Friday plays saying the grad party she thought was on Saturday is really on Friday. I said okay well lets do something on Saturday. Didn't hear back from her, grant it it was late text so im sure I will get an answer in the morning.
I really feel like im losing control here and not being the man in this relationship, always asking her to hang out and always texting her.
I use a lot of natural game when im out at bars and don't really do relationships, what is my next move.
Can you guys give me some tips, point me in the right direction? Do I need to build more trust? Push-pull?
Any tips would be great. THANKS!
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