Hey guys, I am really feeling now lonely, depressed and disappointed!

My story goes that since I was 12 I am what you can call natural PUA, I have been flirting, dating, and having sex with many many girls that I became used to the fact that I should always have like 4-5 girls around me always, and we all know how it feels like when we cannot get enough, right? there is always a better fish to catch somewhere. I was lucky enough to travel to 56 countries so far, and I made an oath to myself that I will have a sex with girls in every country I go to (sounds silly right? but was fun).

I have came to this website by chance only couple of days ago and DAMN!! it makes sense. I can feel now why women reacted this way when I did that or did not do that!! but to be honest, I know that I need to learn more and there are lots of missing secrets I do not know about. In fact, being natural PUA is not hard, it just some traits like persistence and being funny, etc. that's from MHO

The problem now is that I have changed ALL my life by moving to a new country (and believe it or not, not from the 56 that I have been to before). I am being exposed to a brand new culture to me which I need to cope with and understand, guys, even the movies, singers, etc. haha it is embarrassing when I go to a bar and there is a live band and have no clue who the heck is the original singer don't get me wrong, it is beautiful country and they speak English but their accent is hard (for me) and their culture is still vague coz I am here only since 5 months.

I tried online dating websites, and I got some dates, but not the beautiful girls or models (that are abundant on these websites), they show no interest in me and instead I get interest from older women or FAT chicks guys!! this is shit! I hate fat chicks!

I reckon that the beautiful chicks are after someone from their own country? look similar to them? speak the same way? have the same sense of humor? etc.? that is my analysis so far. I went to bars, watching ppl, and I saw the girls flirting with guys! not the opposite! and no freakin girl approached me
(again except a short fat chick to be honest)

I want someone to guide me, be my mentor, teach me what is going wrong with me? I am very lonely now and feel very low! want help really! and I will be very grateful for him FOREVER.

Thanks guys.

You pose like a guy that has had his fair share of abundance in life, but the vibe I get off you is more or less the same I'd get from a 25yo virgin. Something feels off. You project way more neediness than a guy in your assumed position ever should.

Anyway, if this is the same vibe you spread around in real life then it's really no wonder why beautiful / quality women don't respond to you. You're feeling lonely, depressed and dissapointed because you're lacking females in your life? That can only lead to the conclusion that having a woman in your life is your main source of happiness. That should not ever be the case.

If even you don't love yourself how can you expect others to?

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Really thanks for your reply. It's true I feel happiness when there are women around me and without that feeling I feel something missing..the 25 yr old virgin feeling u got from me is due to I'm being frank with what I'm feeling now. I'm kind of person who is calm and taking things easy with women not kind of person who open his mouth when he see a hot chick lol U know, I'm used to have girls stay the night with me but now .... Only the girls I'm not really interested in are showing interest...

However, I always hide my neediness feeling as out of exp. i know the more I show interest in girl the less she will show interest in me... Still something I feel is wrong but have no clue what is it. When I'm with girls I'm fun joking cheeky bloke but here in the forum I'm expressing my inner feelings that's it

RC is spot on.

However, you might be able to attract depressed lonely girls which I don't recommend.

Become awesome introduces you to awesome girls. Otherwise they are repelled.

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So how to be awesome you reckon?

Do the things that make you truly happy

For me, I joined the community for the same reasons as you. I was lonely and depressed. Women were my only priority at the time.

I worked my butt off for a few years and really enjoyed meeting women. I had some serious low and high times. Was a roller coaster.

Dozens and dozens of girls later. I have now scratched that itch, I'm eating better, hitting the gym. Working on passive income and enjoying the process too. I actually seem to get more women now that I have took a step back from pickup and becoming an actual busy guy with a solid mission in life.

Health, Wealth, sex, traveling

That's ^ what I'm working on. This is my purpose. I truly think I'm awesome now. I know I will achieve all this. No doubt in my mind and I know a girl would be to lucky to find someone like that as opposed a dude stuck in the rat race ans watches football all day

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Yeah, that's because you're looking for validation from them. Your inner feelings depend on that.

There's nothing wrong with women adding to your happiness. Of-course they make us happy. The problem is when they're your main source of happiness. Like PEEBLE said, have a mission in life. Have a passion, do something you love. Hit the gym, eat well, sleep right.

The point is you need to be happy with your life as a single fucking awesome guy. A woman's role in a man's life is not to fill a hole, it's to share his happiness. You should be happy together with her, not happy because of her.

90% of guys fall in the second category and that's why they're miserable.
The other 10% understand women are simply a side-bonus. A great side-bonus to have, but still a side bonus that naturally comes to them as a result of who they are.

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90% of guys fall in the second category and that's why they're miserable.
The other 10% understand women are simply a side-bonus. A great side-bonus to have, but still a side bonus that naturally comes to them as a result of who they are.[/quote]
True words! better yourself!!! best thing to do, if you're happy doing things by yourself women will see that and see your worth.

Guys thanks a lot about your valuable advices, really appreciated.

Look, I am doing well in life in general.. have Master degree, go for a run every night, have good job, etc. But when you started advising me, I started to wonder, what are the root causes for all this? Why I feel lonely, depressed, etc.?

Maybe because I am in a new country for a new life by myself without family or friends etc? I do not know but what I know is that I cannot let such feelings overcome me

I reckon, firstly, I was wrong and you were right, I should not place high importance on girls and shagging etc.

Secondly, I reckon I have something goes wrong with my attitude when I meet or find a hot girl Vs. while with ones that I have no interest in. However, I have no clue what is it? any ideas guys?? I have inner willingness to beat this stupid feelings of bullshit and be AWESOME

Guys, you are amazing!! I followed your advice and started not searching for girls to be happy, and you are 100% right, girls are not the way to become happy, they share my happiness...thanks for this VALUABLE advice. There is old saying that goes like this "love the girl and she will ignore you, ignore the girl and she will love you!" I am learning daily new things from this forum, so please bear with me when I post new question have an AWESOME day guys

Glad to see it's working out for you. Don't forget to post your questions in the General Questions subforum, or wherever they seem appropriate.

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Good for you Mike, good to see you kinda understand what we mean, however, I would like to point out this quote:
This is where 'nice guys' try to change and become a bad boy douche and end up worse with women and even hate women.

So I wouldn't advise to ignore girls as a tactic but instead to lead a good life and you will naturally become busy for women and that is when the girl's will annoy and get needy to you.

Hope you see what I am saying here.

a bad boy purposely manipulates those feelings

An attractive guy gives her those feeling by accident

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