What is the best personality to have in pickup?

(or I suppose.... in life in general)

your own, which you believe is the best ever

But what if it sucks. Then you have to fix it. A personality can change.

Be your best self obviously. be someone people admire and look up to.

But what if it sucks. Then you have to fix it. A personality can change.[/quote]

Be your best self obviously. be someone people admire and look up to.[/quote]

No, you have to change your personality to what fits.

Be your best self obviously. be someone people admire and look up to.[/quote]

No, you have to change your personality to what fits.[/quote]

No, there is no such thing as a sucky personality. That's like saying one color is better than another. I know your new, but you're going around the forums asking for help than dismissing it when they give it to you like the thread about 'picking up women as a rich guy'.

There's actually a limited amount of personalities in the world, some go good with others, some conflict. Your goal shouldn't be to change yourself, your goal should be to highlight the best parts of yourself and let your personality shine through. Think of it like polishing gems. When you have social anxiety it's not the gem that's the problem, it's just that others can't see the true beauty because it's hidden

No, there is no such thing as a sucky personality. That's like saying one color is better than another. I know your new, but you're going around the forums asking for help than dismissing it when they give it to you like the thread about 'picking up women as a rich guy'.

There's actually a limited amount of personalities in the world, some go good with others, some conflict. Your goal shouldn't be to change yourself, your goal should be to highlight the best parts of yourself and let your personality shine through. Think of it like polishing gems. When you have social anxiety it's not the gem that's the problem, it's just that others can't see the true beauty because it's hidden[/quote]

I may be new to this forum, but not to life.

My last girl ended it with me because of my personality. So, obviously, that is the problem.

I am intelligent and not hideously ugly, so I think that is my issue. That, and just not knowing what to say....

I may be new to this forum, but not to life.

My last girl ended it with me because of my personality. So, obviously, that is the problem.

I am intelligent and not hideously ugly, so I think that is my issue. That, and just not knowing what to say....[/quote]

I doubt you know for SURE it was because of your personality. Maybe you didn't show her respect, maybe you ignored her, maybe she just realized you guys didn't connect because of, like I said, different personalities. Sometimes people just aren't meant for each other.

I doubt you know for SURE it was because of your personality. Maybe you didn't show her respect, maybe you ignored her, maybe she just realized you guys didn't connect because of, like I said, different personalities. Sometimes people just aren't meant for each other.[/quote]

You're right. I showed her little respect.

Answer to OP. If the goal is to attract a girl by all means possible, not paying any respect to yourself, the best personality is similar to he girl's, since the person we love the most is ourselves. Sharing the same kind of humor, same goals in life, same political views, and so on... That's "chemistry".

But you don't want to play a role to get the girl. You want to be yourself. The best self. All you need to do (well, it's easier said than done) is to get rid of your negative traits, and keep and strengthen the positive ones. Here are a few things girls like:

1. If you listen to them, are present, and show interest in what they are saying.
2. If you treat them like a princess (not in a needy way, just appreciating them), make sacrifices.
3. If you are positive, fun and make things happen.

Yea I just picked up this book called Models by Mark Manson. I see everything I was doing wrong. The less you change about yourself to please them, the better you will be.

I'm going to play the realist here and let the readers here know that people are not created equally. And the "you" in your personality is largely due to what ever circumstances you were born under. When you reach a certain level of enlightenment you become able to establish your own programming instead of being a product of your environment.

I applaud you for having the balls to face change head on. Personality change is one of the most difficult things to handle. Many can't handle the work required so they backwards rationalize that they should ignore bad habits, and personality traits, and just try to make strengths stronger from what ever product your environment created.

What makes some irritating personality trait that got into you as a child from a parent or what ever a more authentic trait than one you took responsibility for and created yourself?

A personality isn't a color. It's not some unchangeable constant that's equal to all others. It's more like a combination of different colors collected over a lifetime to produce it's own unique color. The colors being external influences, and if your become enlightened... Influences you put on yourself.

Colors are not equal either. Certain colors produce physical responses in peoples bodies like red, and black. This is why a person would go crazy with sensory overload if stuck in a bright red room, but be relaxed in a dark blue one.

So not all colors are created equal or can be used equally across all boards.

Sorry for ripping apart your statement, but there were so many holes in it I had to say something. This is for the OP so I have to be honest. So now that we've established every human is unique, wholly not their own creation, and unequal, we can answer the question being posed here and now.

I'm not the man to tell you how to be. I don't want to be just another external influence you sponge learn from. Instead I'll ask you to think about what you want to do with this expression you have to live with right here and now. You only live once, and how far do you want to take this. Great stuff requires a level of obsession that can be called brilliance or insanity, and you have to love every minute of your relentless pursuit. Like an Isaac Newton who (even with his personality faults) had a personality that was best to have for creating world changing scientific concepts that are fundamental for most sciences today.

If you just want some basic confidence to get a woman, then there you go. The best personality to have is just some basic confidence enough to get and keep a woman. Then have that and manifest it in your own unique way.

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Sensitivity. Sometimes we are too focused on ourselves, our belief, our daily routine, work, tv, wife, kids, money and etc.

You need it to improve and be your better self. Sometimes you cant see the little piece of trash on the floor or your mind is ignoring it.

Yes, I noticed this when I was talking to a bartender and asked her what she did in her free time. She told me she has uncurable chronic ulceritis and spends her time in hospitals.

Are you saying that I am the piece of trash? If so, that's fine.... but what did you mean by that?

Sensitivity is the death-note of seduction. You get a girl sleep with her and you want to move on to another girl even though she fell in love with you and hasn't done anything wrong to you. A sensitive man would be in a constantly sad and depressed state because he would either A - be too nice and not wanting to hurt her feelings so he ends up stuck in a relationship he doesn't want. or B - he suffers from being sensitive to the heartbreaks that he causes.

"I only love it when you touch me, not feel me." The Weeknd.

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