I went to a local bar. I was just going to drink water. I stopped drinking alcohol.

I sat there wearing my suit. Then, I decided that I don't want to wear the suit anymore, so I went home and changed into a polo shirt and khaki shorts. I sat there and this is a bar that I had been kicked out of a few weeks back for being drunk and apparently bothering customers and the last time I went there, the manager warned me that if I did that again, they wouldn't let me in there anymore. This time, there was no problems and the manager even asked me what I wanted to drink (water).

There were these two girls sitting and I asked them "do you work here? you look kind of familiar." They didn't. (I honestly didn't know if they were off-duty at work, they looked like they might be).

There was this table of about 5 people. One of them was a girl who worked there (off duty) who I had talked to before and showed her a book that I had wrote. I wish I knew how to go up and join there table. There was this stupid old guy who was probably drunk and I would venture to guess he wasn't any of their boyfriends. What should I do? Show them a magic trick like Mystery the magician? I honestly have no clue. I feel like I could have made some progress if I would have known how to join them.

One thing that stuck out to me was that I had to join a gym. I joined one a couple months ago, but haven't been going regularly.

I gave up the whole bragging about money thing, although I still do intend to make all those billions (that I don't have yet, despite how I may have come across in some of these threads.)

I feel like my personality was more friendly and less antisocial, which is always a good thing.

The whole time I was sitting there, I was like.... I WISH THERE WAS SOMEONE STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO ME WHO WOULD JUST TELL ME WHAT TO SAY!!!!!!

Then, after stopping the urge to bum a cigarette for about 45 minutes, I asked the guy next to me if I could bum one.... at that point, I know there's pretty much no point.... so I decided to go home and type this...

I'm actually going to go back out right now to different place that closes at two. And I venture to guess I will sit there and drink water and wonder what the fuck to say. I have read all the damn books in the world. I still don't know what to say.

Went out to another place tonight... pretty slow place, not crowded at all... not many more people than staff and people who knew the staff...

I noticed that going out just to socialize is the key. I also noticed that I had not crossed the "social hook point" with anyone for quite a while, but I feel like I did tonight with some of the guys that were there. I didn't come close to having any in depth conversation with any girl. I had a minor talk with one of the girls that worked there... asked if she was from Seattle (because she was talking about how she liked there sports teams)... then asked why she moved here.... told her I'm about to buy a mobile home park and about to have a book published.... and that I work one-two hours per week.... she said "that must be nice".... and I was sitting at a different table from her anyway.... I did not come close to getting anyone's number or hitting on anyone.... I did notice that is important not to be creepy or to be seen that way... which to me is kind of hard (lol)... but I think I can do it or at least work on it....

I also noticed that a lot of the girls already had kids, so what is really the point....

I also noticed that I should smile more.

I also one time went to 7-11 and the guys bathroom was closed, so I had to use the ladies room... and there was a big pile of shit in the toilet... .what's my point? (I don't know)....

I noticed that the small talk I make with guys should be the same small talk I make with girls. There should be no difference.

I also noticed that groups of people, even if they know each other.... many times talk about boring things.... I think I could learn to enter a group and make it more exciting...

And, no... I did not wear a suit.... I took that off...

And another thing.... I saw another post where it talked about approach anxiety.... it said three reasons....

1... the anxiety is for a reason, we all know that

2.... you have to remember what YOU have to offer... (and I'm wondering.... what is that? what should it be?)

3.... you should say what you really feel... .and what would that be? "Hi. You're hot."

LOL this is hilarious.

Please keep writing these reports.

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I'm not always as pathetic as I come across in these reports. I'm talking to two girls right now on text. For some reason, I do much better online than in person. I met one of these girls at a bar one night a few weeks ago and am now texting her and the other one, I met online.

AND, earlier today, I started talking to a girl online and we were going to meet in a hotel room, but it didn't end up working out.... don't ask why....

Lmao

I'm starting to think you're not a troll.

Fair play for going out trying to handle it. To me, you are just at the beginner stage. You want to learn all the theory and have the perfect thing to say at each variant of the interaction. This is too much info for the brain.

Next time you go out. Have a standard opener in mind to use. Stop with this small talk bollocks and stop talking about your trailer and having books published. That came across as braggy to me. (Unless she asks you)

Step 1) find some wings to do this with.
Step 2) find an opener (google something that suits you)
Step 3) go into the field AND USE THE GOD DAMN OPENER until you have have overkilled the opener and you pretty know what most girls reactions to it will be
Step 4) post your field report up. Then we can add some more steps to your game for the next stage.

No pressure. You're hoping to get laid on day 1. Baby step this shit. Worry about escalating and making phone numbers solid till you have handled your AA 1st. Approach anxiety should be your focus right now.

Your 1st goal is to blast AA and open smoothly. THATS IT. once you achieve that. You can go to sleep proud about the progress and start to think about the next sticking point to blast. You can achieve these micro goals per weekend. This is what I did and I was even more socially awkward than you when I 1st started this.

P.s. If you're a business man, I would use the suit since that is your identity.

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I'm back and forth on the suit. I've been going business casual lately.

I think I will just go to the mall and say "can I ask you a question? Do you think it's cheating if a girl makes out with another girl when she's drunk?".... or something like that.... maybe I'll pick a better one...

but yea... need to blast the AA....

but to be fair... I'm texting a virgin right now asking her about when she's going to lose it... so I do actually talk to girls... for some reason I am far more successful online and over text than I am in person....

I can "sext" like a madman.... I would do this and this and this and they tell me how wet they get....

Yea I should do the suit.... I read an article called "how to dress to get the 9s and 10s"... and they were in suits... has to be the right location, though....

I know! I'll go up to girls in the mall and say "Excuse me, do you know where the Lamborghini dealership is?" Haha! Just kidding. (see... sense of humor.... I need to get that across... display this wonderful personality of mine)....

Online is great.

But I feel you need some real life interactions to build your character. I would personally hold out on online game. Virgins especially are gonna be an issue for you.

Are you going to go infield and tackle your AA? This is more of a core problem.

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Yes, I'm going to the mall as soon as it opens. I'll approach 20 girls and if I don't, I'll give you $1000.

Also, I was talking to this hot model I met online and she was sending me naked pictures. SO HARD to keep my commitment to stop "feeling myself." I told her I would fly to California just to eat her pussy. Should I have said that? (I know this isn't for online stuff in this section)...

Are you sure she isn't a webcam girl?

I'm a bit sceptical that a hot girl would do that so easily. Be wary.

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No, it's real. I can tell the difference between a "Nigerian princess," a webcam girl and a real person.

Let us know when you don't fuck her

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LOL

She had a boyfriend anyway.